got diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder

[AquaCityBoy]

Avoid this neg fakkit.

 

[okra]

is it really you? if youre gonna have that username, you have to have stormzy as your avi!

 

[WickedSkengman]

I knew from the Beyonce thread

Go to therapy

therapy doesnt help because i avoid talking about my problems and avoid any interviews

 

[Raava]

therapy doesnt help because i avoid talking about my problems and avoid any interviews

That means when you go actually talk about your problems like you do on here



Are there any actual therapist on theColi???? Help our guy

 

[okra]

pm me indica! im here for you if you need to vent or talk about your mental health

 

[Mr. Pink]

sohh ive been diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder. it means i avoid all situations in life that i dont enjoy or feel comfortable in. thats why i can only speak to my hood friends and i spend most of my days hiding in the boxing gym from the real world. i avoid job interviews and community college interviews. i quit or do something to get fired from all my jobs because i feel more comfortable in the boxing gym. they said it stems from a deep rooted lack of any self esteem. i also have self destructive behaviour patterns that stem from lack of self esteem. i dropped out of school and got a criminal record when i was 16. i punish myself because i dont believe im worth anything. i only have self esteem in the boxing gym and when im smoking weed with my friends.

the doctor said there is no cure. just psychotherapy. i refused to go to counselling because they tried to make me go in school when i was always in trouble. it didnt work.

how can i get self esteem? ive had 11 amateur fights and ive won 8 of them but it still doesnt give me self esteem outside of the gym. i work out real hard to get in shaoe for my fights. so exercise is not an answer.

does anyone know any ways to get self esteem without benzos and alcohol?

There's these two books: A Guide to Rational Living and Feeling Good. I won't write any long descriptions, suffice it to say they are what therapy should be about, offering actionable advice and solutions to life's hardships, not the pseudo intellectual id this superego that bullshyt that therapists do. Trust me. Those books are the real deal.

It will probably take years to completely internalize all the concepts in A Guide to Rational Living, but in the meantime get Feeling Good(or the Feeling Good Handbook) and start doing the exercises immediately. I guarantee you'll see a marked improvement within weeks IF you do the exercises consistently.

You can download Feeling Good off the internet. The other one you'll have to buy, I haven't been able to find a link.

 

[WickedSkengman]

That means when you go actually talk about your problems like you do on here



Are there any actual therapist on theColi???? Help our guy

yeah but when i tell them all this stuff they have no life experience with it. therapists are a profession. they go to college to learn generic answers. theyve never actually lived with avoidant personality disorder. so how can they help me?

 

[Trajan]

i cant speak to my friends or boxing coaches about this. id be laughed out of the hood and the gym. my family disowned me for this disease. they thought i was just a piece of shyt. but i had legit avoidant personality disorder. i remember when it started too. i was the good kid n my family. my big brother was the savage who wasnt meant to be shyt when he grew up. but he actually ended up doing something with his life because hes always had self esteem. now im the black sheep of the family and everyone is ashamed of me.

I feel you G. Keep your head up.

I used to hate on your posts and threads but I feel your pain

None of us know what you go through.

 

[wickedsm]

Please give therapy another shot.
Often times a different therapist sitting across from you can
Mean a world of difference

 

[Amphibious]

@cook

Why did this nikka alias get approved for the 20th time but not my 2nd alias?

 

[WickedSkengman]

There's these two books: A Guide to Rational Living and Feeling Good. I won't write any long descriptions, suffice it to say they are what therapy should be about, offering actionable advice and solutions to life's hardships, not the pseudo intellectual id this superego that bullshyt that therapists do. Trust me. Those books are the real deal.

It will probably take years to completely internalize all the concepts in A Guide to Rational Living, but in the meantime get Feeling Good(or the Feeling Good Handbook) and start doing the exercises immediately. I guarantee you'll see a marked improvement within weeks IF you do the exercises consistently.

You can download Feeling Good off the internet. The other one you'll have to buy, I haven't been able to find a link.

thanks for this

i just dont see how therapy would ever work when ill be talking to these people who just went to school and learned the generic responses for everything.

 

[Raava]

yeah but when i tell them all this stuff they have no life experience with it. therapists are a profession. they go to college to learn generic answers. theyve never actually lived with avoidant personality disorder. so how can they help me?

You should go for a while, try to apply what they say and see what happens first before you completely write them off. A doctor might not have broken a leg but knows how to set the bone, stitch tears, and put on cast. You don't have to have it to treat something.

 

[WickedSkengman]

pm me indica! im here for you if you need to vent or talk about your mental health

im a burden to my family. they are ashamed of what ive become. my grandparents shouldnt have to see their grandchild like this when their other grandchildren are doing so well

 

[WickedSkengman]

@KillahKamn

i was doing ok. i was working making some money. but i guess you cant hide from your problems. eventually i got fired for snapping at a boss. then i avoided my latest job interview.

i really did try. i even went into community college and applied in person. then i missed like 3 different interviews and now i missed my chance to learn a trade.

 

[Mordith]

This website is proof that the internet is full of mentally ill people...