Have you ever cheated or had an affair?

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Out2TheOld said:
Yeah. He played the hell out of me. He had me believing he was falling for me too. In the end he showed his true colors and admitted to me that I was just a fun time and that he had no real feelings for me and I cursed him out and he never called me again.


I did see him again out in public a few years later while I was pregnant with my daughter. He seemed a bit "sad" that me and my man were doing well.

Oh well I guess...
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So it sounds like he left you and you decided to stay with your boy friend (now husband). Were you potentially looking to leave your boyfriend for this guy long term?

Seems like both guys were playing games with you too.. even though you were trying to pay it back (revenge)... the best advice is... respect yourself.. when you have to lower your standards just to get back at anyone, you lose. Elevate don't degenerate
 
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Chrome2279 said:
So it sounds like he left you and you decided to stay with your boy friend (now husband). Were you potentially looking to leave your boyfriend for this guy long term? Seems like he was playing games too..
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Yeah I was. I was on the verge of telling my man that I had fell in love with someone else....I just didn't know how. Whenever I think about it I'm so happy that I didn't because my life would have been 10 times worse had I made that "official" move.

As much as it hurt me at the time he did me a favor by showing his true colors.

My man got his shyt together and realized what he had in me....I got my shyt together and realized the grass is NOT greener....and at least for now everything is okay.
 
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Out2TheOld said:
Yeah I was. I was on the verge of telling my man that I had fell in love with someone else....I just didn't know how. Whenever I think about it I'm so happy that I didn't because my life would have been 10 times worse had I made that "official" move.

As much as it hurt me at the time he did me a favor by showing his true colors.

My man got his shyt together and realized what he had in me....I got my shyt together and realized the grass is NOT greener....and at least for now everything is okay.
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u know they about to come for ya head for this one right? :patrice:
 
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Out2TheOld said:
Yeah I was. I was on the verge of telling my man that I had fell in love with someone else....I just didn't know how. Whenever I think about it I'm so happy that I didn't because my life would have been 10 times worse had I made that "official" move.

As much as it hurt me at the time he did me a favor by showing his true colors.

My man got his shyt together and realized what he had in me....I got my shyt together and realized the grass is NOT greener....and at least for now everything is okay.
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Out2TheOld, I really dont want to come across as a woman basher or sexist. I dont celebrate cheating in any form, as I have been a serial cheater in my past and realized how much hurt I've caused unnecessarily - all from experience. I dont want you to get the idea that I am looking down on you from a high horse or anything of the sort because that is not the case.

At first you said you cheated with the intention of letting your spouse know how it felt.

Then you revealed that you never let him know what you did.

Then later expounded on the situation by admitting you fell in love and that the only reason you didnt leave your spouse is because the man you were having an affair with didnt really care about you.

Yet, you also said earlier that cheating on him felt good.

Do you honestly believe that it is okay for your husband to continue NOT KNOWING that you've cheated?

To you, does that not constitute 'living a lie'?

Do you not respect/love your husband enough to let him make a choice knowing the relevant information as you were able to do when you found out he was cheating?

How did you find out he was cheating? Did he admit it/own up to it or deny till this day?

Do you ever plan to tell him the truth or are you content with him believing you are someone that you arent?

You dont have to answer any of these questions, Im not here to bash you- but I do want to understand the underlying reasons.

Trust me, I've done much, much, much (x100) worse than you - its just that I took a totally different approach to it - right or wrong, I just know it was right FOR ME.
 
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