Growing up to a single mother

[@OffHalsted]

Emotional thinkin. feminine characteristics

 

[Rawtid]

I was raised by a single mother and the only thing I can say it impacted was my view on relationships. You don't really get a sense of the purpose of a man by observing from the outside. It's nothing that some patience and teaching can't fix though.

 

[Pyrexcup]

my childhood was weird i had a dad but my dad was not about much he would travel alot and be away for long periods of time so i and my sibilings were basically raised by our mom. when i was like 13 they got a divorce and shyt fukked me up 100% and deffo has affected my personality and now that i've grown up i know some shyt that would be different if i was raised in a 2 parent household.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Anybody here grew up in the household of a single mother?

What do you think are your pros and cons, as a person, due to your upbringing.

Pros
- None
- Not a fukkin one

Cons
- Unrealistic view of women (taught by her that being a simp is what women want)
- Control issues (single females domineer over their sons as a way of getting back at manhood)
- Independence issues (single females also hold onto their sons like their last breath)
- Rebellion issues (See Control issues)
- Anger issues (See Control issues)
- Lack of understanding of people (only received half the real story most of my childhood life, and we all know how jaded angry black women spin it...)

Imma stop there...my moms fukked my head up when I was a kid.
I suffer with it now..

 

[HollowPoints2]

Anybody here grew up in the household of a single mother?

What do you think are your pros and cons, as a person, due to your upbringing.

My dad raised me.

I CAN'T imigine being raised in a house full of women.

 

[Redeem87]

Facepalm.jpg stop trying to generalize, it makes you look pathetic

You do know their are studies that show kids raised by single mothers turn out worse

They turn to drugs and alcohol more often, engage in sexual activity earlier , mental illness , criminal activity , suicide , poor education and teen pregnancy . That's just the tip of the iceberg

Glad u had it good but the majority of single mother homes are not good for kids and the black community is a result of this Facts not generalizations

 

[godkiller]

The black community is proof not imaginary. Those kids raised by single moms who turned out all right are not the norm and that depends on what you consider all right and a healthy environment for a child

I think it's more an African American problem, maybe, because I was raised by a single mother and turned out fine. I know another African kid who was raised by his single mom and is now the manager of a restaurant.

 

[godkiller]

You do know their are studies that show kids raised by single mothers turn out worse

They turn to drugs and alcohol more often, engage in sexual activity earlier , mental illness , criminal activity , suicide and teen pregnancy

Glad u had it good but the majority of single mother homes are not good for kids and the black community is a result of this Facts not generalizations

A Canadian study showed that single mothers in Canada's children don't have worse outcomes so some of the effects African American children have isn't from single motherhood itself, but a lack of institutional and government support from the American government. About 2 or so decades ago, in the 90s, Canada had very generous support (which has since waned) for single mothers. There was daycare, money, food, etc.

 

[Redeem87]

I think it's more an African American problem, maybe, because I was raised by a single mother and turned out fine. I know another African kid who was raised by his single mom and is now the manager of a restaurant.

Anecdotal evidence

A Canadian study showed that single mothers in Canada's children don't have worse outcomes so some of the effects African American children have isn't from single motherhood itself, but a lack of institutional and government support from the American government. About 2 or so decades ago, in the 90s, Canada had very generous support (which has since waned) for single mothers. There was daycare, money, food, etc.

Link pls

 

[Mass]

Its sucks though, I know not having a male figure in your life makes you much more susceptible to simping and being a chump or getting played by women, and thats only when dealing with women. There's a whole other of it.... like confidence, respect, ambition self respect... And I'd be a damn lie if I said I haven't gone through that at all. I see it in alot of young boy's that dont have that father figure in the home with them, there is a fire that is missing or dim. Something that can only be passed down from a man to another man....Whenever I tutored, well not really tutor but hosted a community gaming thing at my place I'd talk to the alot of younger boy's and it was just so apparent who had fathers in there lives

Quoted for emphasis. I also had to basically learn how to think independently as well on my own. Always going to my mom for advice and getting this bullshyt philosophical answers that don't mean shyt. When I joined the army and woke up and did shyt for myself and not for what all these women would think of me as a man.... the happiness was unbearable. Made some manly ass mistakes but shyt... until you really out here as a man is suppose to be, how can u be ready for a woman.

 

[Uncle Kingpin]

I grew up in a single mother home, and she was always working or in school so she didn't have the time to raise us. I didnt have someone at home teaching me how to be a man, so I had to learn on my own. It taught me to be independent, but it's a double edged sword. I rely on myself, which is good, but I'm still learning how to rely and trust on others to succeed. It fukks me up in relationships because I've learned to not need a woman so I don't develop normal attachments. I literally give no fukks...I dont compromise...and I won't miss you.

It's funny cuz two people can grow up in the same circumstances and be totally different. My brother is very emotional and needy, I have no emotions and don't need anything. He's super sensitive, I'm insensitive. My point is we shouldn't paint all men who were raised in a single parent home with the same brush.

 

[Knuckles Red]

Both of my parents were married before they had me, and have been together ever since. They did it right. As a result I don't have any personal experience with OP's topic, but I do notice a stark difference between dudes who have fathers and dudes who don't. I notice fatherless males are a lot more impulsive, emotional, and ready to fight at the most trivial things. All throughout middle school (and my first year of high school before I transferred) I noticed these types. They were always disrupting class, I guess to get the attention they weren't getting at home, and were constantly in trouble. I remember it being difficult finding another black dude to hang out with who was just "normal," and mellow. I don't know what its like to not have a father, but for the poster(s) in here trying to make it seem like its not that big of a deal to grow up without one, I disagree with that 100%. I doubt most boys who grow up without fathers ever fully develop into men, ideologically.

 

[DaSk8D00D]

My mom was fukking G (RIP) but one major thing as a male is that she didnt really teach me how to date all that well. She basically would tell me to do all the things SHE'D want in a man and I followed suit but when you in junior high all that shyt just gets you repeatedly friend zoned. Its like she skipped a step, and taught me more on how to KEEP a woman moreso than actually getting one in the first place, whereas I feel like a good father is gonna "give you the game" as far as approaching women, initiating conversations and things like that.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

I grew up in a single mother home, and she was always working or in school so she didn't have the time to raise us. I didnt have someone at home teaching me how to be a man, so I had to learn on my own. It taught me to be independent, but it's a double edged sword. I rely on myself, which is good, but I'm still learning how to rely and trust on others to succeed. It fukks me up in relationships because I've learned to not need a woman so I don't develop normal attachments. I literally give no fukks...I dont compromise...and I won't miss you.

It's funny cuz two people can grow up in the same circumstances and be totally different. My brother is very emotional and needy, I have no emotions and don't need anything. He's super sensitive, I'm insensitive. My point is we shouldn't paint all men who were raised in a single parent home with the same brush.

That's the same situation I had. Mom was always either working, in school or yellin at me while my lil sister got no punishment or criticism. I wound up being independent and cold and leaving home (extreme lack of love from my only parent) while my sister is a codependent mess and can't exist without our mom.
Most times I just want to get away from people...while my sister can't live without being around people.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

My mom was fukking G (RIP) but one major thing as a male is that she didnt really teach me how to date all that well. She basically would tell me to do all the things SHE'D want in a man and I followed suit but when you in junior high all that shyt just gets you repeatedly friend zoned. Its like she skipped a step, and taught me more on how to KEEP a woman moreso than actually getting one in the first place, whereas I feel like a good father is gonna "give you the game" as far as approaching women, initiating conversations and things like that.

Same here...that simpin shyt.
I didn't learn how to talk to women until I got to fkn college yo.

The whole time I tried talking to females on some "Lets hold hands and be sweet" bullshyt and got SHUT DOWN every damn time!!!

This is the fkn Bronx yo...that shyt don't work in the BX!!
Never did, never will!!