Exactly what's wrong with a long engagement (5-10 years)
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onelastdeath
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I could ask the same of the female. What does it matter when we get married? You don't see yourself with me for 10 years? 10 years with me without a ring is a waste of time?
Mirin4rmfar
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5-10 years?
I think 5 years is fair. Marriage is an investment where men can get financially ruined. It would be wise to make her wait.
Diondon
Thanks to the lawyers uh, I marbled the foyer
onelastdeath
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Why does it matter that the engagement is 5-10 yearsThen someone has to submit
We gone married at 50 either way right?
I think it's women think that they might be "wasting" their best years. What's more important me or "got married" being checked of your bucket list?
No
why should she see herself with you for 10 years without full commitment if marriage is what she wants? It is a waste of time for you both. You are on 2 different pages. If she doesn't want to get married that's fine.If you wouldn't marry them right then when they say yes then don't ask. If you need 10 years to see then you aren't ready.
onelastdeath
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An engagement ring is a comittment.No
If you wouldn't marry them right then when they say yes then don't ask. If you need 10 years to see then you aren't ready.
And how's that? 10 years is too long to decide whether or not you want to spend THE REST OF YOUR life with someone? Really?
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It doesn't take that long to do something you want to do.
Diondon
Thanks to the lawyers uh, I marbled the foyer
Don't be so cruel
onelastdeath
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It takes 10-15 years to become a doctor.
It takes 2 years to decide what college you want to go to.
10 years is too long to decide if you want to open yourself up to financial rape and spend the rest of your life with one person? Really?
Silkk
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How about just not proposing then
The engagement part makes it seem like somebody is being strung alone. If both individuals are truly happy with the situation then 
You just said without a ring.
An engagement is an agreement or arrangement to do something at a set time.
You should decide that before you ask. The engagement is not to figure that out. That is what dating is for. The engagement is you have decided and are ready to set the date.