Found out last night that my homie's son came from a surrogate.

[HimmyHendrix]

My homie has a 4 year old son, and none of us has ever met the kids mom. In fact, everytime we asked, he would say that she didn't want the baby and gave him full custody. And nobody ever questioned it because it aint our business but bytches dont be giving up full custody ever. Last night we were all drinking, and he came out and told us that his baby boy came from a surrogate mother. he said he wanted a son really bad but had a bad relationship with his mother and doesn't trust black women with raising black kids or being partners despite wanting black kids, and his son is full black, not mixed. He said he aint want the headache of a BM and that he had no plans on getting married. This is one of the weirdest things I've ever heard. And its crazy cause when he posted the baby on his story/IG when it happened, it was just him holding the baby and no woman in sight but I aint never even asked. And then there was the thought that bro could just be gay, but I know he not cause we done threw alley oops to eachother and the two bytches I know who fukked him hit me up periodically to ask me about him so I know it aint that. Also I, and we as black men gotta stop assuming every time a nikka do something out of the ordinary its "gay" and I had to check myself for even having that thought.

Is this what we on now? I don't think I ever thought about it, and I never considered it? Is it better to raise a son on your own? would you consider it?

 

[Originalman]

Your homie taking a page from one of the goats....

 

[HimmyHendrix]

Your homie taking a page from one of the goats....

Oh he did this? I never thought about doing this shyt, but I think I would to raise a kid without any drama.

 

[JetFueledThoughts]

Raising a kid solo with no women around lowkey sounds like a nightmare

 

[Olmec]

I can see where he's coming from tho. A woman can take a child away if she ever gets mad at you and the courts will side with her most of the time.

I'd hate to only see my child on weekends or splitting visitation.

 

[Apprentice]

Lol at the drinks gettin him to tell y’all what’s up, this why I hate drinking and smoking around nikkas , can never have your guard down

But idk breh, def sounds like some different shyt. Not tryna be fukked up, but how’s his relationship wit his mother and sisters if he has any?

I’ve recently had to come to grips wit part of the reason my mindset is the way it is about women is cuz of the way I viewed the woman I grew up wit

I feel it’s prolly deeper than what he tellin nikkas

 

[PortCityProphet]

This the shyt I wanna do.
I just need a mini me to carry on my name. I dont care bout love or companionship and don't wanna deal with a baby mamma and all that that entails.
I just need someone to loan me some eggs.

Ya boy did it the smart way.

Idk about all his hate towards black women he need to get that worked out but other than that I agree with what he did and I dont think it should be looked at as weird. Its bout to be the future.

Howd he do it? Enquiring minds wanna know

 

[HimmyHendrix]

Lol at the drinks gettin him to tell y’all what’s up

nikkas aint shame him, it was just wild as fukk to hear.

 

[Buckeye Fever]

Wtf kind of Black women dudes fukk with where they cant find any that are "motherly"?

I got 4 sons. 2 with my ex-wife, 2 with my current wife.

Never once did I have any concern with them when it came to help raising sons.

 

[Apprentice]

This the shyt I wanna do.
I just need a mini me to carry on my name. I dont care bout love or companionship and don't wanna deal with a baby mamma and all that that entails.
I just need someone to loan me some eggs.

Ya boy did it the smart way.

Idk about all his hate towards black women he need to get that worked out but other than that I agree with what he did and I dont think it should be looked at as weird. Its bout to be the future.

Howd he do it? Enquiring minds wanna know

No funny shyt, u be talkin bout how u short. U could get ya bread up and get a surrogate wit a tall mother and breed a respectable size baby

 

[Originalman]

Oh he did this? I never thought about doing this shyt, but I think I would to raise a kid without any drama.

Homie got a whole family of kids from a surrogate/egg donor. The word is he did that to not get hit with child support. But on the real these hollywood folks been doing this for decades. Either due to a woman not being able to have children due to her womb having issues or eggs supply being depleted.

But this been going on since the late 70s. Trust someone you know (family member, friend, school classmate or neighbor) or have ran into in your lifetime is either a surrogate kid or a donor egg/sperm kid. Its just back in the day families kept this as a hush hush due to shame or cause it was taboo to discuss it. But now since it isn't as taboo now and kids born from this can find out their genetics easily (23 and me and etc) folks are more prone to come out and discuss this out in the open than in the past.

But as long as these folks are loving parents and take care of the kids they shouldn't he shamed or be ashamed. Normally these folks are more likely to be loving parents because they went through a lot of hurdles (physical and emotional) just to get the child here (especially women).

 

[Apprentice]

nikkas aint shame him, it was just wild as fukk to hear.

It ain’t even bout that, he was intent on not tellin y’all nikkas and I’m just highlighting the drinks made him do it

 

[Paper Boi]

something about this feels like unchecked narcissism

 

[levitate]

Sounds sketch

 

[KeysT]

I’ve had whole conversations with women about how this is low key selfish and narcissistic the other way around. Not about to be a hypocrite and not say that your homie is wild.