Downstairs neighbor left a note..

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

If you live in an apartment not walking hard, jumping or running around is common courtesy if someone lives below you.

 

[Umoja]

OP..

Are you going to oblige?

Your neighbor was respectful somewhat, but I personally felt he or she could have omitted the mindful word...

One of many reasons why I love living in a home!

"Mindful" is a way of softening requests. I don't see much to it.

Letter was handled more maturely than I have handled things. I played tic for tac and then lost my rag when they had the audacity to question me.

Unlike them, I was making noise during the day. They were banging and walls and running up and down the stairs at 3 in the morning.

 

[Orbital-Fetus]

i had to stop and think about it after reading this thread.
i have lived in many apartments but never under anyone.
i was always on the top floor. my grandma had an apt in
the South Bronx that was pre-war built. she had neighbors
above, below and to one side, never heard shyt except when
her downstairs neighbor would bang on the heat pipe to let
my grandma know she wanted to talk to her from the window.

you could probably tank shell a building like that a dozen times
and not take it down.

 

[NoMorePie]

Lowkey. I live in a 3 story condominium and I always hear foot steps pounding at night.

The weird thing is, I'm hearing it from the floor below me. I live on the third floor


One time in the middle of the day my mom yelled at me for stomping around while she was trying to get a quick nap, I told her I'm literally just sitting here on the couch

 

[Bumblebreh]

I smoke til 3am and walk around the crib when I need something...my Roomba cleans up at 1-2am everyday ..I wish a bytch would

 

[HTXBreh]

Thanks for your take, remedial ass eunuch of nikka, I treat people with respect until they give me a reason not to, then I handle them accordingly.

Eunuch... but you talking about toxic people.Thats p*ssy shyt but you already passive p*ssy.

 

[Orbital-Fetus]

Last time I lived under someone in an apartment, I had a noise issue. I dont think I ever left a note though because I was scared of who lived in the apartment.

It was a couple, and not even one week after they had moved in, I could hear them fighting. After one got done beating on the other (you could hear the screaming and crying), 30 minutes or so later, you would hear the mattress squeaking and the loud moaning. I was perplexed.

This went on for months; they truly seemed crazy to me, always fighting then fukking. Sometimes I'd hear the one crying while the abuser walked around singing gospel very loudly; he was very heavy-footed and his voice would echo all over the apartment.

One day they came out of the apartment, and I saw it was actually two men...who I thought had been a woman screaming all that time was really a man - very petite and cute. The other man was quite large and slovenly. I looked at him and was wondering why these two were a couple in the first place. Lookswise, they didn't seem equally yoked at all, but I digress.

One day, I saw the smaller one land past my patio railing. He had jumped off the second floor patio upstairs to get away from his boyfriend. Early morning, afternoon or nighttime, they didn't care - they kept the antics going.

There was no way in hell I was going to confront these folks, and even if I did, I would not have known what to say. I figured, if the big one would regularly swing on his own boyfriend/ lover, there is no telling what he would do to a woman he didn't know.

you should talk to lil' man.
he sounds like he needs a friend.

 

[Voice of Reason]

Some clowns do love to stomp around like they have bricks attached to their feet

 

[Clapsteel O'Neal]

That passive aggressive shyt right there

Tbh i think she was going out of her way to be like esp because of how many smiley faces she put, but that's the problem with text...it's flat, so tone and nuance is lost and it can ultimately be read a manner of different ways

 

[tuckgod]

Spoiler

 

[Commish]

"Mindful" is a way of softening requests. I don't see much to it.

Letter was handled more maturely than I have handled things. I played tic for tac and then lost my rag when they had the audacity to question me.

Unlike them, I was making noise during the day. They were banging and walls and running up and down the stairs at 3 in the morning.

I get it, but still..

Personally, I would work with the neighbor, but no need to say "please be mindful.."

Comes off as a soft lecture or scolding like what a teacher says to a young student who was misbehaving...

 

[RARI_Godwind]

Oh I ain’t steppin baby


But I’m a big steppa

 

[Umoja]

I get it, but still..

Personally, I would work with the neighbor, but no need to say "please be mindful.."

Comes off as a soft lecture or scolding like what a teacher says to a young student who was misbehaving...

I mean, it is a soft lecture. I think that I why I was saying it was handled more maturely than I have handled things.

When people are being rude and inconsiderate, my tendency is to match their down and the handle the resulting conflict.

Not in the business of offering up reminders and relying on their sense of decency.

 

[Dr. Acula]

That was actually a pretty respectful letter and it seems they are trying their best not to be disrespectful. A lot of qualifying words that seem to project respectfulness.

What I would do is talk to her, and explain you're not trying to purposely do it and like she said the floors may be thin. You'll try to make an effort to minimize it early morning and late at night but can't promise anything.

I know this is thecoli so I'm support to say "fukk that bytch" but I figured i'd be real with my response lol.

 

[Dameon Farrow]

I would jump rope, do squat jumps and all that shyt. Fukk that neighbor.

disrespectful stuff like this is why it is pointless to actually confront people. You know you live in an apartment. You know you are surrounded by other people. Nobody should have to hold your hand and tell you to be respectful.

Having a house is certainly better. But my philosophy is this. If you don't care I don't care either. If you continue making noises or disturbing neighbors in general I will put shyt in place to get you kicked out or at least have the landlord get sick of hearing about you. You have to care. But if you don't we can take it there. I'm not about to get into a fist fight with you over something neither of us even own. So I'll let the owners deal with your ass. If the landlord won't do anything I'll go over his or her head.

Be respectful or be gone. I personally don't play that sit and take it crap.

Too many folks in here making excuses for garbage behavior. Says alot. The neighbor was cordial and it seems OP spoke with her and they came to an understanding. Wish it worked like that all the time.