the standard is the quality of life the children will experience
feelings & opinions are not a worthwhile standard
whatever community/culture of men is giving their children the best chance to win in life is going to get priority in terms of women choosing
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Power is created by groups. It has always been a group effort. White women helped white men gain power and control. Same for a lot of Asian women helping Asian men.
Even Asian women dating/marrying white men will still help Asian men gain more power and control (check Mitch McConnell's wife, Elaine Chow).