Tenchi Ryu
Ashtray B!tch
I did speak to a lawyer, and he said that there isn't a lot I can do because I knew those videos were being taken, agreed to it, and agreed to leave them in my ex's possession. Any fight would be long, expensive and not a good chance of winning. I was 18 and I know that for sure, I know the timing of it all. He said we could do a no contact order (unless it pertains to my son directly), but that's pointless now. He has never really contacted me unless it is about my son and never contacted my ex-fiance.fukk that she needs to deal with that ex. If she's scared there are laws against this. She's either lying or weak. She has a child to consider.
I didn't even know that he still had those videos... and I know there is more than one. I hate even thinking about that part of my life, seeing it and reliving it again has been really hard.
My ex has never said anything about them. He's never hinted that he had them. When he found out that I was dating my (now ex) fiance he didn't seem to care much. He was a bit pissed off, but no where near the level of expecting this. More like hurt or jealousy than actual anger/hate. It was dropped quickly and never brought up. We don't talk often. Unless he is going to use his visitation time, we don't talk. I have stopped inviting him to school events, sports, etc.
I have only had relationships with my ex-boyfriend and ex-fiance. There was a 6 year gap between. I have never had to deal with my ex-boyfriend doing this with another guy, and never want to again.
I've never had to tell anyone about my past, I didn't know how to tell him. I wanted to leave it in the past. I didn't think it would be this big of a deal if he did find out. Maybe it wouldn't have been if he didn't see that video. He said he'd never ask and my past didn't matter, but he had no idea what was in my past...
I hate my ex and I hate that he is going to stay in my life. Even though his visitation is supervised, I still get sick to my stomach when I have to send my son with him. When I got pregnant, I wished that someone else was the father. Anyone else would be better. 8 more years until my son can legally say he never wants to see him again.