Does Any One .... Want Kids But Not Want To Be Married Or In A Long Term Relationship

[Diyhai]

I can never willingly want a life where my kids are going between households. The whole thought of "moms week/dads week" or having to keep up with half my children's lives via phone, man that is crazy to voluntarily sign up for that type of life. Ideally, children should grow up around two loving parents. I'm certain that goes a long way towards them building relationships as they become young adults themselves. Humans are naturally social creatures, and while we're not required to be social butterflies with strangers, I see no need to purposefully separate our family group.

Plus it's cheaper to support one household versus two.

the money is not a factor
it simply he wants kids but no longterm relationship
you can see your kids everyday and not live with them

 

[Fat Fred Jones]

the money is not a factor
it simply he wants kids but no longterm relationship
you can see your kids everyday and not live with them

I understand that parents could live in separate homes and both still see the children everyday. I also understand that some people consider it trivial to spend $15k - $30k+ annually on a separate household. My point is that it seems shortsighted to want that life. Surely you understand that making the effort to see kids everyday who live separately is not without some cost. Time, at a minimum, and certainly you can understand the financial opportunity-cost of dividing households.

 

[Diyhai]

I understand that parents could live in separate homes and both still see the children everyday. I also understand that some people consider it trivial to spend $15k - $30k+ annually on a separate household. My point is that it seems shortsighted to want that life. Surely you understand that making the effort to see kids everyday who live separately is not without some cost. Time, at a minimum, and certainly you can understand the financial opportunity-cost of dividing households.

why keep bringing up the money
his issue is the relationship, he wants to be free from a woman
feels drained by being stuck with one woman
the compromises, expectations, and restrictions of a relationship
money is not a factor at all

 

[Fat Fred Jones]

why keep bringing up the money
his issue is the relationship, he wants to be free from a woman
feels drained by being stuck with one woman
the compromises, expectations, and restrictions of a relationship
money is not a factor at all

OK, as for the money, it's almost as if he is paying for a piece of mind. I can certainly understand that. However if he doesn't want to deal with "the compromises, expectations, and restrictions" or to feel drained, why have a kid to begin with? Raising a kid can be stressful. There are going to be plenty of expectations and compromises. Has he considered a pet dog or cat instead? He can even volunteer for some mentorship program, but if he's already only half-in or three-quarters or whatever, he should reconsider this kid thing.

 

[TaxCollector13459]

Damn plan to raise your kids in a single parent home brehs.

better than paying for her alimony/CS while she with a new nikka living in a house you paying for.

the stories I got from the army.

 

[Ashley Banks]

If I could only choose one or the other? I'm picking parenthood.

But I just don't see how parenthood would be everything it could be without a woman to share that with. I just ... to me marriage/LTR should go hand in hand with parenthood.

As someone raised by a single parent, no matter how hard the present parent tried ... I always wondered why the absent parent wasn't there.

This. There are times when my son just wants his dad. Like I’ll be doing everything and his still cries then my husband will take him and he’s quiet. Couldn’t imagine having to drive to another house or hope he can come over to comfort him.

Of course sometimes relationships just don’t work out and that’s understandable but don’t go out of your way to put your child in that situation. smh

 

[Ashley Banks]

better than paying for her alimony/CS while she with a new nikka living in a house you paying for.

the stories I got from the army.

You gonna pay child support unless you work out a deal with the mom.

 

[kaldurahm]

I disagree, but I understand. I mean nagging alone, would make a brother not want to get married, but it's ideal situation for the kid.

 

[BrehWyatt]

Really Tim White? You just gonna let Undertaker deliver a BLATANT uppercut to Vader's jewels like that??

 

[Imyremeshaw]

As a single dad, i feel like i got the best life, full custody of my kid, and continue to fukk thots and get wild when i want,

It's somewhat the best of both life's( parent life + bachelor life) but raising a kid is tough, two parent life is the best regardless of the parents feelings......

 

[TaxCollector13459]

if you have a quality woman you dont have to worry about those things
he not gonna get a bum bytch pregnant
the point is he doesnt want a to be with one woman
he wants to be free to be with other women
so he doesnt have a problem with her getting married to someone else or taking care of the kids
just doesnt want to be tied to a relationship
he would even hire a nanny to take care of the kids while they were young

i agree, problem is people change, no matter how quality she or he is

 

[Ashley Banks]

As a single dad, i feel like i got the best life, full custody of my kid, and continue to fukk thots and get wild when i want,

It's somewhat the best of both life's( parent life + bachelor life) but raising a kid is tough, two parent life is the best regardless of the parents feelings......

When women do this they get called all types of names tho. When that mom was killed by that dude at the club people were shytting on her for going out on her birthday. Talking about why was she at a club when she had a kid. shyt I’m married and I can’t even post on the coli without getting harassed about where my kid is and he’ll be sleep or with my husband. I have to be actively parenting him at all times of the day.

 

[TaxCollector13459]

You gonna pay child support unless you work out a deal with the mom.

shyt, not if you hop on that ronaldo wave



all jokes aside though, I can see both sides both pros and cons

 

[Ashley Banks]

shyt, not if you hop on that ronaldo wave



all jokes aside though, I can see both sides both pros and cons

True

 

[Diyhai]

OK, as for the money, it's almost as if he is paying for a piece of mind. I can certainly understand that. However if he doesn't want to deal with "the compromises, expectations, and restrictions" or to feel drained, why have a kid to begin with? Raising a kid can be stressful. There are going to be plenty of expectations and compromises. Has he considered a pet dog or cat instead? He can even volunteer for some mentorship program, but if he's already only half-in or three-quarters or whatever, he should reconsider this kid thing.

Having a kid is a totally different stress and commitment not comparable to a relationship
The relationship you have to a wife or long term partner is not the same between a child
He wants a child from his seed not a random person