F!!K low self-esteem

[Clay Puppington]

A big reason why people have low self esteem is because they listen to negativity and compare themselves to others too much.

People need to focus on themselves and put in work. Putting in work, seeing positive results, and making progress is the most important thing that changed my perspective. Men need to stop listening to women that have nothing to offer outside of their vagina or dudes that talk down on others just to boost their ego.

Big facts. Comparison is the theft of joy.

Just today I was thinking about one of my friends who is in a really great job that I'd love to have. But check this; my mans was shytted on his whole life and his father lost his job a couple years ago. The drive he has probably resulted from HIS OWN LIFE. Doesn't make sense to compare my life to his at all.

 

[Turk]

 

[YaFingerDealMe]

Don't it feel good to put stuff into the universe and have it come back

 

[Redwood]

Good thread breh

Western society is rigged to the point where nikkas (believe they) can't win

 

[Prynce]

I needed this thread. I struggle with this too.

 

[Catch these Hands]

One way to look at it OP is All these niccas you're comparing yourself to, if you take away all their materialistic and superficial shyt. They have absolutely zero character. Nothing left to themself. The niccas that is confident and has bytches all over him. Take away the bytches and the confidence. What does he have left? My point is a lot of niccas have no REAL value, what you see on the surface is them. That's it. Ask yourself who you believe you are, if it's negative ask yourself why. if its positive ask yourself why. Once you understand who you are the rest of the superficial shyt becomes less of a big deal. Even if you don't have the fast whip, bad bytches, the rolex etc. It won't matter because you'll know your real value. You won't be worried about impressing niccas or bytches because you know your worth and you aren't relying on another person to validate it. Even now you have a lot more character than a lot of niccas on here that portay themselves to be pussi slaying money getters.

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

Appreciate the advice. I have it so bad sometimes to where I don't want to leave the house. Its nerve wracking. I've did what @Solo999 said and stopped watching other people's moves and it helps a lot. You can't walk in someone else's shoes.

Leave the house bro.

I'm sort of an introvert but trust me going out is where you really live life. There is nothing wrong with chillen at the crib tho but when you spend your entire life not leaving it's just like what the fukk because you only have one.

And I don't mean you have to go to the club every weekend or some shyt.

Last night I hung out with my future roommates current roommate and his people. The thing is it was that situation where your cool with someone but are only cool with them because they are close friends with your close friend. My friend was outta town but he said lets hang so I said sure. I didn't know how it would go down since we never hung out alone nor did I know his crew but shyt was fun af and I'll remember the night the rest of my life most likely.

Old me with low self esteem would have been like they don't really want to hang out with me or I'm different from everyone else cause sometimes I get quiet but current me said fukk that.

Get out more brother.

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

#1 thing to realize to help you with it

Is know u first..

Too many brothers especially get caught up with what females want and then try to change themselves to fit what females like..

If your personality isn't a thug or gangster or banging then don't try to do it....if u into poetry, art, etc then stay in your lane..

I might be older than u. So don't let these women fool u by the act u see in public( THE BRAVE I CAN BE BY MYSELF ATTITUDE)..because behind closed doors their self esteem is real low...that's why many of them jump from dikk to dikk cause they looking for daddy in they life...

#2....trust nobody, cause nobody cares

I learned the hard way...people I used to party with hung around at all the club's in L.A. and I used to give them money for drinks and other shyt, all disappeared on me when I lose my job..fukk my mind up that nikkas and bytches couldn't even let me borrow $20...

I cut all ties and focus on work and doing OT and clearing stress by working out..today I have no friends except 2 who both move to different countries....but I'm happy cause I don't have no baby mama drama or nikkas asking for money..I'm just doing me

Yeah its silly to not be you. I learned that years ago. The thing is with the low self esteem you think
"oh i'm me but will the ladies accept who I am will they think its cool?"

in reality fukk with they think. There are millions of females on earth where most of them not going to fukk with you regardless. Pay attention to the ones who do but at the same time if you don't want her don't just get with the girl just because she likes you. That's another part of low self-esteem, dudes seem to think if a girl likes him then he has to smash because he has no other options. When in reality you don't have to like you the same ways girls haven't liked us at times. We all have the right to do that but men with big egos and low-self esteem take it personally.


And number 2 can be looked at in a positive way. When nobody truly cares you're free in my opinion.
Be who you truly are and certain people will gravitate towards you.

 

[JayStarwind]

Leave the house bro.

I'm sort of an introvert but trust me going out is where you really live life. There is nothing wrong with chillen at the crib tho but when you spend your entire life not leaving it's just like what the fukk because you only have one.

And I don't mean you have to go to the club every weekend or some shyt.

Last night I hung out with my future roommates current roommate and his people. The thing is it was that situation where your cool with someone but are only cool with them because they are close friends with your close friend. My friend was outta town but he said lets hang so I said sure. I didn't know how it would go down since we never hung out alone nor did I know his crew but shyt was fun af and I'll remember the night the rest of my life most likely.

Old me with low self esteem would have been like they don't really want to hang out with me or I'm different from everyone else cause sometimes I get quiet but current me said fukk that.

Get out more brother.

Thanks man. Definitely something that I've been working on. I'll have spurts where I'll say to myself "Go out and have fun" but my body/spirit won't allow me. My social life is non-existent and has been for some time, so the casual going out isn't something that I can just do. My relationship with my father is starting to grow so I'm going to start hanging out with him more. That will be a start.

Then again, I have some anxiety issues and like you I'm an introvert.

 

[audemarzz]

I will read through this when I sober up

 

[N*E*R*D]

I'm just now getting to this point myself. I've always kept my feelings to myself about everything. Losing my father this week woke me right up. I just hate that I am the way I am, but the power of habit is hard to overcome. I've pushed so many good women away man it's heart breaking. I'm going to try to live life the best way I can from here on out. Life is way too fukking short.

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

Thanks man. Definitely something that I've been working on. I'll have spurts where I'll say to myself "Go out and have fun" but my body/spirit won't allow me. My social life is non-existent and has been for some time, so the casual going out isn't something that I can just do. My relationship with my father is starting to grow so I'm going to start hanging out with him more. That will be a start.

Then again, I have some anxiety issues and like you I'm an introvert.

You got a shytty diet?

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

I'm just now getting to this point myself. I've always kept my feelings to myself about everything. Losing my father this week woke me right up. I just hate that I am the way I am, but the power of habit is hard to overcome. I've pushed so many good women away man it's heart breaking. I'm going to try to live life the best way I can from here on out. Life is way too fukking short.

we always say nobody is perfect so we can't get mad when we aren't perfect.

 

[JayStarwind]

You got a shytty diet?

How'd you know?

EDIT: Its not the worst. I just don't work out.

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

How'd you know?

You sound like me when I had a shyt diet.