Has a family member ever shamed you for growing your hair out?

[Child_Of_God]

Has anyone experienced this sort of treatment from family members when they decided to grow their hair out? My aunt constantly complains that my hair is too long and “wild looking” whenever she comes to visit and saying how I would look more presentable and “neat” with a short haircut. I told her countless times I want to grow it out to get it braided but she won’t shut the fukk up about it already and it’s annoying me.

 

[How Sway?]

Yes. All the time when I had locs.

They didn't catch up to the fact that society is changing its perception on long hair esp after covid.

 

[Apprentice]

Yea it happened to me a lot, lowkey was part of the reason I cut my hair

They was tellin me I was ugly and shyt n my hair ain’t look good

 

[O.T.I.S.]

My grandmother was on that shyt.. only cut it because I was supposedly going into the “workforce”.

I should’ve dreaded it at the time but I had natural waves so it wasn’t all bad.

 

[Mowgli]

My facial hair was to thin once and got called a faggit.

 

[letti cook]

yep....first because of my cornrows back in high school....typical "you look like a thug, wont get a job" talk....then around 30, i grew my beard out and every woman in my family had an issue...meanwhile, all the men got inspired and grew theirs out

 

[Pure Water]

No, I’m not African.

No disrespect of course.

Edit: Actually, nvm. My people would make me get a clean bean when I was a kid. But by late elementary I was able to grow my hair out.

 

[Womb Raider]

It was the opposite for me. I got shamed for cutting my hair, now I'm bald and mfs tell me I shouldn't have cut it

 

[LebronsHairline]

Yeah, had to tell them mothafukkas stop hatin

 

[get these nets]

When I was younger, yeah. It's not shaming though. They are just expressing their views about the perception of long hair.
When you get older, you might realize that they probably meant well.

 

[The Fade]

man growing up there was a huge Element when it came to black mens hair from other black men

 

[Monsanto]

Most of the women in my family don't like seeing a man with long hair and they let it out. My great aunt once said I look like her son, he has locs too and he needs to cut his hair because men shouldn't be able to toss their hair.

I laughed and said we're natural, you should follow the trend too.

Kept her quiet after that

 

[Fill Collins]

Only a few older ones, we're all adults here and pay them no mind

 

[Apprentice]

No, I’m not African.

No disrespect of course.

Edit: Actually, nvm. My people would make me get a clean bean when I was a kid. But by late elementary I was able to grow my hair out.

My parents are african

It’s lowkey sum c00n shyt

 

[karim]

Has anyone experienced this sort of treatment from family members when they decided to grow their hair out? My aunt constantly complains that my hair is too long and “wild looking” whenever she comes to visit and saying how I would look more presentable and “neat” with a short haircut. I told her countless times I want to grow it out to get it braided but she won’t shut the fukk up about it already and it’s annoying me.

Yes, my grandma. But she also hated when I got a bald fade cut.