My point still stands. You have a guy in this very thread who said how easy it was to get joint custody with his ex-wife.
Let’s think about why that is?
It’s funny how you want sympathy for those two situations you brought up without explaining why the situations are occurring.
When my parents divorced, there was no custody battle. In fact, and I’ve said this plenty of times, my dad put himself on child support. Even when my mother had other children, he didn’t care, he helped them as well because if my mom was struggling than we all were struggling. He made sure his children were always taken care of even if that including taking care of children that weren’t his.
I bet most of these situations where the dad is fighting so hard is with a woman that he either wasn't married to her and/or she was the primary caregiver to the child.
I don’t need to stfu just because of the bad decisions those men are making.