I got some female friends (few married couples) who dabble in the lifestyle and from what they’ve shown me, in that community, sistas will talk down to guys who have certain phrases or abbreviations for sexual themes on profiles and label them as some of the names mentioned in this thread. I’m talking bout Erykah Badu, incense burning, chakra type sistas. Then you see them out and about at social events or on that communities specific sites and they be getting treated all sorts of ways by white and other non black dudes. shyt is hilarious to observe as an outsider.