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He does very well for himself, so it wasn’t the financial aspect at all. I could see where neo is coming from when he said that if they were all flying together, it would make sense to buy the tickets at one time
Okay, the tickets. She didn't just buy tickets, and it hasn't been insinuated that he's paying her back any portion. There's too many financial apps to say they gotta wait for him to get her back. An ex paying for a 5 day trip (somber situation or not) can still be alarming.
 
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I told my sister that. I think that when you get caught up in your emotions and anger is the worst time to handle a situation. In this instance, they are not friends, it’s his ex-wife, so I think that makes it a little different, but she said that she was fine with the situation. It was his behavior upon arrival that changed.

it wasn't just the ex-wife but also their kids so that makes sense that they would all be at the funeral and he would pay for his kids (and their mom because that would just be weird if he was like "i'll pay for my kids hotel and transportation, but you find your own way".... that doesn't even make sense because the kids can drive or stay by themselves!). plus you pointed out that he called her on 3 instances and picked up the phone when she called so i don't see any weird behavior tbh. if you can't be there, don't be trying to put tabs on someone who is in a stressful situation. it's not about her

but its probably for the best that they broke up cuz it probably wasn't going to last long for the lack of respect. my best friend's chick yelled at him when his mom died because i was the one who inherited most of her plants. i told him then "who tf yells at someone who mama just died.... good luck with that bro"... sure enough, they are very much so in a bad space currently :francis: but now kids are involved :huhldup:
 
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To be perfectly FAIR....

She might have reacted "wrong", but homeboy pulled some wild shyt and he is FAR from innocent..

Women know patterns INSTINCTIVELY...

He was acting "off" which USUALLY means he isn't being 100% truthful to her about the EXACT details of the situation...

If he would have give her 30 minutes of convo, we not discussing this...

His behavior tipped her off and the alarms sounded...

Whether he was in mourning or not, that ain't got nothing to do with knocking something down cuz nikkas gonna do that regardless..

If you gonna play the game, you gotta live with whatever consequences come your way
This man gets it.
 

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I’m always dumbfounded when insecure women don’t do the smart stuff upfront to avoid being extra super insecure and crazy on the back end! :mindblown:

She could have avoided feeling and acting this way by insisting she went with him and I know she has a job but she still could have worked that part out so I think she probably just really didn’t want to go which was probably a mistake if you know a man has a good track record of cheating AND he’s going to be spending 5 days in close proximity with the woman he loved and was intimate with before you.

She’s making herself look crazy to do this while his sister has just passed but I find womens intuition to be a very real thing and he probably is smashing the ex while he is there. The ex probably wants him back and/or he wants her back. Tell your sis to stay single if she can’t handle things in a more adult manner than this.
 
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Okay, the tickets. She didn't just buy tickets, and it hasn't been insinuated that he's paying her back any portion. There's too many financial apps to say they gotta wait for him to get her back. An ex paying for a 5 day trip (somber situation or not) can still be alarming.



I'll allow for this.

So now I have another question for @Passionate1! . What is the ex wife's situation? What was the situation of their breakup? You said she cheated, but can you provide more details? And has she been single since they broke up?
 

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I’m always dumbfounded when insecure women don’t do the smart stuff upfront to avoid being extra super insecure and crazy on the back end! :mindblown:

She could have avoided feeling and acting this way by insisting she went with him and I know she has a job but she still could have worked that part out so I think she probably just really didn’t want to go which was probably a mistake if you know a man has a good track record of cheating AND he’s going to be spending 5 days in close proximity with the woman he loved and was intimate with before you.

She’s making herself look crazy to do this while his sister has just passed but I find womens intuition to be a very real thing and he probably is smashing the ex while he is there. The ex probably wants him back and/or he wants her back. Tell your sus to stay single if she can’t handle things in a more adult manner than this.
Again, she was not invited. She couldn’t interject in something that she wasn’t invited to. How do y’all keep on missing that part?
 

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I'll allow for this.

So now I have another question for @Passionate1! . What is the ex wife's situation? What was the situation of their breakup? You said she cheated, but can you provide more details? And has she been single since they broke up?
She’s in a relationship herself. The break up was very, very messy because she cheated on him the whole marriage. Her relationship is more recent though.
 

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it wasn't just the ex-wife but also their kids so that makes sense that they would all be at the funeral and he would pay for his kids (and their mom because that would just be weird if he was like "i'll pay for my kids hotel and transportation, but you find your own way".... that doesn't even make sense because the kids can drive or stay by themselves!). plus you pointed out that he called her on 3 instances and picked up the phone when she called so i don't see any weird behavior tbh. if you can't be there, don't be trying to put tabs on someone who is in a stressful situation. it's not about her
No, she didn’t call him at all. She told him that she would respect his time of mourning to spend with his family. He was calling her. He called her once, and said he was going to the store, but was on some hush-hush shyt like he called her just because he’s able to talk. Then he called her the next day, and she told him she would call him back in five minutes, when she did, he was on some hush-hush shyt again, and said he couldn’t talk. When she texted him, he wasn’t responding.
 

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I agree with all of this. It is the main reason why I don’t date men with young kids myself.

Right! My attitude is regardless of whoever I date, said person will always have choices. Either she gonna keep it solid and do right by me or not! She could have kids nor not. Makes no difference.

Being in relationships require emotional maturity & stability, patience, trust, respect, etc. If I can't trust someone, then I can't date them! Point blank period!
 
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No, she didn’t call him at all. .... and she told him she would call him back in five minutes, when she did

yes she did call him as you just clarified. it's a petty point but my point was he called her and picked up when she called and that shows courtesy if he really couldnt even talk at all!

the fact is that she was invited..... so it's no secret at all!
 

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Again, she was not invited. She couldn’t interject in something that she wasn’t invited to. How do y’all keep on missing that part?

That ain’t what you said on page one….

She had to work so she couldn’t go to the funeral because they would be down there for five days. She knows the family, yes, she doesn’t know that they’re doing anything, she saying that his behavior was suspect with the way he was rushing to get off the phone and not answering text messages. I agree that she doesn’t know that he’s cheating so you can’t definitively say that. My other sister feels differently, which is why I posted this here because I know that if I would’ve put it on a site like lipstick alley, they would automatically assume the man is cheating.

You said she had to work not that she wasn’t invited, so which is it.. :beli:

Actually let’s stick with the not invited thing, was she just not invited or specifically told she couldn’t go? Even if she’s not invited women are good at making sure they are going where it’s important to go… but if she was told not to go now that’s a cause for alarm. I’d want to know why she couldn’t go.
 

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That ain’t what you said on page one….



You said she had to work not that she wasn’t invited, so which is it.. :beli:

Actually let’s stick with the not invited thing, was she just not invited or specifically told she couldn’t go? Even if she’s not invited women are good at making sure they are going where it’s important to go… but if she was told not to go now that’s a cause for alarm. I’d want to know why she couldn’t go.
She was specifically not invited. I asked her why she said that she had to work and she said that she didn’t want me to judge her for her not being invited. I think she felt stupid which I can understand.
 

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my best friend's chick yelled at him when his mom died because i was the one who inherited most of her plants. i told him then "who tf yells at someone who mama just died.... good luck with that bro"... sure enough, they are very much so in a bad space currently :francis: but now kids are involved :huhldup:
and you’re the enzyme to their current state of affairs. no doubt in every argument he brings up that
“you screamed on me when my mama passed:pacspit:

you’re….the enzyme:wow:
 
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