Emotional Abandonment in A Relationship

[Diondon]

I know you ain't a pimp, but pimp remember what I taught ya:
Keep your heart, Three Stacks, keep your heart
Hey keep your heart, Three Stacks, keep your heart
Man these girls is smart, Three Stacks, these girls is smart
Play your part...play your part."

 

[How Sway?]

They looked like a great couple. Went to HS and college together. Finished college together. Both had great jobs. All of us are military brats. Both are pretty square.

They seemed compatible in a lot of ways.

To me it seems like she's trying to relive out her post college years except SINGLE this time.

dang.
Now I'm no relationship expert but After reading this though, she probably wants to try something(or someone) new.

 

[KravenMorehead™]

 

[Ironman]

Thread depressing as shytbut true things were said that reminded me of my last relationship

 

[SheWantTheD]

Do they have any children? How old is your friend? If no children and he's pretty young then I would charge her to the game. Partying? Crushing on coworkers? Is that what wives are doing in Harlem nowadays? She is clearly not ready to be a wife for her to go back to the partying lifestyle. And best believe she had foreign dikk in her mouth and vagina

How old is she? Seems like he cuffed a young chick that still wants to be free, party, do whatever she wants etc. Can you expound on why you think she mentally checked out of the relationship? That would help. Often times it's because people outgrow each other, have different dreams, goals, things they are putting their energy towards etc.

 

[SheWantTheD]

2 of my last relationships ended like that. Lack of affection was a sign, chicks gradually gave less hugs or kisses when they came up to greet me .Women tend to get bored after they been in the relationship for a longtime. I think my issue was, I wasnt mysterious enough, spent too much time with them & I wasnt a challenge. I learnt a lesson from that.

Relationships in 2016 are so disposable. Once you have heard all their stories, all their jokes from ya S/O and sex aint as exciting anymore, things get mundane. Thats when people usually start looking for other people for that new excitment of getting to know someone new

Motherfukkas ouchea make relationships especially women.. the focal point of their lives. If you are always striving to be better, greater, grow, improve etc your life isn't going to be mundane, boring, etc. Seeking excitement, that thrill, energy rush from new relationships, fukk buddies, flings etc lasts just so long and it is an extremely weak foundation for committed relationships.

I think celebrity relationships exposes this more then anything else. Celebrities literally dating for a couple weeks or like two months before they end things. Things became mundane, boring, the thrill, energy rush, excitement dwindled etc...

 

[SheWantTheD]

Reading all these posts in here raises an important question.. why is it a man's job to entertain a woman?

It really seems like these women get bored because the man stopped entertaining them

 

[ndthentherewasx]

When I was going through my court bullshyt I was shyt, felt like it, attitude was fukked, mind was in a dark place trying to prepare for the worst. All that took a toll on my ex wife and she started "talking" to dudes from fb thru the Kik app. I had no clue.

Court shyt worked out, barely, so gradually i started returning to who I was but I took notice of how old girl was always on the phone, distracted like there with me, but not really. Never paid mind because I'm arrogant as fukk, but one day I played Devils advocate and went through her phone while she was asleep and found messages to these different dudes, one in particular.

Blew up at her ass, smacked her around a bit and then left. The shyt hurt, humbled my ass.

I'm over it now, have been good since June. All this shyt happened back in February.

Thankful for all music out there. That shyt along with some self reflection built my ass back up and now my story goes on.

Even am friends with the bytch.

Backstory, was 15 years deep with her since I was 17

 

[SheWantTheD]

Yeah, some people are gifted with bright beautiful smiles. At some point, others gotta stop trying. lol

I actually notice people fake smiling in photos.. I rarely see people smiling in photos where their eyes are squinted.. more so forced smiles just for a photo.

 

[SheWantTheD]

When I was going through my court bullshyt I was shyt, felt like it, attitude was fukked, mind was in a dark place trying to prepare for the worst. All that took a toll on my ex wife and she started "talking" to dudes from fb thru the Kik app. I had no clue.

Court shyt worked out, barely, so gradually i started returning to who I was but I took notice of how old girl was always on the phone, distracted like there with me, but not really. Never paid mind because I'm arrogant as fukk, but one day I played Devils advocate and went through her phone while she was asleep and found messages to these different dudes, one in particular.

Blew up at her ass, smacked her around a bit and then left. The shyt hurt, humbled my ass.

I'm over it now, have been good since June. All this shyt happened back in February.

Thankful for all music out there. That shyt along with some self reflection built my ass back up and now my story goes on.

Even am friends with the bytch.

Backstory, was 15 years deep with her since I was 17

She either just wanted to cheat or she's weak. Only weak people go off and cheat, seek attention whether that be physically, emotionally, etc if it isn't being met in their current relationships. Try and work it out, communicate, understand things are happening, and if it comes to it then leave. But cheating and all that is cowardice and the easy way out.

 

[Marc Spector]

Do they have any children? How old is your friend? If no children and he's pretty young then I would charge her to the game. Partying? Crushing on coworkers? Is that what wives are doing in Harlem nowadays? She is clearly not ready to be a wife for her to go back to the partying lifestyle. And best believe she had foreign dikk in her mouth and vagina

How old is she? Seems like he cuffed a young chick that still wants to be free, party, do whatever she wants etc. Can you expound on why you think she mentally checked out of the relationship? That would help. Often times it's because people outgrow each other, have different dreams, goals, things they are putting their energy towards etc.

They have no children. And we're all 28.

why i think she checked out? Well i think its a mix of his wife hanging around divorced/ single/"free minded" chicks and probably my boy getting comfortable.

He said for awhile he didn't notice she had mentally checked out because their nightly routine (come home, eat, watch tv/netflix/him gaming/her on phone) was the same. But he noticed something was wrong when the conversation and intimacy started to dead. Simple, one word answers, no effort starting conversations...that sorta thing.

When she finally dropped the bomb on him, her words were "i love you but not in love....living like roommates not lovers" that sort of thing.

The spark was gone in her eyes way i figure. But the issue is that she didn't even try to help him save it.

 

[ndthentherewasx]

She either just wanted to cheat or she's weak. Only weak people go off and cheat, seek attention whether that be physically, emotionally, etc if it isn't being met in their current relationships. Try and work it out, communicate, understand things are happening, and if it comes to it then leave. But cheating and all that is cowardice and the easy way out.

I'm a go with weak and selfish. Woman had the nerve to spazz out when I brought up divorce papers.

 

[Cynical Thoughts]

@Jays face

 

[Rice'N Beckford]

Yep, women all are wired the same exact way. No matter how "chill" she is thing change eventually. Once they figure out you're becoming predictable or you're no longer in that honeymoon stage best believe she's one lunch date with a male coworker away from breaking up with you mentally.

This is why Im so noncaring, nonchalant and unfiltered with these joints even when I get into a relationship. I know that 1 thing will set a bytch off into some crazy mental state that I just dont care to even watch what I say.

Women are only content in their relationships when they're partner is scared to say whats on his mind .

nowadays, these broads out here on this "free spirit" shyt until they realize their looks have gone and that they cant have the same mindset of a 22 yr old at 29.

 

[3rdWorld]