For those who listen to people's problems, do you ever take a break?

[valet]

I have friends, family who like to dump their problems on me. I even have somebody who has special needs that calls me. This ngga talks about the same thing everyday. (man oh man
but that's a whole other thread ). I don't mind most of the time. But I decided a year ago that I would have a one day break on Tuesdays.

And even if they call, I dont answer the phone. For those who are like me, do you take official breaks from folks with problems. Or unofficial breaks where you just don't respond?

 

[ba'al]

Yeah, I used to be like that had people trauma dump and emotionally vomit on me all the time. But not anymore I tell them straight up to go to a therapist. Some of them get mad and if they get mad so the fukk what man? I not going to let you moan and groan in my ear.

And a lot of times these people not even trying to fix their problem they just want someone to nag to man.

I have friends, family who like to dump their problems on me. I even have somebody who has special needs that calls me. This ngga talks about the same thing everyday. (man oh man
but that's a whole other thread ). I don't mind most of the time. But I decided a year ago that I would have a one day break on Tuesdays.

And even if they call, I dont answer the phone. For those who are like me, do you take official breaks from folks with problems. Or unofficial breaks where you just don't respond?

 

[Canada Goose]

Have you suggested a therapist for your friends and family? That's who I talk to about my problems



Surprised the special needs person calls you to talk about their problems, considering they probably could get a therapist for free through Medicaid? Unless they work then nvm.

 

[Sad Bunny]

I just have to stop answering my phone. I can’t take it anymore.

 

[Dont@Me]

i don't take breaks. i just listen to everyone then get annoyed and talk to others about people always tellin me about their problems until i'm THAT guy and perpetuate the cycle

 

[Buddy]

I used to have to SOLVE people's problems in my former career and burned out. Back then I would've gladly accepted just hearing them out and sending them on their way

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

Let @Another Man unload on you brehs

 

[The Guru]

I had a friend who was in a horrible marriage he didn't want to get out of. After two years i had to step away from the situation. It was making me depressed to listen to it every single day.

 

[valet]

Have you suggested a therapist for your friends and family? That's who I talk to about my problems



Surprised the special needs person calls you to talk about their problems, considering they probably could get a therapist for free through Medicaid? Unless they work then nvm.

Well with one friend, he was going to a counseling group. But once the pandemic hit, they stopped meeting. He hasn't looked for another one. But no I haven't suggested another one


The other one is very low functioning. Went to special needs school. Has a guardian. His thing is he gets lonely. And people get tired of him because he repeats stuff over and over again. And has the same type of convos. Not sure what mental problem but hes one of those people with the big heads. Might be Downs but don't quote me.

 

[Legal]

Yeah. Everybody's got their limit, breh. Eventually, I need to recharge my batteries. That's not unreasonable at all, and is actually completely normal.

 

[Sad Bunny]

I have friends, family who like to dump their problems on me. I even have somebody who has special needs that calls me. This ngga talks about the same thing everyday. (man oh man
but that's a whole other thread ). I don't mind most of the time. But I decided a year ago that I would have a one day break on Tuesdays.

And even if they call, I dont answer the phone. For those who are like me, do you take official breaks from folks with problems. Or unofficial breaks where you just don't respond?

Save yourself. It’s draining as hell.

 

[Big D Bangston]

It’s even worse when they are doing better than you in life. Got a guy in my department that feels the need to share every little detail in his life and ask for advice and counseling.

Random ass texts about random shyt.

I wanna be like bruh get the fukk on.

 

[Greenhornet]

it depends on the convo...
if it gets repetitive and out of control I tell them therapists get paid 80k a year to do that
I dont

and I avoid them after

 

[Commish]

I don't have anyone calling me about their problems. For what? Outside my Mom & lady, I find it pointless for ppl to tell me about their problems. But, if someone wanted my perspective or opinion about something, then I would be open to listen and give my 2¢s..

 

[Heafcliffe]

Been told imma good listener.

Through it get tiresome at times, I've found that I like being confided in esp when I can walk people "off the plank" into a better situation. At a yute, I had no one I could trust so for me to do so now is cool.