Girl at my job asked me why so many men have zero interest in a relationship
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Devilinurear
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That ain't relevant to this discussion
I mean if you go out, it's not that difficult to meet men. I meet men at grocery stores, events--usually when I'm out. The key is going out and being out. I've never done online dating though, so I'm biased. I'm oldschool and feel like it's weird and desperate to try to form a relationship from it. But, I think you can build friendships off of it. And let's be real a lot of times, people are using these apps to fukk. I apologize if I'm wrong, I just genuinely know like only two people in my entire life who've actually got into relationships with men they've met online.
I might try it one day just for fukkkery purposes. I wouldn't take it seriously--some people do though.
OP..
You may not like my answer to your response to your coworker, but based on your response, those particular dudes aren't mature!
What I could respect is your coworker's date being upfront about his intentions. That gave your coworker and option to either continue dealing with him or moving on..
Obviously, if she is interested in a relationship, then the date she had with that dude should be a one and done deal!
As for your answer to her query, immature men may use women having sex on the first dates as a reason for not pursing relationships.
As for the rest of men, there is no single reason why some men don't want a relationship.
Speaking for myself, I am all in with getting into a relationship, but it can't be a one sided affair during a courtship!
What I have experienced within current times is some women wanting men to adhere to traditional roles right away w/o doing their part in adhering to the same traditional roles.
In addition, it seems to me that some women, not all, but some women or the ones I have ran into really don't want to do shyt!
They don't ask questions. They don't engage in conversations. They don't show any enthusiasm when it comes to becoming better acquainted.
It feels as if I am auditioning for a spot on their roster where they are the judge and I am to perform or audition for them and based on my performance, they will decide whether they are going to put forth any effort or not.
In the meantime, I need to take them out to dinner, open doors, give gifts, make all phone calls and texts, etc.
How is the aforementioned appealing to me? It's one thing to take the first step or initiative pursuing someone and another thing to do all the work with little to no return..
So, perhaps for some men, women's behavior and expectations on dates is what is turning some men off when it comes to relationships because said men don't see any value in relationships with certain women.
But, if women step their game up, be active in the dating process, establish a connection with men, then there will be more men willing to get into relationships.
In all, all parties involved need to be happy and receive benefits. Not just the woman or man.
You may not like my answer to your response to your coworker, but based on your response, those particular dudes aren't mature!
What I could respect is your coworker's date being upfront about his intentions. That gave your coworker and option to either continue dealing with him or moving on..
Obviously, if she is interested in a relationship, then the date she had with that dude should be a one and done deal!
As for your answer to her query, immature men may use women having sex on the first dates as a reason for not pursing relationships.
As for the rest of men, there is no single reason why some men don't want a relationship.
Speaking for myself, I am all in with getting into a relationship, but it can't be a one sided affair during a courtship!
What I have experienced within current times is some women wanting men to adhere to traditional roles right away w/o doing their part in adhering to the same traditional roles.
In addition, it seems to me that some women, not all, but some women or the ones I have ran into really don't want to do shyt!
They don't ask questions. They don't engage in conversations. They don't show any enthusiasm when it comes to becoming better acquainted.
It feels as if I am auditioning for a spot on their roster where they are the judge and I am to perform or audition for them and based on my performance, they will decide whether they are going to put forth any effort or not.
In the meantime, I need to take them out to dinner, open doors, give gifts, make all phone calls and texts, etc.
How is the aforementioned appealing to me? It's one thing to take the first step or initiative pursuing someone and another thing to do all the work with little to no return..
So, perhaps for some men, women's behavior and expectations on dates is what is turning some men off when it comes to relationships because said men don't see any value in relationships with certain women.
But, if women step their game up, be active in the dating process, establish a connection with men, then there will be more men willing to get into relationships.
In all, all parties involved need to be happy and receive benefits. Not just the woman or man.
Devilinurear
Veteran
Sounds like you live in a beautiful person bubble
But if you keep shaming the cows for giving away free milk we're all be fukked when they stop doing it.
Just saying while I agree with you, I feel you could have been gentler without slutshaming . Quit the slutshaming and we all get to eat
I've never denied this. I thoroughly enjoy the company of slutty women.
You the type I can sell dreams to talking about I want a relationship n all that but when I get the draws I ghost. If we want the draws we gonna plot to get em....sorryShe was confused because that sucking dikk and smashing on the first night doesn't apply to her. Naturally, she was taken aback because she's really out here looking for something real.
I avoid those I'm not looking for a relationship types.
ultraflexed
Superstar
No we dont.
If she did that then she is fuccing every guy on the first date. Would you to be a relationship with a women with no self control.
And they can stop giving you that at any moments notice. If they stop putting out and if you try to get some while they sleep they can say you raped them (just saw a video of a wife taking a husband to court for this) so thats wrong, if you cheat then you still wrong, if you file them papers then you shallow and still wrong. You just can't win as a man in a relationshipoutside of consistent p*ssy I see no reason for being in a relationship. You tell chicks this though and they get MAD
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And the men that ARE interested in a relationship with her are invisible.
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Can’t say that’s true. I think people use certain words that don’t get to the crux of the feeling or emotion they’re experiencing. Especially when you blurt out something like that.
That means you’ve been having a lot of internal dialogue with yourself that no one is really privy to, and you’re midway thru a idea that people haven’t even begun to talk WITH YOU about. You just been venting to yourself...
That means you’ve been having a lot of internal dialogue with yourself that no one is really privy to, and you’re midway thru a idea that people haven’t even begun to talk WITH YOU about. You just been venting to yourself...
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