Getting back with "the one that got away"

[karim]

Let me clarify a few things:

I'm not tooting my own horn here, but I'm 6'2, 200 lbs, good looking and make 6 figures. I've been had more than my fair share of women, and very diversified women at that. I've walked away from ladies that my buddies have told me I was crazy to leave. I don't simp, never had to.

I met her when she was 23, and I was pushing 30. Definitely different stages in life. I sure as hell wasn't tied down at her age and I understood that she wanted to have that experience and I don't fault her for that. She was straight up about it and I respect that vs trying to play both sides of the fence.

She now lives alone in a condo, really been progressing in her career, and most of her friends are now married and popping out kids. She's at a different place in her life than she was 4-5 yrs ago.

This ain't some bootycall thot that hollas when she doesn't have some dikk for the night. I legit think she's wanting to settle down and came back to me cuz she knows I'm better than these other clowns she's dealt with. But we shall see.

 

[Made Myself A Boss]

@Jack Trippa 3z company ho Can we see a pic of this lady... Its would help us give you more accurate advice

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

@Jack Trippa 3z company ho Can we see a pic of this lady... Its would help us give you more accurate advice

He's not doing that.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Let's take into the OP is 34/35 years old. Kind of sad that he doesn't know this stuff. Probably was a constant winner and never suffered a blatant defeat so he doesn't realize he isn't first choice.

 

[Mr swag]

Dog bring up the ending

And talk about what is going on now!

 

[WaveGang]

Naaaaa fam

She only hitting you up for second choice

Never good to have a woman that you're more into that she is to you

 

[shagnificent belafonte]

That girl lived with SORORITY SISTERS in a HIGH RISE

some big football and bball players done came through and SMASHED that shyt..im talking multiple nikkas son..prolly done been ran through n shyt, nikkas skeetin raw all insider her n shyt, and this went on for 4 years

that same face you make when she makes you cum, she made a minimum of 15 other nikkas make that face over the course of 4 long years


4 years of nikkas THOROUGHLY beating that p*ssy up day in and day out, I'm talking randoms, that 6'5 nikka named keith, that 5'11 stocky football player couple 6'6 and 6'8 nikkas, a LOT of frat nikkas



that aint yo bytch nikka

shyt got me legit

Dat agressive content tho...

 

[karim]

Let's take into the OP is 34/35 years old. Kind of sad that he doesn't know this stuff. Probably was a constant winner and never suffered a blatant defeat so he doesn't realize he isn't first choice.

He knows, he just doesn't want to know
he basically made this thread for other people to validate his decision to take her back.

 

[newworldafro]

Hello friends, been having a lot of thoughts about my current situation. I've bounced it off of some of my RL friends and now decided I could get some input from the always insightful and brilliant minds of the coli. Please excuse what may be a long post.

So back in 2011, I moved to a new city for a job. My first day there I walk in and this beautiful girl is sitting at the front desk. I introduced myself and end up chatting for about 20 mins. Turns out that she had just started there a month prior, and coincidentally we had both moved from the same city.

I immediately started crushing on this girl like I hadn't done in years. I don't really get like that. My office was right by the kitchen so she would walk by multiple times daily refilling her water. Every time she came by we would talk and flirt a little. shyt started driving me crazy.

Finally after 6 months I said fukk it and asked her out. I held off cuz I don't like mixing work and relationships but I couldn't take it anymore. We end up going out for drinks, having a great time and I end up smashing at her place that night. I was on cloud nine brehs.

So we end up dating, but its only about twice a month. Both of us were busy a lot with various things but we made it happen when we could. I was def having major feelings but playing it cool. We kept this pace up for about 6 months when she hit me with the info that she was not ready for a relationship. She was fresh out of college, living with 2 of her sorority sisters in a high rise and she wanted to be free and enjoy her time without having to be tied down.

I tried to convince her how good of a thing we had (which she agreed), but her mind was made up and she said its best if we don't see each other anymore. Straight punch to the gut. Had me messed up for like an entire year. I was ready to wife her.

I had to un-follow her on FB cuz every time seeing her just brought back those feelings. Anyway, I moved on, dated several chicks and was in a 1.5 year relationship, etc. But not one of those chicks gave me that fire in my belly that she did.

So fast forward to 2 weeks ago (about 4 years since we dated) she texts me, says its been so long since we've seen each other, hopes I'm well etc. We go back and forth and end up deciding to meet for drinks last Friday. I have no idea what her intentions are so I'm playing it low key as hell. We hit it off like we hadn't missed a beat, and once again I end up going back to her place and smashing. We end up spending the whole wknd together, smashed like 5 times. She told me it was over a year ago that she had sex.

I'm enjoying seeing her again and want to see where it goes, but I damn sure am not going to get all in my feelings again just to get kicked in the nuts again.

So what do y'all think? Am I only setting myself up to fukked over again?







TLDR: dated 4 years ago and I was ready to wife but she wasn't and kicked me to the curb. She's now pursued me and we've had sex and are planning to continue seeing each other. Is this a bad idea on my part.

She went out got nutted in for a few years. Allegedly, stop having sex for a year until seeing you, you probably smashed raw without seeing paperwork cause of the fire in your belly.

You found your main squeeze, and worried if she'll shock you again............









She's seen what is unfortunately ahead for a young black woman is ready to latch on to someone to avoid being a single mom, cat lady, or bed wench.






Congrats OP!!!!!! You found your wife (y). Nah seriously, if she's the one, then do a full scale analysis like you would do with a car, so you know what you are GETTING INTO

 

[Made Myself A Boss]

Let me clarify a few things:

I'm not tooting my own horn here, but I'm 6'2, 200 lbs, good looking and make 6 figures. I've been had more than my fair share of women, and very diversified women at that. I've walked away from ladies that my buddies have told me I was crazy to leave. I don't simp, never had to.

This is a ridiculous notion that how much money you have or appearance is somehow related to a much more successful relationship..

How many famous/rich people out here with martial and relationship problems and had their woman cheat on them??

Did you hear what Matt Barnes just went through.. Did you know Tony Parker smashed his teammates wife.. Countless other examples

I mean you write in a post you got all these things "your packing, you have money, nice house car etc.. And she still walked out on you for 4 years....

Its clear to me that if she not into you hen she's not going to be into you now. She's settling for you, but you're not her # 1 choice

Do you, and fill that void in your life, but Im telling you.. She doesn't deserve you, and you can probably find better

 

[Blackrogue]

all this happened before valentine?
injury time buzzer beating type shyt on her part

 

[Stir Fry]

The advice given here is pretty sound, and for all of its faults and immaturities, the coli is right more often than it isn't tbh. However, at the end of the day, this is just an Internet forum, and it's impossible to get a full scope of the complexities involved in this situation. I would say that it's going to be best to take the advice given here seriously, but still go with what your gut, not your heart, tells you to do. For all the weirdos and loners here, this is the last place that I would let dictate my life path once I close my laptop. Just be smart about whatever decision you take.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

The advice given here is pretty sound, and for all of its faults and immaturities, the coli is right more often than it isn't tbh. However, at the end of the day, this is just an Internet forum, and it's impossible to get a full scope of the situation so I would say that it's going to be best to go with what your gut, not your heart, tells you to do.

I hear you but from what he wrote, it is clear cut.

I had a similar situation in Tinder with a chick.

Talked for awhile longer than we suppose to on tinder (flight attendant), finally asked for the number since she didn't offer like most chicks, no reply, a week went by then I unmatched her. I go swiping a month or so later, come across her and swiped right to see if we match. We did. Asked what happened, she says she deleted her tinder. But she was feeling me according to her. I called her out on it and she still tried to vibe and I entertained it until I got tired and said I'm good off that. She snapped and became irate and I unmatched a final time.

I knew it was another dude she was feeling more and pursued that, got smashed on and dude bucked and now come back to old faithful like nothing ever happened. Men and women do it all the time!

 

[Elle Driver]

There's an old saying in Tennessee.... I know it's in Texas, probably in Tennessee ....that says, fool me once, shame on, shame on you. Fool me ...you can't get fooled again.

 

[eufemism]

she belongs to the game breh


lead her on, get yours, then keep it movin