Getting back with "the one that got away"

[Jack Trippa 3z company ho]

I'm a breh

Lmao my bad breh, stay blessed regardless.

 

[CinnamonTequila]

I'm a breh

LMAO!!!!! HAHAHAHAHA

 

[Swirv]

Lmao my bad breh, stay blessed regardless.

LMAO!!!!! HAHAHAHAHA

Lol its all good. Dont be assuming stuff when your with ol girl.

My girl is gonna be amused when i tell her my mental was mistaken for a woman haha.

 

[Music Fiend]

Thing is people learn the value of ppl when they leave something good.

But it never usually translated back to you. She may know you are or were good for her and she missed out but that doesn't mean she can treat YOU right this time.

When she's ready the next dude will benefit. It's new, no history, no past concerns that may reappear.


If u want it go for it. But make sure you know when to pull the plug if she's not doing above and beyond.

 

[Jone2three45]

whether she was out there getting bodied by 15 athletic nikkas in that high rise or not, one thing is for certain.....
when she took that break with you that should have told you that you're at LEAST her Plan B and she only reached out to you after she got tired of doing whatever she was doing and/or her main plans fell through. but to answer what you should do here and now? cut her off. if you can't really separate those strong feelings and maintain a just sexual kind of situation (and it's nothing wrong with that, it happens) then don't even do it to yourself and get outta there.

This.

 

[Michael's Black Son]

She told me it was over a day ago that she had sex..

Fixed

 

[Jone2three45]

Just proceed with caution. I'm dealing with the same situation....if you still feeling her like you were, do your thing. And for not caring what she been doing these last 4 years. I doubt she has gone a year without sex, especially if she is attractive. If she has , there is probably a reason behind it......My take on it though.....She wasn't interested in a relationship with YOU at the point she friend zoned you. She prolly had her fun, after a while found a nikka she wanted a relationship with, it didn't work because of something he did (more than likely cheated), and she guarded herself against nikkas. Feeling down, she hit you up, because she knows you would be around, and that your a nice guy. Don't read too much into the fact she still has your number, because chicks usually keep nikkas around if they serve a purpose. You serve a purpose (She looking for a relationship/she just looking to smash and she comfortable with you/she looking for a nikka to boost her ego/ect). It's up to you if you want to figure out what that purpose is, but stay guarded, because that gut punch gonna be doubly hard to deal with the second time around.

And this.

 

[Rawtid]

First off what do you want from her? If it's a relationship tell her that and if she's not with it, then it was fun but keep it moving. I don't think you will be able NOT to catch feelings if you try to do just from friends with benefits type deal.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Am I tripping here or are nikkas ignorning the fact that this old thot is pushing 30 now

She curved you when she was in her prime, and is now back G'ing ya stupid ass cause she is in her late 20s and is SETTLING.

She aint reach out to you in 4 years and now all of a sudden you was "the one"


ARE YOU fukkING STUPID?

27/28 to be exact. He said she was 23 at the time.

 

[Silkk]

Hello friends, been having a lot of thoughts about my current situation. I've bounced it off of some of my RL friends and now decided I could get some input from the always insightful and brilliant minds of the coli. Please excuse what may be a long post.

So back in 2011, I moved to a new city for a job. My first day there I walk in and this beautiful girl is sitting at the front desk. I introduced myself and end up chatting for about 20 mins. Turns out that she had just started there a month prior, and coincidentally we had both moved from the same city.

I immediately started crushing on this girl like I hadn't done in years. I don't really get like that. My office was right by the kitchen so she would walk by multiple times daily refilling her water. Every time she came by we would talk and flirt a little. shyt started driving me crazy.

Finally after 6 months I said fukk it and asked her out. I held off cuz I don't like mixing work and relationships but I couldn't take it anymore. We end up going out for drinks, having a great time and I end up smashing at her place that night. I was on cloud nine brehs.

So we end up dating, but its only about twice a month. Both of us were busy a lot with various things but we made it happen when we could. I was def having major feelings but playing it cool. We kept this pace up for about 6 months when she hit me with the info that she was not ready for a relationship. She was fresh out of college, living with 2 of her sorority sisters in a high rise and she wanted to be free and enjoy her time without having to be tied down.

I tried to convince her how good of a thing we had (which she agreed), but her mind was made up and she said its best if we don't see each other anymore. Straight punch to the gut. Had me messed up for like an entire year. I was ready to wife her.

I had to un-follow her on FB cuz every time seeing her just brought back those feelings. Anyway, I moved on, dated several chicks and was in a 1.5 year relationship, etc. But not one of those chicks gave me that fire in my belly that she did.

So fast forward to 2 weeks ago (about 4 years since we dated) she texts me, says its been so long since we've seen each other, hopes I'm well etc. We go back and forth and end up deciding to meet for drinks last Friday. I have no idea what her intentions are so I'm playing it low key as hell. We hit it off like we hadn't missed a beat, and once again I end up going back to her place and smashing. We end up spending the whole wknd together, smashed like 5 times. She told me it was over a year ago that she had sex.

I'm enjoying seeing her again and want to see where it goes, but I damn sure am not going to get all in my feelings again just to get kicked in the nuts again.

So what do y'all think? Am I only setting myself up to fukked over again?







TLDR: dated 4 years ago and I was ready to wife but she wasn't and kicked me to the curb. She's now pursued me and we've had sex and are planning to continue seeing each other. Is this a bad idea on my part.

Trap her nikka

 

[Serious]

Why is it so unbelievable that a woman can go over a year without sex?

yeah if she's unattractive

 

[Serious]

Trust I knew what that meant.ally don't think she was fukking everything in site, it's just not in her nature. She's pretty conservative on that front.

you gon learn

 

[Jone2three45]

Thing is people learn the value of ppl when they leave something good.

But it never usually translated back to you. She may know you are or were good for her and she missed out but that doesn't mean she can treat YOU right this time.

When she's ready the next dude will benefit. It's new, no history, no past concerns that may reappear.


If u want it go for it. But make sure you know when to pull the plug if she's not doing above and beyond.

And definitely this too.

 

[Serious]

Sometimes it's best you just not question things and go with the flow. You miss too much of life asking questions and sh*t.

 

[MrWestGrand]

See that's where you're about to fukk up .
Don't be afraid breh women can sense that shyt and it's a turnoff.
You need to man up and take what you want in this world. Be that decisive visionary nicca that every woman wants and she won't have a choice but to follow.
You want her right? Then go get her, breh.
Nothing worse in the world than having regret over something you were too scared to even pursue.
In short, instead of "seeing where it goes" drive it to where you want it to go. Remember you're the man; you're the leader. Go forth and lead, breh.

I mean as far as I'm concerned, if she was hoing around that's none of my biz. She straight up told me the deal and didn't mislead me on her wanting to have her friend time back then. Trust I knew what that meant. I'm sure she was having fun but I really don't think she was fukking everything in site, it's just not in her nature. She's pretty conservative on that front.

But you're right I might very well be plan D. Guess I need to figure that out.

Also you need to figure out what led to the 1 year drought. Find out did she ever meet anyone in that time she thought could have been the one. I wouldn't be as available as the 1st time. She needs to earn your trust breh.