Does the Older Man/Younger Woman Relationship Actually Work?

[BrehWyatt]

It can work if the woman in question is late 20s to early 30s or so and is on a higher purpose at this stage of the game (i.e. the age gap is 38-30, 37-28, etc). Specifically because of what @Vodun said … women want a man that can teach/mentally stimulate them about shyt. With age typically comes knowledge gained from life experiences and whatever.

I'm 30, and the lowest I think I could seriously attempt to build with would be ages 24-25. A 23 year old would have to be all the way about some other shyt for me to seriously consider it. The half your age plus 7 deal is very much a rule I live by.

19-22? I'm cool on that.

 

[Marco Zen]

Idk


I think a lot of gold points have been made.. By both dudes and women in this thread..


I think the relationship can work.. Maybe..


I respect how some women feel like the ones in this thread.. Im (don't look it) and I meet young chicks that give me the number and be all into me until I text them my age then they go silent Lol...

I've also had steady "relationship" with young chicks (mid 20s) ..(mid 20s baddies actually) and yea they're could've been a number of reasons they fukk with me, but I ain't never "provided" for none of them hoes ... Maybe a bill every few months or a date every few weeks but they couldn't say they were using me for resources.. bytch please.. Plus we fukk(ed) a lot..


From a physical standpoint I'm in better shape than I was in my 20s. I say that meaning I workout better than I did then. I'm not sure if I fukk better. I'd like to think so but idk if that's just my ego talking. I can admit my dikk probably doesn't work like it used to meaning when I was 17 my dikk would at the sight of porn.. Now its like ehh ... But I don't need Viagra to fukk.. Plus I'm sober, I don't need a drink or a blunt to fukk either.. Things I had to have in my 20s...


20 something girls come thru to buss it on the regular so idk

 

[semicko82]

well what do yall think is going on? Yall really think an attractive young mid twenties woman is just dating a man 10-15 years older because he still "got it". These men are fully aware that they're being used for their resources, just like the women are aware that they're being used as a sex trophy. It's an even exchange. I know on the coli a lot of people are delusional enough to believe that younger women favor older men, and genuinely want them--nah that is not the case by a long shot. They getting them bills paid, and benefiting off that relationship and nah, from the friends I've had in these situations, the sex was not good, tolerable, but not good. Like I said, I could never do it.... And we would all lowkey talk about now stupid their bfs were(they did too), but hell, they wanted a younger woman that looked good, they knew the deal.

Yep this exactly, In these cases the “relationship” is stronger because they’re not delusional about what they want from each other

 

[semicko82]

Where the fukk do you live where nikkas @ 35 look old as shyt????



There's no way most dudes you see that age are so flabby and sick.

They must be drinking and are fat as hell because I refuse to believe that they are that way because they're 35.

So if he's in shape you'll let a man 35 and above hit 4 free??

Right, I’m 36 in the best shape of my life and I can pass for mid 20s plus black don’t crack till 50ish

 

[BlaqkSpliffin]

well what do yall think is going on? Yall really think an attractive young mid twenties woman is just dating a man 10-15 years older because he still "got it". These men are fully aware that they're being used for their resources, just like the women are aware that they're being used as a sex trophy. It's an even exchange. I know on the coli a lot of people are delusional enough to believe that younger women favor older men, and genuinely want them--nah that is not the case by a long shot. They getting them bills paid, and benefiting off that relationship and nah, from the friends I've had in these situations, the sex was not good, tolerable, but not good. Like I said, I could never do it.... And we would all lowkey talk about now stupid their bfs were(they did too), but hell, they wanted a younger woman that looked good, they knew the deal.

So raw


But true nevertheless


I've seen it first hand. Now there can be a genuine relationship and love between these two people but that usually comes with time and just settling into the relationship. At the outset both low-key know what it is. My sister has been with the same dude for like 12 years. She was in her early 20's when they met and he was in his thirties. My sister was also single mother who was running the streets at this time but was attractive so nikkas was always on her. Her dude is a short light skin nikka with freckles lol. He had bread tho. He took care of her and she became his girl. That's kinda how this shyt goes.

 

[murksiderock]

Ok... I dnt want to make this long but I have alot of personal insight on this...
I've dated older my entire life... like maybe in my mid 20's I was wide 30's and 40's...
That's always been my preference...
They know how to treat a man. And they have good calm energy. I've always been a calm person, so even since I was young. I've luvd that about them.
But After awhile I started to see the same issues...
Either they dont want more kids, cant have kids, been thru abusive relationships, cheaters, broke niggsz etc...
All those experiences stay with them and the scars the come with those are hard to heal....
And also, breaking thru all the relationship tendencies shes learned with other men is also an issue..
So I had an epiphany.... "I should date younger females "
Been doing that for like the last 3yrs
I usually stayed around the 22-26yr range...
I did have a few 18-20s
So what I learned... and this is the most important thing,... I was willing to put up with alil more bullshyt with younger females than I would with older. And they both have their bullshyt... just different type of bullshyt.
Younger females have a billion more options, which makes the game harder...
I would equate dealing with older women like the D league... (I know ppl will debate this) but these women are usually ready to settle. They know they dont have alot of options left (even tho they try to lie to themselves)
Younger females have the world at their fingertips... ur competing against a bigger field of dudes... younger guys and older guys with bread... trying to snatch this girl up early.
That's tough competition...
It's also difficult cause these younger chix are growing up in a world that's filling their head with a bunch of feminists bullshyt.
In conclusion...
It depends on what ur life is already like as a man on what u should go for... if u already have kids and are looking more for stability, and dont care about molding someone... u want someone already pre-packaged and ready to go...
Obviously, get u an older woman.
But if u care about experiencing things for the 1st time with someone, growing with each other, being able to mold someone to fit u specifically...
Fertile and keeps u filled with energy... and doesn't have a unhappy energy...
Go younger

I also consistently dated older (1-9 years) for the majority of my adult life. This wasn't a conscious decision to go younger, but I was a little soured on the older chicks when I met my current so maybe I trended that way...

Like I said though, if this relationship ends its a wrap for this, I'm probably staying within 3-4 years of my age...

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Every woman has options younger or older .Also age isn't a factor in maturity .A woman could be 50 and immature,on other hand woman can be 21 and mature.Now if you are starting a family younger is better obviously .

 

[TV]

Maybe, but I have yet to meet a man that looks significantly younger than his age. For some reason I meet hella woman like this, but rarely meet men like this. I'm not sure if it's the hairline issue, or just men not taking care of themselves the same way women take care of themselves.... But, unfortunately, I haven't met a man that looks as youthful and attractive at 35 as he did, a decade before. Trey songz and celebrities have the money to keep up with their appearance, and they better look good for their age, they have the money and resources to continue looking good. It's no surprise. But I'm talking about the average overworked american male, that is in his mid thirties and older. Again, this is all subjective. I'm giving you my personal experiences.

I should send you a couple of pictures.

 

[Reece]

That’s the point.

Only dating for feelings is down right silly if you’re trying to build something as opposed to holding hands and kicking cans. Women in their early twenties are in their physical primes and men in their late 30’s are in their primes for what they’re supposed to bring to the table e.g. resources and knowledge to give.

Exactly. If I got a chick pregnant at 18 I’d be contemplating suicide...at 30 I’d be I’d go get that crib from IKEA, that college fund started and some baby book manuals. These chicks want a nikka with bread, experience, stability and maturity but they don’t want the nikkas who have that. Female logic right there in a nutshell.

 

[mag357]

The bolded is not talked about enough on here. A lot of Coli men be on that, "just go get you a younger woman" advice, and they really got these older brehs deluded about how "easy" and "simple" it is, when the reality is that if this younger woman grew up on instagram and is attractive, you better know she is exploring all of her options, and that older men will have to bring their A game, or they'll get played and used. A lot of these older men are the very ones simping in a lot of cases, because they know the younger women that they want, are wanted by everyone else too. But we'll leave that one alone. Now if man is okay with an average/basic looking twenty something woman, it's a different story, he probably won't have a difficult time. But if a man is seeking a young and ATTRACTIVE woman to settle down with, locking her down, and having her genuinely riding with him for him? Happens, but not as often. A lot of these older/younger couples, where the woman is attractive, usually is a man with a lot of resources simping on her. (like Joe and Cyn).

One question for you though... You said you dated older. Now your dating younger. Why not just date your age? That seems like that's the best of both worlds, based on everything you just described. The older women have too much baggage and your less likely to put up with their shyt. The younger women are immature, do a a lot of bullshyt, and are tougher to lock down. My guess? The ones your age, are the ones you need breh.

Lol... that is a question that I probly shoulda talked about 1st since... it's the most obvious..
I'm 37 now... so I started doing this at 33.
I like dealing with women who dont have kids or kids are old enough to be out the house or close to that... when I dealt with older, that was usually the case.
When I turned to the younger ones I valued the fact that if I wifed 1... we could experience having a child for the 1st time together... that's like super important to me now for some reason... having milestones and 1st time memories with someone.
b4 I started dating younger... women my age with no kids... are the worse possible ppl u could date. They either the super career, tryna be boss bytch types... or partying, got 2 or 3 dikks on call in their phone... and they come with the older women baggage/scars too...
And if they have kids... their kids are probly young.
Now, I'm pretty much totally invested in either making something with a younger female... or not dealing with anyone at all seriously.
I like the latter more... I've never really been a relationship type dude anyway

 

[mag357]

Maybe, but I have yet to meet a man that looks significantly younger than his age. For some reason I meet hella woman like this, but rarely meet men like this. I'm not sure if it's the hairline issue, or just men not taking care of themselves the same way women take care of themselves.... But, unfortunately, I haven't met a man that looks as youthful and attractive at 35 as he did, a decade before. Trey songz and celebrities have the money to keep up with their appearance, and they better look good for their age, they have the money and resources to continue looking good. It's no surprise. But I'm talking about the average overworked american male, that is in his mid thirties and older. Again, this is all subjective. I'm giving you my personal experiences.

See u talk some good, real shyt...
But u gotta see things from another perspective....
It ain't really about looks when it comes to women, right? Its means alot but it ain't as big of deal as it is for men...
U could have the coolest energy in the world but if u an ugly fat bytch...nikka ain't gonna be checking for u.
Like u said, a older bro is an older bro...
my hairline ain't exactly in the same position as it was back in my better days...
But for every millimeter my line-up went back lmao...
My confidence and swagger went up 1000%
And I think women, at all ages digg confidence damn near more than they do looks.
Now I would usually call bullshyt on a theory like that, but this gets proven everyday by me ..
I'm a 37yrs old.. could probably pass for late 20s...
Ppl are obviously surprised at my real age.
But I work around a bunch of young dudes.. actually mid 20s...
And they all know if a new young girl come to the job who she is going to wanna talk to...
I believe that women really just luv a real man...
This is what my young girls tell me... even tho I know my "Real man confidence, grown man money, and hairline issues" is competing a against "young man looks, swag, energy" and them having certain things in common...
At the end of the day, I like competing on this level... hopefully that doesn't sound cocky... cause I know my flaws..
But me just settling down with a 37-45yr old single mother, was something that when I thought about it....didnt sit right with me

 

[semicko82]

Women can be illogical. They want someone more wise and mature, more worldly and traveled, more rich and successful but they don’t want someone that’s older than them.

This women don’t know what they want

 

[SPACE IS FAKE]

How old are y’all?

@BlackPearl The Empress @CarmelBarbie

 

[86\*/98]

Exactly. If I got a chick pregnant at 18 I’d be contemplating suicide...at 30 I’d be I’d go get that crib, that college fund started and some baby book manuals. These chicks want a nikka with bread, experience, stability and maturity but they don’t want the nikkas who have that. Female logic right there in a nutshell.

Not all but that is the mindset of most western females, my breh. Go east. Or hit up these mom and pop shops from different cultures and get at their daughters. I know that sounds crazy but their daughters stay with and work for them well into their twenties. You have to be ready to court them frfr and right in front of the parents, it’s worth it though.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

I think it's workable, just depends. Dudes bring up 30yr old women like they are mentally and financially stable, but I'm reading otherwise. 30 year old women out in clubs, kids with no father around, etc. It's a lot of older ain't shyt women just like a lot of ain't shyt young women.

Most good women are snatched up at a young age from what dudes say, so yeah there's nothing wrong with being with a young woman.