Father gives baby mother $600 for his son. She spends it on all 3 of her kids instead
- Thread starter BrothaZay
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ya this is stupid
This. And the amount of support paid will always be less than the amount spent if that father was a daily parent.
The Fukin Prophecy
RIP Champ
This ain't true at all...Getting custody involves more than just money..
Let’s be real... in most relationships, the women takes on the role as the primary parent in the child’s life.. A lot of men just give financial support and certain times where they spend it with their children which is why when the relationship ends, the women continues to be the primary parent while the man continues to provide the financial support. That’s why women typically get custody because they are the main parent in their children’s lives.. whether they have a job or not, so the children are usually put with the parent that is their primary caretaker unless there’s other circumstances that makes that a bad idea...
If both parents want custody of the children then each has to prove that the child would be better taken care of for all their wants and needs with a particular parent.
Most men aren’t fighting for that..
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The only way a man getting custody in states like NY and Cali is if he can prove the baby mamma is a crackhead that sells p*ssy for a living...Doesn't matter if she's dead broke and a got 7 other kids, as long as she doesn't have a drug problem, she gets custody...That's why men in these states don't bother, you're just wasting more money and time taking the bytch to court...
Anyways if that $600 wasn't child support, this dude fukked up giving her that money...Any man in this situation should never give a baby mamma a penny over what the court mandates for child support...Anything extra you want to give, give it to your child...
trillanova
The Truth
she's a mom....she did what a mom is supposed to do.
Simple...next time buy the shyt your kid needs...give the rest to the mom
....also if she is in that bad a situation, you should petition for primary custody...
But that's another convo and buddy prolly dont want the responsibility
....also if she is in that bad a situation, you should petition for primary custody...
But that's another convo and buddy prolly dont want the responsibility
Was the money the father gave in addition to child support? If so then unfortunately he set himself up for this. However, I’m on the side of the father.
I understand why the mother would spend the money on her other children if times are hard, but she shouldn’t expect a man to look after children that are not his, especially without knowing he’s doing it.
This is obviously something that has been going on for a while with no end in sight, so In my opinion if the father is not happy with the way the money is being spent, then he should file for primary physical custody. If that is not an option he should go to court and get an official child support award, and buy his child the things the child needs with his own money.
Green Ranger
I Am Legend
My dad had to pay child support and that money which toward the light bill, paying the rent
At least she is using the money on the kids I thought this was going to be the usual story she is using the money to get hair & nails done and shyt
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I know dudes who tried to get custody, I didn't work out for them. The burden of proof is significantly greater with men tha it is with women in court. If you cant afford a good lawyer and the mother isnt known trash then good luck.
I've spoken on my brothers situation a few times on here, he was required to pay nearly 1k in child support a month so he was working extra hours to pay bills and shyt. When he was fighting for custody, working extra hours fukked him, they said he worked too much to properly take care of the kids even tho he only worked so many hours is because he was forced to pay for his kids not being with him.
He has a 3 bedroom house and makes more while the mother had to move back in with her parents, it didnt matter because the general consensus is that the children should be with the mother unless she cant take care of them.
It did not matter that their mother didn't even have her own place to stay and had been recently fired from her job. The only fact that mattered in the courts eyes was that my brother worked alot.
My post clearly said if there is a disagreement, which means it wasn't worked out in mediation, it goes to family court. The child support office/judge has no say on visitation, they can only apply the standard visitation order unless the parents agree to deviate from it.
You also need to understand your situation is/was different likely because you were married. It doesn't work that way for those unmarried and I know plenty of divorced father's with the same issue. I don't know what state you are in but in the majority of them the family court/judge puts the onus on the father and his attorney to prove why they should have joint/full custody. It ain't just granted because the father ask for it or even if he can prove his situation is better. You should consider yourself lucky because 99% of the time it don't work out the way it did for you. And I'm a part of plenty of support groups for single fathers that shows this is true. I'm also part of political groups pushing for reform regarding child support and visitation. Alot of us have the same stories, I know more than a few than have spent more than 50k in their efforts to do so. So please stop with this bullshyt that men don't want to be full time fathers like there isn't plenty of us trying to do exactly that. How about you join the efforts in pushing for change instead of sticking your nose up because you got lucky.
The black community Y'all
Yes,
it's a spin on that old "a father gave his BM $400 to by his son a game console for Christmas, instead she used the money to buy all her kids gifts" post.
BmoreGorilla
Veteran
Yea you said disagreement which doesn’t necessarily mean they attempted mediation thru the court. A disagreement could be just that: a disagreement. If you had mentioned mediation we wouldn’t be here right now. At the same time I know there’s fathers who get dealt a bad hand when it comes to this shyt. I’ve seen it. But I also have seen fathers just cry about child support and barely spend any time with the kids. Bottom line it’s in the best interest of the child for both parents to be there equally but a father needs to know he needs to get the ball rolling right away and not wait. I’m talking about those who aren’t married