Fellas, I need your perspective…

[Studious one]

That ain’t what you said on page one….



You said she had to work not that she wasn’t invited, so which is it..

Actually let’s stick with the not invited thing, was she just not invited or specifically told she couldn’t go? Even if she’s not invited women are good at making sure they are going where it’s important to go… but if she was told not to go now that’s a cause for alarm. I’d want to know why she couldn’t go.

I would think it’s because the ex-wife was going to be there and he didn’t want any tension. I don’t know. To me it’s a whole cluster fukk of shyt and I knew that it was going to be a cluster fukk of shyt and no good was going to come out of it. I didn’t say anything though because it wasn’t my place.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

and you’re the enzyme to their current state of affairs. no doubt in every argument he brings up that “you screamed on me when my mama passed” you’re….the enzyme

lol, my friend doesn't even sound as bytchmade as the quote you came up with but go off

 

[Studious one]

Same here. And i have dealt with a variation of this situation and I know how insane a jealous and irrational woman can be, which is where my responses are coming from.

So no smoke for the guy? The guy did nothing wrong in the situation? You don’t think he could’ve handled the situation better to keep peace with his lady? I mean if I was in the same situation, I would be like no thanks, because I don’t need that conflict.

 

[DreadBrown]

How would she have handled it bro?

She woulda said she was fine with it, acted passive aggressive to me all week then bring it up in an argument 3 months from now



I have to give her credit tho she’s doing the work to handle things better

 

[YaThreadFloppedB!]

lol, my friend doesn't even sound as bytchmade as the quote you came up with but go off

Spoiler

 

[moorfeus]

Sounds like your sister is inconsiderate and emotional.
Out of human decency she should have just informed him she was moving on after the funeral. Period.
Chances are he was sleeping with his ex. But still, his sister died.

Maybe they weren't sleeping together. He could have been spending quality time with his family. Maybe he did not want your sister to hear him having a good time with his ex-wife and the children because he knew she was crazy and insecure.
Still, sounds like your sister is not going to be able to handle being with someone who has children from a previous relationship. She's too insecure.
Let the sister get buried and when he comes back be gone. What was so hard about that?

 

[Studious one]

Sounds like your sister is inconsiderate and emotional.
Out of human decency she should have just informed him she was moving on after the funeral. Period.
Chances are he was sleeping with his ex. But still, his sister died.

Maybe they weren't sleeping together. He could have been spending quality time with his family. Maybe he did not want your sister to hear him having a good time with his ex-wife and the children because he knew she was crazy and insecure.
Still, sounds like your sister is not going to be able to handle being with someone who has children from a previous relationship. She's too insecure.
Let the sister get buried and when he comes back be gone. What was so hard about that?

I agree. I told her that shyt. But I guess when you’re angry, you’re not thinking like that. And this is the reason why I do not date men with young kids. I don’t want to deal with all the drama that comes with it.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Again, she was not invited. She couldn’t interject in something that she wasn’t invited to. How do y’all keep on missing that part?

You asked earlier for a man to reverse the situation. If I knew my gf was going to her sister's funeral and her ex husband is supposed to be there, I don't have to be invited in that situation. I'm going. I would be like, "what day is the funeral so I can buy our tickets?"

You keep bringing up her not being invited, but that's not an excuse. She should have been proactive.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

No, she didn’t call him at all. She told him that she would respect his time of mourning to spend with his family. He was calling her. He called her once, and said he was going to the store, but was on some hush-hush shyt like he called her just because he’s able to talk. Then he called her the next day, and she told him she would call him back in five minutes, when she did, he was on some hush-hush shyt again, and said he couldn’t talk. When she texted him, he wasn’t responding.

Oh hell no. Babe, this is on your sister. Again, this is reminding me of a situation that I had. I'll tell you more about it later. But this is EXACTLY like my situation in terms of your sister's behavior.

How the hell your bf lost his sister and you don't call him to check on him at all? I'd be angry with her if she was my gf.

And I think that's what you and she are missing. He's angry.

 

[Studious one]

Sounds like your sister is inconsiderate and emotional.
Out of human decency she should have just informed him she was moving on after the funeral. Period.
Chances are he was sleeping with his ex. But still, his sister died.

Maybe they weren't sleeping together. He could have been spending quality time with his family. Maybe he did not want your sister to hear him having a good time with his ex-wife and the children because he knew she was crazy and insecure.
Still, sounds like your sister is not going to be able to handle being with someone who has children from a previous relationship. She's too insecure.
Let the sister get buried and when he comes back be gone. What was so hard about that?

I just asked her and she said she was mad and that’s how she reacted in the moment. I don’t know, you don’t know how a person is going to react in the situation in the heat of the moment. None of us knows what we’re going to do in the heat of the moment when you’re upset about something. We can be PC all we want, but, that’s usually not how situations play out

 

[Studious one]

You asked earlier for a man to reverse the situation. If I knew my gf was going to her sister's funeral and her ex husband is supposed to be there, I don't have to be invited in that situation. I'm going. I would be like, "what day is the funeral so I can buy our tickets?"

You keep bringing up her not being invited, but that's not an excuse. She should have been proactive.

OK. That’s fair.

 

[Studious one]

Oh hell no. Babe, this is on your sister. Again, this is reminding me of a situation that I had. I'll tell you more about it later. But this is EXACTLY like my situation in terms of your sister's behavior.

How the hell your bf lost his sister and you don't call him to check on him at all? I'd be angry with her if she was my gf.

And I think that's what you and she are missing. He's angry.

A couple of posts above I said that she told him she was going to give him space tobe with his family. She just wanted to give him the space to concentrate on his family and mourn. He was with her the whole time up until he left so they weren’t in a bad place. I think she was being very supportive. Either way, I told her that it’s best to just walk away from the situation and leave it alone. That’s what I think.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

So no smoke for the guy? The guy did nothing wrong in the situation? You don’t think he could’ve handled the situation better to keep peace with his lady? I mean if I was in the same situation, I would be like no thanks, because I don’t need that conflict.

Sure he could have handled it better, but baby HIS SISTER IS DEAD.

Do you really think he's thinking logically right now?

Why are you and your sister trying to blame a man who is dealing with overwhelming grief? His sister JUST DIED.

 

[Still Benefited]

Might not even have had a sister or a funeral. I always had a funeral to go to when I wanted to slide off with a sidechick undisturbed for a few days. But I always made sure to say a cousin or great grandma died. You dont want to play with karma

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Gotdamn nikka was at his SISTERS FUNERAL and all YOUR sister could think about was herself…


She did him a favor

And the reason the ex-wife came (likely she was ok with sister too) was most likely because of his gotdamn KIDS… their aunt just passed away.

If he wanted to keep fukking his ex-wife, he could’ve did it without a funeral or while not in a brand new relationship

Honestly, I would probably be disgusted at your sister and would bush tf out of all yall.

Imagine being around grieving people only to have a chick accuse you of cheating