For those of you who gave up on dating and let the right person find you, did it work out?

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So instead you're gonna stand somewhere looking at the ground making circles in the dirt with your ballet slippers looking bashful and tender hoping a bytch runs you down and asks if she can take you away from all this.

Good luck with that princess. :mjlol:
:lolbron: I was just fukkin with you fam


definitely got to go out and stake your claim, I agree
 

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I've tried both... I now believe if you try hard you die hard.

I was like you, I believed that if you want something you work hard for it. Then I realized I was the only one working hard for someone or to make a relationship work. I believe you shouldn't have to force it or it shouldn't be so complicated.

Not saying relationships should be easy or there's never any obstacles, but every chick I've ever really wanted I've got except for a couple... And turns out they didn't share the same love or not like how I did.


So now my motto is to not to force anything. Like that quote says "Love is like a fart, if you have to force it then it's probably shyt"
Exactly! That's the problem I have. When I want something bad, I try hard to get it. The only realm I've been unsuccessful when applying myself is women. I've hollaed and hollaed and got numbers and made all the right moves and still came up short. I mean, this goes back to undergrad--it's a recurring trend in my life.

Let the right person find me. We girls now? :heh: I found my wife.

I saw a slim chinese woman with some large breasts andi thought, yes, i want that. Then i got it. But thats always been my Lifestyle. Find me. :heh:
Congrats to you and yours, but life doesn't work that way. You were able to get what you wanted, but how many times have you desired something and fell short? Simple logic says you'll come up short more often than you'll come out on top.

shyt does happen naturally. And as long as you have confidence there is no reason you shouldn't go out and look for people to meet.

Your wife will not show up on your doorstep.

But show women who you are, and if it doesn't click than it doesn't click. Nothing is going to land in your lap, life doesn't work like that though.
Yes, you're right. It doesn't work like that. I'm not expecting someone to save me from life. All I am saying is that I need to moderate my women seeking behavior.
Like I always tell dudes when they opine about the same things. It took a lot of losing to learn it:

Be the party you would want to be apart of.

Life can be dull, mundane, a chore, etc. You can alter that by making every experience and interaction a theatrical one. Have fun. Treat people you just met

like you have known them your whole life. You get excellent results, and filter out people who aren't on that wavelength. Knock it out however you want,

but enjoy it. shyt pops off at random when you ARE the hot shyt.
Cool. Thanks.

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Word, how you living, though? How has it worked out for you?
 

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Sometimes you have to move or travel more often. Being in the same place can keep you in a certain mindset. Women can sense a different vibe from a guy that does not live in their city or just moved there.
This is real talk to

I'm stuck around a certain mindset of a certain area when it comes to women. Whenever I leave or come back I'm usually on a different mindset and chicks see that
 

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True...
So what do introverts do to meet women?
Mind you I'm not a virgin or afraid of women.
I just never find myself in a position where a woman I work with or am interested in sees me as anything other than a friend.
And I don't associate with that woman anymore once I realize it ain't going anywhere because I don't need anymore god damn friends
Like I always tell dudes when they opine about the same things. It took a lot of losing to learn it:

Be the party you would want to be apart of.

Life can be dull, mundane, a chore, etc. You can alter that by making every experience and interaction a theatrical one. Have fun. Treat people you just met

like you have known them your whole life. You get excellent results, and filter out people who aren't on that wavelength. Knock it out however you want,

but enjoy it. shyt pops off at random when you ARE the hot shyt.
This is basically the answer to your question @DarianaGrande


I'm an introvert too. Once I get home I usually want to stay there in my own lil world but I am usually persuaded by friends to go out. So I do and notice that if I'm not having fun or im chilling, then they're doing the same. So I fake the funk, act like I'm having a great time, jamming to the music, etc., and usually people (women to) gravitate towards us.

It happened this weekend. Had all these different people checkin in our table (dudes scoping me out was creepy), 3 chicks at our table (one white, one Asian, and one Hispanic) while me and my boy was just chillin, looking like we were having a dope time. White chick even was grabbing my dikk under the table, grinding us, sitting in our laps. Just because we was coolin
 

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This is basically the answer to your question @DarianaGrande


I'm an introvert too. Once I get home I usually want to stay there in my own lil world but I am usually persuaded by friends to go out. So I do and notice that if I'm not having fun or im chilling, then they're doing the same. So I fake the funk, act like I'm having a great time, jamming to the music, etc., and usually people (women to) gravitate towards us.

It happened this weekend. Had all these different people checkin in our table (dudes scoping me out was creepy), 3 chicks at our table (one white, one Asian, and one Hispanic) while me and my boy was just chillin, looking like we were having a dope time. White chick even was grabbing my dikk under the table
Hate when jealous nikkas put their eyes on you. It's fukking weird.
 

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Yea it was... Multiple cats. I ignored it but was peeping game
I used to get that A LOT in undergrad. Not trying to brag at all, but I used to dress nice and was up on fashion. Man, nikka's true reflection comes out when they're jealous. I had a fair amount of haters in undergrad. This one cat used to stay saying slick shyt, talking about some "I have something better than that jacket you're wearing :troll:" I got so tired of that shyt (also it can't be overlooked how my own friends used to display envy) that I just gave up that shyt. I didn't like the negative attention.
 

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Not really I've never made the first move and have always been introverted.

Yet at a birthday party,bus depot, bus stop, trolling on a dating site, out at a grocery store etc. Stuff just happaned.

The universe has a weird way of sometimes putting people together :ehh:
Women approaching at a bus stop for reasons other than directions?:leon: That ain't the norm you are one of the lucky ones breh.

About the topic a woman can come along randomly but if you wait on that your gonna be waiting for a long azz time. Putting your self in social setting is really the only way........sucks when you have no social circle tho:mjcry:
 

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I used to get that A LOT in undergrad. Not trying to brag at all, but I used to dress nice and was up on fashion. Man, nikka's true reflection comes out when they're jealous. I had a fair amount of haters in undergrad. This one cat used to stay saying slick shyt, talking about some "I have something better than that jacket you're wearing :troll:" I got so tired of that shyt (also it can't be overlooked how my own friends used to display envy) that I just gave up that shyt. I didn't like the negative attention.
Yeah I was casual but dress pretty fresh I think. Very casual, black shirt and fatigue shorts...fitted shirt, SnapBack and J's
 

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Women approaching at a bus stop for reasons other than directions?:leon: That ain't the norm you are one of the lucky ones breh.

About the topic a woman can come along randomly but if you wait on that your gonna be waiting for a long azz time. Putting your self in social setting is really the only way........sucks when you have no social circle tho:mjcry:
I made a lot of mistakes with women when I was in undergrad and had the perfect opportunity to really lock it up with a few women. When that scene changed and I had to go out there, shyt got real ugly. In school I didn't have to put myself out there like that; they came to me. I just need to find the right pool to fish in.

Yeah I was casual but dress pretty fresh I think. Very casual, black shirt and fatigue shorts...fitted shirt, SnapBack and J's
Probably just jealous of the attention.
 

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Exactly! That's the problem I have. When I want something bad, I try hard to get it. The only realm I've been unsuccessful when applying myself is women. I've hollaed and hollaed and got numbers and made all the right moves and still came up short. I mean, this goes back to undergrad--it's a recurring trend in my life.


Congrats to you and yours, but life doesn't work that way. You were able to get what you wanted, but how many times have you desired something and fell short? Simple logic says you'll come up short more often than you'll come out on top.


Yes, you're right. It doesn't work like that. I'm not expecting someone to save me from life. All I am saying is that I need to moderate my women seeking behavior.

Cool. Thanks.


Word, how you living, though? How has it worked out for you?
It's a numbers game. You will crap out and you won't roll 7 forever. But how you gonna win if you don't play


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