Have you ever dated a woman who was raped/molested?

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3. all 3 were promiscuous.

 

[MysticMonroe]

Just by hearing some the answers in this thread a lot of men are misinformed about rape/molestation. Rape/molestation seems to be taken not as seriously as 15-20 years ago. Women who lie about it, have minimized the seriousness of real sexual assault victims. I can count on both hands how many other relatives, friends of relatives have said sexual stuff to me, grabbed my butt, breast, boyfriends etc. I'm sure everyone has the one relative in the family who you know not to leave the kids with. But no ones turns Uncle Johnny in because he's family. Or women whose boyfriend is raping their daughters. So it really pisses me off when women lie and when men automatically assume every accusation is a lie just because some women lied. Jenna Jameson was raped by like 7 people. boyfriend's father, the other was 6 guys she got a ride from after a party. Like the whole Bill Cosby case I believe he's guilty os some of them. I think he drugged and raped some, the others he promised them something and didnt deliver and some just lied outright. Becuase out of all the false rape accusations only a small few actually get prosecuted for lying.

Some misconceptions are that:
1. If a guy is attractive, has a lot of money or gets lots of women that he is less likely to rape.
R. Kelly was a rich/attractive(not to me) man. He could have any woman he wanted but he chose the 14 year old. Some guys rape when they get rejected, especially if he is not used to being turned down.

2. If a women doesnt fight back she consents. There is a term called Fight or Flight. Some people freeze up, some fight back. Its like if somone tries to rob you by pulling a gun on you. Some people freeze and just give them the money, some fight back.

3. Rapist are sometimes the nicest guys/pretend to be nice.
Rapist are not always the mean guy. He is sometimes the family friend/ the basketball coach/teacher/pastor. R. Kelly's victims was his artist neice. The Mayor of my old city actually got arrested for molesting his adopted daughter. He was a substitute teacher of my high school. It shocked me but not my cousin. She said that he was always trying to be at the school around the kids. he would sub all the time, be at the school playing basketball. Looking back he tried to hard to be around the kids and to build up his 'nice guy' rep. He ran for mayor, adopted like 6 kids from overseas, he already had 2 kids. He was trying hard to be Mister Rogers. And the real fukked up guys are good and showing. people what they want to see. Because when/if accusations are brought the victim wont be quickly believed. How many times have they capture rapist/serial killers/terrorist and its always a bunch of people saying what a 'nice guy' he was and they're shocked.

4. If a woman doesnt come forward she is lying.
Its hard to prove rape, because its mostly he said/she said. Your sexual history gets brought up. If the guy is rich/popular his lawyers can find a bunch of dudes you consented to, to try and disprove you. And most people think if a women is considered a hoe, she cant say no. And rape kits arent automatically processed. They just sit on the shelf collecting dust.

 

[Nighthawk]

yeah. its tough. my ex was molested by her uncle and raped in college. she was super gorgeous too. she had issues on issues like a mf tho, promiscouity, and always wanted me to dikk her down at anytime. stayed needing attention too. she wouldve been a really sweet girl had that not happened.

 

[lib123]

Black men have to protect their daughters breh.

Yeah that's a big problem with this raggedy baby daddy baby mama culture. Dudes don't think and/or care about having random men around their children.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Was talking to this chic the other day who in the middle of a conversation casually mentions she was raped and molested growing up. Had me like cause of the casualness of how she said it. Smh

 

[Menna]

Exactly.

I've only had one chic that I know for sure was raped.

What most dudes don't know is that a lot of women tell in order to make a man feel sorry for them and play up their victim status

2 women told me they were raped, and I caught them in their lies. And that stuff is dangerous. One chic told me it happened during the time me and her were talking, and I was about to go to war

Then I ran the story past a couple of my women friends and they pointed out the inconsistencies and had me ask her certain questions, and then we discovered she made the whole thing up because she was trying to get my attention

what if I went to war on an innocent man and got shot up?

I'm not saying women ain't getting raped out here. I am saying that a lot of women lie, and I check each story

I don't believe something that someone tells me without making sure it's factual

What’s worse getting raped or feeling the need to lie about getting raped.

My friends wife admitted to me she was raped in HS… she likes polyamory and is off… I haven’t seen these ppl in a while and prob never will again

 

[Menna]

One of the finest chicks I ever got at had been raped in HS by some dude. Parents took her out of school and she got home schooled rest of the way. Fine as shyt but she was a little off and you could tell the rape and being home schooled had something to do with it. I really think when we would have sex she would almost relive getting raped, but she would nut off of it. As crazy as that shyt sounds. Just the noises and shyt she would do would be on some super submissive shyt. One time she even was like "no... stop"... and I stopped and she was like "no... don't stop". To me that was her in her head going thru the rape. shyt was weird. Too weird for my tastes. It's sad tho because she was a beautiful sister and you already know if she was bad and I didn't wanna deal with it then other brehs is the same way.

Trauma victims have to try and relive the trauma “put themselves back in it” so that they can attempt to heal themselves…

Personality disordered individuals do this as the trauma from 0-4 years old they didn’t have the tools to get past it so they act it out and seek the trauma IRL to try and self heal

Unfortunately this chick tried to get past it by reliving it during consensual sex

 

[Justin Nitsuj]

Yeah. I mentioned on here before that I was molested while when I was younger, so when a woman tells me that the same happened to her, I sympathize with her. If she still has trauma from it, I will support her unconditionally.

One day I will have a daughter and I'ma do my damnest to protect her from these weirdos that think it's cool to molest and rape women

 

[boogers]

most women have been

men aint shyt

 

[jilla82]

if youre a straight man youve dated a woman thats been raped/molested

the question is have you dated a woman that was comfortable enough with you to share that info with you

 

[Address_Unknown]

Unfortunately.
Never an easy thing to deal with but once you know, you can note why they react so weirdly towards seemingly innocuous stuff like affection and adoration. Like I'm heavily affectionate with women and 8/10 it's welcomed and reciprocated with no issue, but it was always off putting to me when I found woman that either squirmed from my touch or just felt generally uneasy in it, which made me question myself or if they were disgusted by me.

Couple that with the fact that these same women would still consider you a lover, want you to be with them, but would freeze up or jump anytime you got a bit armarous without overtly letting them know that you were trying to initiate something. It all led back to be touched/molested/groomed and their methods of enduring/coping with it.
While I'm type polite and have no problems talking/communicating with the women I'm with, it's the ones that wanted clearly defined and agreed upon protocols towards dealing with them. If you wanted to fukk, you let it be known and it would happen. Foreplay/affection was damn near forbidden since it reminded them of the situation(s) they were in, which made them feel ill/uncomfortable. Like, I know what happened to you now, but don't you know I'm not trying to manipulate you into anything? A kiss or a squeeze does not automatically equate to us needing to find a secluded place for me to fukk you until I nut and then you can leave.
The ones that get turned out by it are even worse. Promiscuous as hell and one broad I recently dealt with had this weird predilection towards the entire topic of rape, to the point I had to fall all the way the fukk back from her weirdo ass. ANYONE enamored with rape is mentally destitute in my opinion.​

 

[Ghost Utmost]

I think a lot of us have and were simply unaware of it.

Most women have been violated/assaulted in some way.

If you've dated more than one woman it's almost certain you've dated a woman who has been raped.

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

Married one
Still love her but she’s an ex for a reason
You never know what someone has been through until they have a breaking point

 

[Diddly Drogba]

If you've dated more than one woman it's almost certain you've dated a woman who has been raped.

Believe all women brehs

 

[FonzieJr]

Dated quite a few women in my younger years who I found out through "nonjudgemental" conversation were sexually molested or raped.
Few of my observations:

• Loved male attention (revealing clothes, thirst traps, too friendly with men, etc)
• Victim mindset (No accountability)
• Promiscuous
• Manipulative/deceptive (Heavy on the gaslighting, always used their sexuality to try and get their way)
• Trust issues
• Anxious attachment style
• Love bombed early on

Just do yourself a favor if she has had any sexual abuse, recommend she gets help, but do not i repeat do not get in a serious relationship.