Growing up to a single mother

[Blackout]

Im sorry for anyone who had to go through that.

Same here.

 

[miranda]

in for discouraging news

 

[Citi Trends]

Gave me an exclusive look into women's BS for the future

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I been checking her. I probably should've said that before but it's w.e... but still, she has been right in some cases.

Do you think its healthy for you to be around someone that you have to check? Who points out your flaws?

What things has she said? I'm interested.

 

[ridedolo]

Sporadically. Left when I was around 6 .. saw him twice around 12 didn't gear from him again until like 16? But by that time I was gone. Didn't care about him... did the g thing like everyone else around me.

damn yo. shyt is disgusting how someone can dip on their kid like that.

i actually heard my barber and some people clowning about not claiming one of their kids. I think they said that the kid came to the shop and the barber didnt even recognize her. shyt is so cringe worth, yet they were laughing.

 

[ellessij]

My Mom bailed when I was about 7. I didn't know my dad much.

My sisters and I went into foster care and ended up living with these 3 African women; sisters. They were all single, but they were really strong, smart women. They weren't the most affectionate but they prepared us for life and were strict with A LOT of things pertaining to dating/men, etc.

I'm really glad for those women, did a hell of a better job than my Mom ever would have.

 

[ridedolo]

I did. Way more pros than cons for me.

I think coming into realization how much work your mom has done by herself helps you learn to appreciate the simple things in life.

It really depends on your mom though. My mom is encouraging, caring, supportive, determined, mellow. So I came out on top imo.

I can't really think of any cons tbh because I don't know what the pros and cons are of having a father, but you'd be wrong to think they're all pros, take a look around at the people IRL and on here.

I do think your gf is in the wrong though, especially to comment on your upbringing, to point out faults when your mother worked hard single handedly to provide for you. You need to check her, because your mom would be calling you a hoe right now.

i strongly doubt that there are more pros than cons to growing up with both parents in your life.

sure, your mom may have done a great job, and you may have turned out alright, but there's a lot of intangibles that you missed out on.

 

[TL15]

Honestly my g/f has been RASHING my upbringing and pointing out all of the negatives to how I was brought up and how I interact with women. Granted I turned out ok as a person. No major crimes committed and a general respect overall for women .... but she's been pointing out all the little shyt. And kind of getting in my head. Fukking me up for real. I'm not Really gonna go much deeper than that until this thread at least reaches a third page. But even with that being said ... a year back my nikka @Mowgli pointed out a character claw of mines kinda on point ... that he attributed to overbearing single parent mom's ... had me all fukked up but I just moved on cuz I was fukking mad hoes .... it's wild.

Call me what u want but I'm in my shyt this morning. Life hard as a ho for real.

Is your GF a psychologist?

If not tell her to chill with all of the psychoanalysis from her years of reading social media articles and watching daytime TV

You can grow up with single mom, single dad, both parents and still be normal, fycked up, crazy, intelligent etc. Unless you are completely unaware of how you come off, no personality can be wholly contributed to just the parents in your household

I grew up with a single mom...she worked hard...taught us to work hard. We were the "black sheeps" of the family growing up and now my brother and sister are both married with children, own homes, and I have an MBA and am doing probably the best in all of our family. One circumstance doesn't influence a person entirely.

Now...if you want to go out and be an a$$hole, fyck "mad hoes" and neglect your own shortcomings then but it's not only because you had a single mom. You're an adult. You choose who you want to be if you are aware of your actions.

 

[Mass]

Do you think its healthy for you to be around someone that you have to check? Who points out your flaws?

What things has she said? I'm interested.

Lol let's stay in the realm of genealizations. We can hit up some shyt offline voice to voice or face to face and do it that way.

I just know I ain't the only one who kinda slightly been brainwashed.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Lol let's stay in the realm of genealizations. We can hit up some shyt offline voice to voice or face to face and do it that way.

I just know I ain't the only one who kinda slightly been brainwashed.

Fair enough, I'll have to fall back and observe things then.

 

[Jack Trippa 3z company ho]

I'm sorry for all my friends here that had to go thru that too. We all get different struggles given to us in this life, just in different manifestations.

Hopefully y'all went thru that, so your children won't have to go through that.

 

[TheLAKid]

Anybody here grew up in the household of a single mother?

What do you think are your pros and cons, as a person, due to your upbringing.

The biggest con is not having enough patience most times. Because a single mother is doing it by herself with no help she can't always have the time and patience to explain things to you.

 

[Mass]

Ima fall back a bit. Let this shyt cook. This ain't about me n shyt, it's about finding a common link or pattern to all this single mom shyt out there.

So I'm dipping for a minute folks.

 

[The Mad Titan]

Honestly my g/f has been RASHING my upbringing and pointing out all of the negatives to how I was brought up and how I interact with women. Granted I turned out ok as a person. No major crimes committed and a general respect overall for women .... but she's been pointing out all the little shyt. And kind of getting in my head. Fukking me up for real. I'm not Really gonna go much deeper than that until this thread at least reaches a third page. But even with that being said ... a year back my nikka @Mowgli pointed out a character claw of mines kinda on point ... that he attributed to overbearing single parent mom's ... had me all fukked up but I just moved on cuz I was fukking mad hoes .... it's wild.

Call me what u want but I'm in my shyt this morning. Life hard as a ho for real.

Growing up with my mom being the only parent and trying to work a full time job and teach a young man what's manly and how to respect women I have a pretty interesting outlook on what it meant to be a man growing up.


I'll preface this by saying that no matter how great of a mom or dad you might have, there is nothing that can replace or be as good as having two parents raise a young child in a house hold, even more so for young black men. My mom filled the role of parent so well that I legit forget that the correct way is to have two parents in a house hold. Its odd to even think about a man being in charge over me or me really opening up to a dude/man or older guy.


It's taken me years of self evaluation, up's and down and listening to advice from men and women and being brutality honest with myself to figure out what is my "problem" and I can honestly say not having that male role model CONSTANTLY in the home has affected me on physiological levels that I'm only recently been able to address or "fix". I've have amazing male role models that have always been around to show and teach me the right way, but regardless of how much they went out there way. I've only ever truly been comfortable on more than a "friendship" level opening up with women (outside of two of my closet male friends)


Shyt really goes deep bruh, most people don't give it much thought, but it effects both men and women. I have crazy respect for women, but growing up with sisters, mom and aunts I know women...like I know em. Alot of shyt nikka's on the coli see as simpin is way off, (yet it has been that too) I just rock well with women, I'm a man and I know and enjoy women in every sense



Its sucks though, I know not having a male figure in your life makes you much more susceptible to simping and being a chump or getting played by women, and thats only when dealing with women. There's a whole other of it.... like confidence, respect, ambition self respect... And I'd be a damn lie if I said I haven't gone through that at all. I see it in alot of young boy's that dont have that father figure in the home with them, there is a fire that is missing or dim. Something that can only be passed down from a man to another man....Whenever I tutored, well not really tutor but hosted a community gaming thing at my place I'd talk to the alot of younger boy's and it was just so apparent who had fathers in there lives and who didn't.



I could go on and on, but I got to get back to work. but yeah bruh it goes deep.

 

[Verbal Kint]

I did. Ain't no 'pros'. Now my pops was around but the best situation for a kid is a mother and father in the home (assuming neither is crazy)