Father gives baby mother $600 for his son. She spends it on all 3 of her kids instead

[MECCA1000]

Regardless of who gives or what they give, the mom is going to look out for all her kids.

The father should have sent the extra money through child support so it's documented. That's pretty much the best he can do.

 

[You Win Perfect]

why do people invest so much attention and energy to random stories of people they have no connections with

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

The woman has to be sooooo OBVIOUSLY fukked up for that to happen. I spent a lot of time in Family Court (working).

In those situations women start off with a huge benefit of the doubt, that the man is typically (emphasis on typically) not afforded.

When it comes to full custody doesn’t each party have to prove the other is unfit?

I don’t think women just get it unless the father agrees without contesting?

 

[mobbinfms]

I mentioned this as well that the mother is usually the primary caregiver..so the fathers would have to prove otherwise and let’s be real, that belief is the truth for the most part, lol. The outliers are the ones some guys like to focus on.


Are there statistics on how often fathers actually fight for custody? In what I posted earlier, most fathers don’t try to get custody?

I’m not aware of any statistics. Even if there were, I’m not sure how much credence you could give them. People take positions in custody/divorce battles they don’t actually want. I.e. a man will argue he wants primary custody in order to get the woman to give on something he truly does want.

 

[The Fade]

Why the fukk are you nutting in a chick with two priors and none of the other dads in they life

 

[SadimirPutin]

I understand why the dad would be displeased

I also understand why the mother is doing what she did...

I would be having a word with her about making sure it is clearly understood that my child with her is receiving what I expect them to receive. As in I dont ever want to hear that they didnt get something that was explicitly needed.

For instance school supplies, uniform, etc.

Her taking the funds to keep food in the house, utilities and other sundries I dont care about. I would also be having a conversation about why the other fathers arent holding up their end of the bargain while I do my duty

 

[AAKing23]

Its the man's fault its always gonna be his fault


And if its a black man its most def his fault



Case closed

/thread

 

[Big Boss]

If the man buys his kid some new jordans, do he have to buy the other kids jordans too???

 

[Ghost Utmost]

And here we are acting like this is normal..

It has become normal. True indeed

But this is a backwards ass way of life. The whole baby mama baby daddy scene is a Bizarro world.

The level of confusion that is generated by this way of life is off the charts

There's no good way to even do what was described in the OP. Because the whole shyt is wrong

 

[Hungerpain]

Image being a sucker.

 

[Afrodroid]

Pretty sure a similar story was posted here some time ago

 

[STAN JONES]

Fellas,if you have a child with a female that has other kids by other men NEVER HAND HER ANY MONEY

if your child needs school clothes & supplies just buy them and drop them off

simple

 

[BmoreGorilla]

Do you live in the US? Honest question, because that is not how it works at all. There are plenty of real life support groups for men out there that have tried to get custody of their children. Even filing for joint custody is a mountain to climb and requires a man to spend thousands of dollars on lawyers to do so. I know plenty of men that are traumatized from dealing with the system in trying to get more than just weekend custody of their children.

I know you don't know what you are talking about because the child support office doesn't even deal with custody. If there is a disagreement between the parents the child support office will apply the standard visitation agreement and the father has to get a lawyer and go to family court. Where he will have to prove why the mother is UNFIT to have primary custody of the child. The mother has to either be unfit, or unwilling to take care of the child for the father to win, the only men that normally win these cases are the ones that are really rich, their are anecdotes out there of really sensible judges but it ain't the norm. I've had had lawyers I've been willing to pay 10-20k for tell me there is no point in them taking my money because its a losing case unless I can prove the mother is on drugs or abusive. Most men just have to stick it out until the child becomes old enough where the court will take their opinion on where they want to stay into consideration and its still not a guarantee the judge will side with the dad.

It really doesn’t work like that. It only goes to a judge if the parents can’t work it out in mediation. Even if it does go to a judge the judge determine that it’s in the best interest of the child to either split the time or one get primary custody. So one of the parents has to pretty much not be shyt if they can’t get joint custody. Every parent has the right to see their child just as much as the other

 

[Lucky_Lefty]

Disgusting To even think about it. I would fight for joint custody at that point, and have a worldwide campaign fighting for mençs rights

they honestly should Combine CS with custody but that’s too much like right and these broads would be in an uproar plus the system would lose out on ways to earn dollars

 

[STAN JONES]

Lies.. most men don’t want custody..

Stop making excuses.

Hate when people make broad statements like this

You don’t know most men or their situation