Yes, to the point that I then needed therapy myself from over absorbing all the bs and trauma dumping from people. I had a hard time with setting boundaries and didn’t realize how much I was taking on until one day I hit my breaking point.
I tend to be silly and goofy to protect myself from too many deep conversations with people, because it seems like once people realized I actually had some insights they want to latch on, and like others said exploit my empathy, patience and penchant for listening (and actually responding) just to entertain themselves while not actually trying to better their situation.
Next thing I know my phone is blowing up with stupid scenarios from these same people, family included
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And I realize as defense mechanism I now hesitate to make new friends now because I’m like hmmm what bs are you bringing along with you…which is not healthy either. So now focusing on bettering myself and actually using my boundaries. Gotta be better at stopping them from even trying to start the bs instead of copping out and shying away from interactions all together.