Thank god I never had to this situation happen between my parents and my dad wouldn’t hurt a fly but if my father hurt my mother, I would never talk to him again. Kids are more closely bonded with their primary character giver, even two parent homes. They would hate you if you harmed your ex just because she got primary custody.
Instead of visitation that you can fight to improve, you’d never see them again and now they’d been in foster care where they can be raped and abused.
I don’t men were supposed to be more logical and less emotionally driven