F!!K low self-esteem

[Straw Hat Luffy]

I'm a start right off by saying I've been a victim of low self-esteem.

I have this weird theory that the black man in America has been programmed to have low self-esteem. I feel we've been programmed to believe that we can't succeed or even attempt to do something in life some times because we have this mindset of "it's because I'm black" or "man there are a lot of white people."

Of course we have been set for failure in history, but I believe the mindset of that has been forced upon us as a crutch to prevent the black community from being the best that we can be.

I talked to my grandpa last weekend. He told me countless stories of all the fun and eventful shyt he did at my age. At first I thought he was doing the ducktales but my grandma and a few of his friends there confirmed all this shyt. I asked him how did he make his life that fukking fun? His response was basically all of his older brothers and sistsers were to shy to do anything so he felt like had to have the self-esteem of all them plus some to be absolute best person he can be. And at the age of 68 my grandpa still walking and talking with the attitude of a 20 something year old always talking shyt, healthy, and feeling like hes cool as hell, which I love that about him.

And ever since then thinking about that my mindset has been changed.
-I went from I hope this doesn't happen to a I wish a mother fukker would
-I'm probably the best in my classes at what I do
- Why not go to these places or participate in these events?
- Yeah she's pretty but how does that make her better than you to not even try with her and if she curves you it's an L on her part
-Those people over there not better than you!


I know its some silly shyt I'm talking about. But I have suffered from low-self esteem and I know there are some coli brothers who deal with this as well. Just know your self-esteem starts with YOU brothers! Change that mindset of can't to can. You should feel like you are the best in the room.

Trust me having a great mindset about yourself changes life 180 degrees.

 

[Dad]

Breh, this ain’t “silly” at all and I commend you for being vulnerable. Low self esteem is real and I’ve seen plenty of brothas waste their talent because they can’t turn down those negative thoughts - they’ve lived so long with them that they start to believe those thoughts and hinder their own growth.

Good luck to you, breh. And im glad that you were self aware enough to realize that this is something that you needed to give attention to and work on .

Anyone that needs a good pick me up, these are some great articles that helped me see the “light”.

Self-Esteem vs. Self-Respect

What It Really Means to Love Yourself

 

[Iceson Beckford]

Glad to hear you’re on the right path breh

I’ve had/have my issues with this and have decided to make sure I have good posture, a positive mindframe, assert myself and focus on my goals.

Writing out your key principles helps guide you too.

 

[AAKing23]

Great post breh

I've struggled heavily with self-esteem issues all my life too. It's a battle I fight everyday, its just hard when no matter you do or what people tell you, you just feel like you ain't shyt sometimes.

And like you said, the system is really designed to make black men feel this way. When you're in a society that treats you like how they treat us, you start to subconsciously feel that way.

 

[montsora]

Does havin Luffy Avatar /name make u feel anymore confident?

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

Breh, this ain’t “silly” at all and I commend you for being vulnerable. Low self esteem is real and I’ve seen plenty of brothas waste their talent because they can’t turn down those negative thoughts - they’ve lived so long with them that they start to believe those thoughts and hinder their own growth.

Good luck to you, breh. And im glad that you were self aware enough to realize that this is something that you needed to give attention to and work on .

Anyone that needs a good pick me up, these are some great articles that helped me see the “light”.

Self-Esteem vs. Self-Respect

What It Really Means to Love Yourself

Thanks for the articles breh.


It's just my family and friends have always treated me better than I viewed myself. I felt like I was doing a disservice to them not being the best I can be. And then I thought about it- like oh shyt I'm doing a disservice to myself more than anybody else.

I know the coli posters trolls sometimes but there are a lot of dope people here. I wonder many people here are dope on the computer but don't apply that same confidence in reality due to fear or lack of self-esteem.

I want the best for all of us. But it truly starts with the individual.

 

[Henri Christophe]

I have this weird theory that the black man in America has been programmed to have low self-esteem. I feel we've been programmed to believe that we can't succeed or even attempt to do something in life some times because we have this mindset of "it's because I'm black" or "man there are a lot of white people."

Youre supposed to look at yourself like a king bro...... Its alot of jewish media out here that will break your spirit or lead you in the wrong direction.... fukk all that shyt.


Were black men.

Place us side by side with anybody and we will come out the superior man every time.... We werent meant to be in last place... We were placed here to run shyt.... Not these old middle aged frail cacs.....


The black man was not meant to bow down or be inferior or be a worker to the white man or any man..... This whole thing is a mind fukk.... Place us side by side and everyone else is inferior to us.

We were meant to be the king of the jungle..... Somewhere along the journey... We lost our way and ended up in last place.

But my self esteem is extremely high... Nobody can break.

I'm a human being... The most intelligent species.

I'm a man, so I naturally want to conquer and dominate.

And I'm black.... Physically I'm the most superior man.

I'm a king.... And youre supposed to feel the same bro

 

[AAKing23]

Thanks for the articles breh.


It's just my family and friends have always treated me better than I viewed myself. I felt like I was doing a disservice to them not being the best I can be. And then I thought about it- like oh shyt I'm doing a disservice to myself more than anybody else.

I know the coli posters trolls sometimes but there are a lot of dope people here. I wonder many people here are dope on the computer but don't apply that same confidence in reality due to fear or lack of self-esteem.

I want the best for all of us. But it truly starts with the individual.

This exactly breh

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

Youre supposed to look at yourself like a king bro...... Its alot of jewish media out here that will break your spirit or lead you in the wrong direction.... fukk all that shyt.


Were black men.

Place us side by side with anybody and we will come out the superior man every time.... We werent meant to be in last place... We were placed here to run shyt.... Not these old middle aged frail cacs.....


The black man was not meant to bow down or be inferior or be a worker to the white man or any man..... This whole thing is a mind fukk.... Place us side by side and everyone else is inferior to us.

We were meant to be the king of the jungle..... Somewhere along the journey... We lost our way and ended up in last place.

But my self esteem is extremely high... Nobody can break.

I'm a human being... The most intelligent species.

I'm a man, so I naturally want to conquer and dominate.

And I'm black.... Physically I'm the most superior man.

I'm a king.... And youre supposed to feel the same bro

Thanks for the advice brother. I'm trying to grow!

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

A big reason why people have low self esteem is because they listen to negativity and compare themselves to others too much.

People need to focus on themselves and put in work. Putting in work, seeing positive results, and making progress is the most important thing that changed my perspective. Men need to stop listening to women that have nothing to offer outside of their vagina or dudes that talk down on others just to boost their ego.

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

A big reason why people have low self esteem is because they listen to negativity and compare themselves to others too much.

People need to focus on themselves and put in work. Putting in work, seeing positive results, and making progress is the most important thing that changed my perspective. Men need to stop listening to women that have nothing to offer outside of their vagina or dudes that talk down on others just to boost their ego.

True, more great advice.

I've compared myself a lot to others.

 

[JayStarwind]

Appreciate the advice. I have it so bad sometimes to where I don't want to leave the house. Its nerve wracking. I've did what @Solo999 said and stopped watching other people's moves and it helps a lot. You can't walk in someone else's shoes.

 

[King Poetic]

#1 thing to realize to help you with it

Is know u first..

Too many brothers especially get caught up with what females want and then try to change themselves to fit what females like..

If your personality isn't a thug or gangster or banging then don't try to do it....if u into poetry, art, etc then stay in your lane..

I might be older than u. So don't let these women fool u by the act u see in public( THE BRAVE I CAN BE BY MYSELF ATTITUDE)..because behind closed doors their self esteem is real low...that's why many of them jump from dikk to dikk cause they looking for daddy in they life...

#2....trust nobody, cause nobody cares

I learned the hard way...people I used to party with hung around at all the club's in L.A. and I used to give them money for drinks and other shyt, all disappeared on me when I lose my job..fukk my mind up that nikkas and bytches couldn't even let me borrow $20...

I cut all ties and focus on work and doing OT and clearing stress by working out..today I have no friends except 2 who both move to different countries....but I'm happy cause I don't have no baby mama drama or nikkas asking for money..I'm just doing me

 

[Pazzy]

Good thread. The crazy part now that I think about it is that it all starts very young. We aren't taught how to love ourselves or that we are worthy. That is damaging in a society that is out to get us or constantly saying that we aren't good enough. Put that along with other issues and we are carrying a lot of weight on our shoulders as it. It's really hard. Society hates mentally strong black men that aren't willing to lie down and go along with the bullshyt. Thats the first place they attack-the mind. Once they are able to control your mind, they have you right where they want you.

 

[kenreid0726eabos]

I'm a start right off by saying I've been a victim of low self-esteem.

I have this weird theory that the black man in America has been programmed to have low self-esteem. I feel we've been programmed to believe that we can't succeed or even attempt to do something in life some times because we have this mindset of "it's because I'm black" or "man there are a lot of white people."

Of course we have been set for failure in history, but I believe the mindset of that has been forced upon us as a crutch to prevent the black community from being the best that we can be.

I talked to my grandpa last weekend. He told me countless stories of all the fun and eventful shyt he did at my age. At first I thought he was doing the ducktales but my grandma and a few of his friends there confirmed all this shyt. I asked him how did he make his life that fukking fun? His response was basically all of his older brothers and sistsers were to shy to do anything so he felt like had to have the self-esteem of all them plus some to be absolute best person he can be. And at the age of 68 my grandpa still walking and talking with the attitude of a 20 something year old always talking shyt, healthy, and feeling like hes cool as hell, which I love that about him.

And ever since then thinking about that my mindset has been changed.
-I went from I hope this doesn't happen to a I wish a mother fukker would
-I'm probably the best in my classes at what I do
- Why not go to these places or participate in these events?
- Yeah she's pretty but how does that make her better than you to not even try with her and if she curves you it's an L on her part
-Those people over there not better than you!


I know its some silly shyt I'm talking about. But I have suffered from low-self esteem and I know there are some coli brothers who deal with this as well. Just know your self-esteem starts with YOU brothers! Change that mindset of can't to can. You should feel like you are the best in the room.

Trust me having a great mindset about yourself changes life 180 degrees.

I can relate similarly with you op in Life

I have self esteem issues and low self confidence issues in my life

Sadly Life is Hard and Sadly Life is not fair

And life is weird