Have you ever been cheated on?

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The first woman, everything was about as perfect as could be...from my point of view any way. I was 19...my first serious longterm relationship. I loved everything about her. We had great times all the time and almost never fought about anything. Then one day she just broke it off. And I didn't even see it coming. First time I was ever blindsided. Basically just said she didn't care in the same way for me that I did for her. That always stings. You get over that though. Realistically, I was 19. That wasn't going to last anyway. But at the time...you aren't thinking that. And the reality of the situation was...she was with me but always looking out for the next dude. I think a lot of women are like that. Especially the ones that can't seem to develop a steady relationship. You just can't grow with a person if you're always looking for something else. I guess it's that "the grass is always greener on the other side" mentality.
As for the 2nd woman, I apologize but that story stays with me.

 

[Elle Driver]

lol every broad i ever dated who told me they were cheated on in a previous relationship, when I asked and you gave him another chance and they said yes. And I asked and he cheated again and they said yes.

By taken back a cheating guy you show him that it's ok, you'll be mad for a little bit but will always come back, he has nothing to fear, he will continue cheating again and again and again on you.

Did you ask them why they took him back?

I only took him back cause he was the only constant thing in my life at the time. I was mad young I didn't know any better, I didn't understand what a healthy relationship was supposed to be like. A lot of people are fortunate enough to see that with their parents and I didn't, I had nothing to base it off of. Plus emotionally, physically, and mentally I was cut off so he went and looked for that somewhere else.

 

[Kenny West]

I wasn't sexually attracted to her anymore. I didn't stop loving her and I tried to nudge her towards better health. I couldn't get aroused. She fell into a depression and got bigger. How you going to watch The Biggest Loser with a tub of ice cream. I was distraught and with a woman, weight is a no-no to discuss so I felt like I couldn't win. She got fed up with me and found some new dikk.

I'm sorry but

How did she fall off, but you ended up being cheated on?

 

[MikelArteta]

Did you ask them why they took him back?

I only took him back cause he was the only constant thing in my life at the time. I was mad young I didn't know any better, I didn't understand what a healthy relationship was supposed to be like. A lot of people are fortunate enough to see that with their parents and I didn't, I had nothing to base it off of. Plus emotionally, physically, and mentally I was cut off so he went and looked for that somewhere else.

mostly Love
co dependency

it was just interesting that it always ended up the same being cheated on again

 

[MikelArteta]

The first woman, everything was about as perfect as could be...from my point of view any way. I was 19...my first serious longterm relationship. I loved everything about her. We had great times all the time and almost never fought about anything. Then one day she just broke it off. And I didn't even see it coming. First time I was ever blindsided. Basically just said she didn't care in the same way for me that I did for her. That always stings. You get over that though. Realistically, I was 19. That wasn't going to last anyway. But at the time...you aren't thinking that. And the reality of the situation was...she was with me but always looking out for the next dude. I think a lot of women are like that. Especially the ones that can't seem to develop a steady relationship. You just can't grow with a person if you're always looking for something else. I guess it's that "the grass is always greener on the other side" mentality.
As for the 2nd woman, I apologize but that story stays with me.

Most men never see it coming, women emotionally detach, weeks, months in advance, that's why when its over it's over. They have already thought it through, talked about it with their mom, or close girls. Kind of like a job when they are letting you go, the yknow about it days, weeks, months in advance, and then call you into the offce with the paperwork already written up and let you go, you never saw it coming, you did everything right you were there for years a hard worker but sorry just not the right fit.

Its why your girl can text you every day, say i love you raul then when she finally detaches she know longer needs you thats when she's ready to break up with you. Which is why many women return to cheaters, they have not emotionally detached yet so breaking up is extremely hard to do. And yep more than likely she had another guy in her sights, as like a monkey they swing from tree to tree

 

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Most men never see it coming, women emotionally detach, weeks, months in advance, that's why when its over it's over. They have already thought it through, talked about it with their mom, or close girls. Kind of like a job when they are letting you go, the yknow about it days, weeks, months in advance, and then call you into the offce with the paperwork already written up and let you go, you never saw it coming, you did everything right you were there for years a hard worker but sorry just not the right fit.

Its why your girl can text you every day, say i love you raul then when she finally detaches she know longer needs you thats when she's ready to break up with you. Which is why many women return to cheaters, they have not emotionally detached yet so breaking up is extremely hard to do. And yep more than likely she had another guy in her sights, as like a monkey they swing from tree to tree

That's interesting. Maybe they do detach before us and do it well. I'm sure some women here could validate or disagree.
I really don't know, though.

 

[Elle Driver]

mostly Love
co dependency

it was just interesting that it always ended up the same being cheated on again

I can only speak for myself and say I only accepted that type of behavior from one relationship.

 

[Rominati]

That's interesting. Maybe they do detach before us and do it well. I'm sure some women here could validate or disagree.
I really don't know, though.

All chicks talk to their homegirls and or parents before they break up with a nikka. Usually months in advance. Reincar right. Ive seen it first hand. Usually their "homegirls" who you've been nothing but nice too. Are the ones egging her on and pushing her to leave your ass.

 

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All chicks talk to their homegirls and or parents before they break up with a nikka. Usually months in advance. Reincar right. Ive seen it first hand. Usually their "homegirls" who you've been nothing but nice too. Are the ones egging her on and pushing her to leave your ass.

Yeah I could see that. I guess I have seen it.
Really disappointing stuff though, but I guess if people aren't happy...

I mean I would just wish that a girl would come at me directly and just say stuff instead of scheming and discussing with her friends about where our relationship should be at, or should be heading.

 

[MikelArteta]

That's interesting. Maybe they do detach before us and do it well. I'm sure some women here could validate or disagree.
I really don't know, though.

Trust me, as men you rarely see the signs but if you watch closely, she starts going out with friends more, she comes over less often and has less time to see you, sex stops or drops to a minimum, start to nit pick at things that were never a problem, text and phone calls are less. That vacation you were suppose to go on a few months from now is never brought up, your jokes are no longer laughed at any more And if you bring it up like most men do is something wrong?, you get a kiss a blowjob or sex to calm your fears.

 

[Rominati]

Yeah I could see that. I guess I have seen it.
Really disappointing stuff though, but I guess if people aren't happy...

I mean I would just wish that a girl would come at me directly and just say stuff instead of scheming and discussing with her friends about where our relationship should be at, or should be heading.

Its a damn shame bruh. Especially when her friends be single themselves

At the end of the day, its usually your shorty who has already made the decision to leave. She jus looks to her friends for the validation of her feelings. When a woman is ready to check out. She is READY to CHECK OUT

 

[sfgiants]

ive never caught one of my bytches cheating but i'd assume yes
as long as i'm raking in more W's than L's, fukk it. if i ever catch a bytch cheating tho

 

[Chief]

You have no idea what you're talking about. I placed so much grief in all facets on her and myself. Nothing a brother can do about it now. I hated her once upon time and was willing to settle for damn near any chick to replace her. It is what it is.

Did you have a DNA test done

 

[MikelArteta]

All chicks talk to their homegirls and or parents before they break up with a nikka. Usually months in advance. Reincar right. Ive seen it first hand. Usually their "homegirls" who you've been nothing but nice too. Are the ones egging her on and pushing her to leave your ass.

i made a blog post last month on this exactly

Here are a few signs that you should dump her before she dumps you

1. She seems Distant.
If your girl seems distant, drop the hammer and get out now. She always made time for you for the months, years you were dating, now she is always busy,
cancelling plans, short phone calls that used to be long, no longer communicating daily. This is where you sever the ties and come out on top. If your girl no longer contacts you like she
once did you are no longer a priority in her life.

2. She needs Space
Whenever a woman tells you to needs space, run for the hills. In a relationship your partner is either with you or not, if they need space they are basically telling you
they don't want to be with you.


Many men are so oblivious to the fact, when their gf is distant, no longer loves them anymore they think it just happaned. How can you fall out of love with me so fast, look at all I did bla bla.

Men need to wake up and realize nothing happens that fast, it's why when a women dumps you more than likely it has been plotted for awhile she just finally got to the point where she no longer feels the need
to have you in her life.

Ever notice if you have ever been dumped, you may have texted or talked to your gf every day for years, but once you are dumped just like that you are nothing? Read the signs boys, it's like when soemone is being
phased out at work, they slowly take away responsibilities from you, they slowly treat you different, you think nothing is wrong with then boom the hammer drops. If your eyes were open you would have realized months in advance what was happening.

 

[Kenny West]

All chicks talk to their homegirls and or parents before they break up with a nikka. Usually months in advance. Reincar right. Ive seen it first hand. Usually their "homegirls" who you've been nothing but nice too. Are the ones egging her on and pushing her to leave your ass.

Right. Especially if yall are /were happy while the homegirls themselves were single.

Ironically it seems like the only time women don't listen to these hoes is when their nikka is actually cheating on her.

Real shyt more and more I think cheating on your woman is the way to go when it comes to my generation. I've maybe seen 2 relationships that lasted 3+ years without the dude stepping out and providing their chick the "excitement" of playing detective trying to catch him.

It's like when you follow the script, they don't respect you.