For those struggling with dating apps

[Mastamimd]

Got back on the apps late last fall after getting out of a relationship in July of last year. I dunno what changed , definitely not my looks, but I am STRUGGLING, even with the mud ducks . I'm 40 now and hadn't been on since 36 or maybe early 37, so maybe that's it!?

Might be

When I was 35-37 I was matching everything, mind you I was broke and allat. Now I'm 43 and I'm not failing but nowhere near as good as I was then

 

[Mastamimd]

Double

 

[Cryptocurrency Scarface]

O

“You're on a dating app unironically for one reason. Nobody you've ever met and found attractive in real life wanted you.”

Or it’s easier to verify if people are single and looking

You go somewhere you chop it up with a girl and she mentions her boyfriend

I move on….

Now there are people on the apps who are probably doing it behind their significant other’s backs but the likelihood you link up with a woman like that unknowingly is low

Also you don’t need nightlife or a social circle
with an app

Social circles get awkward if you’re just trying to smash and nightlife is expensive and exhausting

 

[Givethanks]

What's crazy is my guy friends' struggle with them, my girl friends' with wicked bodies or are conventionally pretty ones don't do as well as you'd think they did. then the fat/ugly ones are always eating

Everyone is delusional

 

[⠀X ⠀]

I heard Facebook dating was pretty decent. Anyone try that?

 

[cyndaquil]

I hate to tell some of yall this but algorithmically speaking if you don't pay they will show your profile to the worst women on the app too. And I dont mean looks wise that only applies to tinder. On hinge if you dont pay you will get the one word responders, been on the app for years, flakes, etc. Mixed in with a few legit ones to frustrate you to get you to pay. It knows who is who. It can tell who is going on dates and who isn't. chicks with 100+ likes and matches they never respond to or unmatch go right to the top of the pile for yall

Hinge literally dangles baddies behind a paid for rose and algorithmically sorts out the women you like from the deck unless you pay

Men who use dating apps consistently report feeling less desirable afterwards. shyt is giving brehs low self esteem cuz a 4/10 slump buster giving resistance on a dating app for asking her what she likes to do for fun

 

[cyndaquil]

They want:

Lunch
Brunch
They will settle for a rooftop venue that serves fukking Captain crunch

As long as they can dress up and spend your money.


Lace fronts, Peach fuzz, fupa, and some dried up honey is what you’re gonna get…

And you better be happy got damnit…

what women want and what they get are almost never congruent lol

 

[cyndaquil]

the app is literally apart of their daily routine, wake up, check inbox which is usually full of simps, get their vain high for the day and then rinse and repeat...they are addicts...yall single nikkas are screwed..sorry

 

[cyndaquil]

Might be

When I was 35-37 I was matching everything, mind you I was broke and allat. Now I'm 43 and I'm not failing but nowhere near as good as I was then

No breh you was just in a good era. 35 for you was 8 years ago breh that was 2017. Folks wasn't having these issues consistently back then. Match group has a monopoly on these apps and monetized them so people continue to pay. They don't want you to find anyone. Just get dopamine hits and dangle the carrot when you get a match. They real ass have data scientists working overtime to figure how to extract as much money from you as possible. The biggest way is keeping you single and on the app. This is coming from someone who been on quite few dates off there.The only reason most men are on dating apps is cuz either they a. Have no life and be at the crib all the time or b. They too shy to talk to women they find attractive or c. They are undesirable so they have to

 

[WesCrook]

Something has definitely changed with dating.

Everyone is hella expendable now, due to apps. Easy to get rid of someone who you think is 8/10 in hopes that the next swipe is 10/10.

Illusion of choice. Paralysis analysis. We were probably better off as humans only being able to connect with people in our immediate vicinity.

I am stealing this, breh

*In a setting with a group of women* "I stay away from all those dating apps....It's as of people have some type of Paralysis Analysis when it comes to choosing.....I stick to old school. Meet a nice woman in the produce section or something"

 

[MaxPain]

Times are changing.

Glad I had that first run in 22/23’ was laying em up. Crunchy bed sheets.

I did notice by the time I was getting off the app that the women were getting weirder & weirder. & alot of delusional unattractive women taking shots from half court.

 

[Afro]

No breh you was just in a good era. 35 for you was 8 years ago breh that was 2017. Folks wasn't having these issues consistently back then. Match group has a monopoly on these apps and monetized them so people continue to pay. They don't want you to find anyone. Just get dopamine hits and dangle the carrot when you get a match. They real ass have data scientists working overtime to figure how to extract as much money from you as possible. The biggest way is keeping you single and on the app. This is coming from someone who been on quite few dates off there.The only reason most men are on dating apps is cuz either they a. Have no life and be at the crib all the time or b. They too shy to talk to women they find attractive or c. They are undesirable so they have to

I'm 2 outta 3, it's over for me
Time for me to buy a dog and die alone

 

[Mastamimd]

No breh you was just in a good era. 35 for you was 8 years ago breh that was 2017. Folks wasn't having these issues consistently back then. Match group has a monopoly on these apps and monetized them so people continue to pay. They don't want you to find anyone. Just get dopamine hits and dangle the carrot when you get a match. They real ass have data scientists working overtime to figure how to extract as much money from you as possible. The biggest way is keeping you single and on the app. This is coming from someone who been on quite few dates off there.The only reason most men are on dating apps is cuz either they a. Have no life and be at the crib all the time or b. They too shy to talk to women they find attractive or c. They are undesirable so they have to

Yeah man that's exactly it

Back then it was like shooting fish in a barrel. Now I got matches that end up in the graveyard because it's like a game. I guess I need to get out the crib more

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

I'm seeing a lot of people in here saying dudes on there dont get out, are ugly or too shy. I am very sure I'm not the only one on there that gets numbers in real life and gets hit on but also uses the apps? I just think that shyt is very much a generalization. Now had one of you all said nikkas lonely? Then yeah, that's me

 

[Bigblackted4]

I never struggled on dating apps. The problem is them chicks don’t never be looking as good as their pictures.
See em on FaceTime and be like

Never