Where can I go and learn to "start" meditating
I need to basics, I really want to start doing this.
there's an overwhelming amount of stuff so my recommendation is to read the book Mindsight by siegel
if you dont have the time i'll tell you what i did and how i learned
originally i was not able to even go 30 seconds without thoughts taking over so I tried a different route of meditation
what I did was I pictured an object (like an orange) and I focused on every single detail of the orange. That way when a thought came in or a worry I had something I can "revert" back to quick and was able to push the thought away by focusing back on the orange
I did this for a few weeks until I got used to the feeling of pushing away my thoughts and seeing myself as the OBSERVER of my thoughts. Not the THINKER (this is important)
after I saw myself as the Observer or overseer, I stopped focusing on the orange (because studies have shown that this form of focused meditation is effective, but not as effective as the zen, no thoughts form)
I focused on nothing, just darkness and my diaphragm breathing. I kinda feel like a central hub with my breathing the center and when a thought comes I push it away quick.
I do this everyday for 15mins and I swear it improves my mood for the rest of the day.
Now lets say Im worried about something like a job interview or a result, I still worry like normal people but Im able to treat it like meditation, I push the worry away and go back to nothingness.
I still got a long way to go though, but I hope this helps