Family members coming into town unannounced

[Soundbwoy]

My female cousin just sent me and my sister a plane ticket showing that she’s was landing in town tonight and there’s no return date on it
She’s in her 40’s but very immature, she’s the type that will wake up and ask you what’s for breakfast
She’s unemployed, educated she was just traveling around she was in India Europe and Kenya and now Montreal

 

[Malik1time]

I’m Haitian and I can’t count how many times I had family members who did that

 

[Jasonmask]

Leave while you still have a chance

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

My condolences breh

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Hire someone to answer your door when they come. "Who is @Soundbwoy? We just moved here about a week ago "

 

[Soundbwoy]

I’m Haitian and I can’t count how many times I had family members who did that

Im Haitian it might be our thing, I had another cousin from NY who used to drive up here unannounced with whoever he was smashing at the time

 

[Soundbwoy]

Hire someone to answer your door when they come. "Who is @Soundbwoy? We just moved here about a week ago "

She’s staying at my sisters place

 

[Dr. Acula]

Maybe because I never had a huge extended family or maybe I'm just a very direct person in personal relationships but my girl on the other hand has a big family and the stuff she tolerates without saying shyt out of fear of hurting feelings is mind boggling to me.

Stuff like this is where my thinking would be once I receive that text, is to just straight up say it's unfair to me to expect to host you without advance notice and that this is rude as hell. Don't ever do this again. If they get offended or mad they can suck my balls. I brought up my girl because she tells me about these type of situations with her family and I tell her to basically respond like I said above and she acts like it's such a horrible thing to do.

Is this shyt common in big extended families and is it really agonizing for you guys to handle it?

 

[Soundbwoy]

Maybe because I never had a huge extended family or maybe I'm just a very direct person in personal relationships but my girl on the other hand has a big family and the stuff she tolerates without saying shyt out of fear of hurting feelings is mind boggling to me.

Stuff like this is where my thinking would be once I receive that text, is to just straight up say it's unfair to me to expect to host you without advance notice and that this is rude as hell. Don't ever do this again. If they get offended or mad they can suck my balls. I brought up my girl because she tells me about these type of situations with her family and I tell her to basically respond like I said above and she acts like it's such a horrible thing to do.

Is this shyt common in big extended families and is it really agonizing for you guys to handle it?

We are a thigh family, her mother raised me in Haiti, when I go to Miami it’s an insult if I don’t stay in their house but then again none of us go there unannounced

 

[Big Brown Areola]

Pics of your cousin or it didn't happen.

 

[NoMoreWhiteWoman2020]

I prefer to pop up unannounced to see how folks really living. I’ll tell people if there are specific events but most the time I’ll come to a city, check in with the old heads, and then put a batsignal up for the younger kinfolks to visit me before I go. If I see you I see if I don’t I don’t

 

[Big Blue]

Im Haitian it might be our thing, I had another cousin from NY who used to drive up here unannounced with whoever he was smashing at the time

I'm Haitian and shyt is wild. People will fly up from Haiti, and drive up to the crib unannounced.

 

[mr.africa]

it's the unannounced part that fukking pisses me off
the last time though i was going out of town for the weekend just as my cousin and her boyfriend arrived.
i had the '50 cent in the car ' look deep down though.
could not really show how good it felt to drive away as they stood there, otherwise my mother would've heard about it and i'd be toast.

 

[get these nets]

Saw the thread title before I saw who the OP was and thought...that's some Haitian shyt.

Cultural flaw of Ayisyen.....no regard for family member's space, time,schedule.

I peeped this as a teenager, and I NEVER accepted gifts,money,etc from relatives..even when I was home on break and broke. Nobody can say that I owe them....or they did this for me..or any of that shyt.

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Here's a story that shows you how deeply ingrained this bullshyt is. We lived in a 3 family house once, on the second floor. the second doorbell out of 3.All the families were Haitian

One day, the doorbell rings and I stick my head out of the front window.."Can I help you?"

Entire Haitian family outside....arrived unannounced to the FIRST floor family's house....they weren't there.

Now, you might confuse the top and bottom bells....thinking maybe 123 is 321..so ringing the 3rd floor bell might make sense, but not the second floor bell

But it's a Haitian house, so somehow they think it's a good idea to ring 2nd AND 3rd floor bells.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

We are a thigh family, her mother raised me in Haiti, when I go to Miami it’s an insult if I don’t stay in their house but then again none of us go there unannounced

They are using tightness as an excuse for fukk shyt

When I go to NYC I don't stay with family. @ sleeping in a LI basement. We visit for a meal and AirBnB in the city And it's fine People get over "insults"