Entering...the Friend Zone

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Spotlessmind said:
She is lucky he didn't take advangtage and should appreciate his honesty. Truth hurts :yeshrug: but so what? Some people can move from that and create real friendships. If she can't deal with that, she should move around. I have seen women try to change a guys mind and get hurt even more. Men do it too try to make someone see them the way they don't instead of KIM. That's how people get used.

If one person can get over their feelings male or female 9 times out of 10 a friendship can't work.
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I agree. He could have easily just led her on to have sex or get whatever he could out of the situation. I think that shows good character, and from what she was saying, he actually has hit her up to hang out and kick it. So maybe he just didn't want to be in a relationship but he thinks she's a cool person. I don't see the problem with it. Just don't be sensitive about it IMO. Obviously if you are, then of course it won't work.
 
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The good thing is since you and her are ladies you can more easily get support by men to help your confidence come back from the rejection.

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Ok that came off too mean. :dead:

Sorry to hear that.
 
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tater said:
How is it salvaging a friendship out of a failed relationship if there was never a relationship?
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Thats the thing, when it comes to those sorts of situations, your eventual hope is for a relationship of a romantic nature.

Basically, everything is some sort of relationship: a friendship is a platonic relationship. Friendship is predicated on the purity of intentions, whereby both parties
are open and honest with each other and there are no other motives. A great many friendships where unrequited attraction takes place are damaged, whether it
shatters or cracks. If I want a friendship with a woman, I stay in that lane. If I wanted more, settling for friendship is cutting off my nose to spite my face, as I don't
necessarily care to see the object of my affections eventually show affection to someone else. Most people feel this way. If the friendship was that sacred to me, I wouldn't
have tried to escalate to a relationship in the first place. You only take chances when you believe there is potential to get the best of both worlds, knowing full well what usually
happens to relationships and friendships if the romance fails.

Basically, I take any sign of a woman enjoying my company as a signal that someone else will enjoy it in a friendly and romantic manner, so there is no need to put up pretense
of being content with being romantically rejected. If more people applied this, friendzones would not sting. You would simply cut contact and move on. Everything, at a base level, is
a relationship of some sort.
 
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AquaCityBoy said:
But feminists told me the friend zone doesn't exist and it's only a term used by creepy dudes who think being nice entitles them to p*ssy. :lupe:
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I fukking hate this logic. If we are romantic, of course I eventually expect to get the goodies, but the fact is a man's heart is in it so being put in the "friend zone" hurts.
Chicks just boil it down to men wanting to fukk, when in actuality, it is vastly more easy to get p*ssy than it is to get a woman who makes you feel "different" than other women
make you feel.

Women who use that argument play themselves, cause a lot of times, the very men they end up with probably wanted the p*ssy, got the p*ssy, then decided the whole package was
worth sticking around for.
 
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It could be game or he could be a good guy. As long as she doesn't try to do relationship things to prove something or make him change his mind, it should be cool. Time will tell what it really is and she could miss out.

I can understand people being sensitive about it. It is rejection but it's not something you can't get over. Some people can deal with that better than others. My friend was friendzoned recently, she lied to herself about what she could handle. It turned out really bad...
 
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Spotlessmind said:
It could be game or he could be a good guy. As long as she doesn't try to do relationship things to prove something or make him change his mind, it should be cool. Time will tell what it really is and she could miss out.

I can understand people being sensitive about it. It is rejection but it's not something you can't get over. Some people can deal with that better than others. My friend was friendzoned recently, she lied to herself about what she could handle. It turned out really bad...
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Right. I feel like as long as she doesn't make the relationship a sexual one, and keeps talking to other guys then she'll be fine. I think really the only issue comes from people keeping the seed of hope alive that it may turn into something. Maybe it will, but don't hold your breath. I think women get themselves in trouble all the time trying to change a man's mind when he already told them what it was. I take things at face value. If you tell me you don't want to be in a romantic relationship, that's what it is.

For the most part, I seek out mutual attraction. If you're not attracted to me or don't want me, I'll eventually lose that attraction to you (mentally of course). So in that case it works out fine for me. I don't know how she'll deal though. She's kind of sensitive.
 
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