Having a son ain't been the curse I thought it'd be

[JayYoung713]

If no one else is gonna say it I guess I will

Don't fukk up, breh. I'm also 21, and I can't even imagine having a kid in the next few years. I'm about to graduate from a decent school with a decent degree and start law school in the fall so I'll be making decent money by the time I'm 24/25. I'll be financially ready to support a family in the next four/five years but I'm not going to have one for ATLEAST fifteen. Whats the point of your own personal struggle to success if you can't enjoy it by your lonesome for a bit?

Thats real talk. Like I said I had my first one at 19, it took me a couple of years but I eventually got back in college and got my degree and now I make good money (not quite the coli 6 figure standard but Im far from broke) but the road here was definitely tougher having children in the mix. We struggled for a while but it all really made me appreciate what I have now.

My advice is DO NOT HAVE KIDS UNTIL YOU ARE FINANCIALLY STABLE regardless of age but if you do slip up it is not the end of the world it just mean you gonna have to hustle a bit harder to get to where you wanna be but it is possible.

 

[jflores]

As a father of two boys, shyt is fun and a lot of work. Be prepared for your pockets to be light, my 3 1/2 year eats from the moment he wakes up til the time he goes down to sleep. My 7th month old goes throw two bags of formula in 10 days and is eating two jars of baby food a day now.

Terrible two's?? we off that homies, three's aint no fukking joke. Potty training has been a pain in the ass, disciplining is hard as fukk cause trying to balance the way you do it and the way mom does it is two different worlds. Advise don't butt in when mom is disciplining and expect her to respect your space when you are doing it. Never argue in front of the kids about disciplining. Little shyts are smart and will play both of you.
Also watch your mouth, little kids are sponges. Just the other day my oldest got upset at his toys, and says out loud "fukk this shyt".

All in all, its a fun ride. An old head told me this once, when the kids ask you to get on the floor and play or read to him just do it, cause there will be a time in his life when he will give zero fukks about hanging out with his old man. Time flies and you realize you got up in age when all you do is chase your kids around the house to change clothes, brush teeth, get to sleep.

I thought my second one was going to be a girl, wife and I may try for that little girl.

Enjoy fatherhood!

 

[Lucky_Lefty]

Thats real talk. Like I said I had my first one at 19, it took me a couple of years but I eventually got back in college and got my degree and now I make good money (not quite the coli 6 figure standard but Im far from broke) but the road here was definitely tougher having children in the mix. We struggled for a while but it all really made me appreciate what I have now.

My advice is DO NOT HAVE KIDS UNTIL YOU ARE FINANCIALLY STABLE regardless of age but if you do slip up it is not the end of the world it just mean you gonna have to hustle a bit harder to get to where you wanna be but it is possible.

the bolded is real shyt...but you really luck out if you got a main piece who's willing to grind & hustle with you if you or she isn't...i don't bash my daughter's mom around her or around folks in general...even if she bashes me around her folks, they see the work I put in...some women just see their kid as an entitlement to get some free $$'s but me personally, the money don't mean shyt...personal interaction and whatnot is waaaaay more valuable...i fly to H-Town every other month, FaceTime everyday & talk on the phone when FT ain't available...set her up for a better future than I had (passed along my GI Bill benefits to her, etc..)...if you got money or don't got money, JUST BE A PRESENCE IN YOUR KIDS LIFE...kids don't know shyt about being broke but they will remember you not being there for them

 

[QuisMoney]

I think the problem with a lot of young people is that they don't have perspective. From the age of about 18-Late 20s it's a woman's world. They are in their physical prime and depending on how good looking they are the world is their oyster. We don't get in our primes till the late 20s/early 30s, by that point a lot of us (men) will have physically matured, be secure financially, and have lots of life experience. Your 20s/early 30s should be spent having fun and building yourself up, once you get married/have kids there's no going back, breh. I'm not sure how good your current girl looks but I guarantee that if you stay physically in shape and keep your mind on your career/getting money the caliber of women you'll be pulling in your 30s will have you like compared to the kind of women you're pulling now. DO NOT get married (let alone have kids) before the age of 25, and even thats pushing it

Rt Brehs i Agree 100% i Ain't Worried Bout Kids At the Moment im too into Kicks and other bs at the moment So is my girl so idk why she want kid's maybe cause her bestfriend is prego and everybody around us Has OR having kids.

 

[Costanza]

op seems like an awesome human being.

 

[Carter G. Hoodson]

7 months in and it ain't too bad. Don't get to go out as much, nights can be pretty annoying at times, and this nikka can be needy but seeing dude grow up is pretty cool.

He also a big flirt and chicks love him so I ain't even stressing.

This is probably made easier because my BM is pretty cool about the whole thing and she isn't too annoying because she thinks I'm a good dad.

School, work, and him kinda stress me out but it ain't too bad and I'm 'bout to graduate so it's gravy.

Real talk fam, I have 2 lil boys and it's the most fulfilling and gratifying thing in the world. I remember having my 1st boy, I literally cried cus I was in awe. I love them to death. Salute to you bruh.

 

[Family Man]

So my wife is gonna go into the hospital on Friday at about 6:00AM. I will bump this thread after the baby is born with an update. Just picked up my mother-in-law from the airport.

 

[Bathing Ape]

http://i.imgur.com/Ye1tGNB.jpg

Already started and he taking it like a boss. Barely ever cries but he likes to eat everything and he will bite the crap outta you.

Eh, she's not in my lease or anything but she's around constantly. If I'm not at school or work, she's usually around. She sleeps over constantly though or I sleep at her parent's crib where she technically lives.

breh

 

[Seea]

I stay in awe of mine. Watch when he gets a little older, same shyt will happen to you.

Just the other day I looked at him like "Man... you were JUST a baby though. "

 

[Cynical Thoughts]

You as apposed to having a girl? Or having kids for you was a curse in general(boy or girl)?

 

[Draje]

the bolded is real shyt...but you really luck out if you got a main piece who's willing to grind & hustle with you if you or she isn't...i don't bash my daughter's mom around her or around folks in general...even if she bashes me around her folks, they see the work I put in...some women just see their kid as an entitlement to get some free $$'s but me personally, the money don't mean shyt...personal interaction and whatnot is waaaaay more valuable...i fly to H-Town every other month, FaceTime everyday & talk on the phone when FT ain't available...set her up for a better future than I had (passed along my GI Bill benefits to her, etc..)...if you got money or don't got money, JUST BE A PRESENCE IN YOUR KIDS LIFE...kids don't know shyt about being broke but they will remember you not being there for them

See, this is what I honestly love about the Coli. For all the fukkery, craziness, and absurdity will like to engage in on a daily basis, you still got dudes and chicks coming in here and dropping little nuggets of wisdom and love to our fellow brethren.

Coli is really like fam...or the best barber shop in the world.

 

[MAKAVELI25]

Rt Brehs i Agree 100% i Ain't Worried Bout Kids At the Moment im too into Kicks and other bs at the moment So is my girl so idk why she want kid's maybe cause her bestfriend is prego and everybody around us Has OR having kids.

No offense, breh, but you might have a bird on your hands

I wouldn't want to have kids with a woman who just wants to be pregnant because her friends are. Your long term partner should have a more secure gameplan for the future than that

 

[QuisMoney]

No offense, breh, but you might have a bird on your hands

I wouldn't want to have kids with a woman who just wants to be pregnant because her friends are. Your long term partner should have a more secure gameplan for the future than that

Inno Brehs I ran across plenty birds and i don't get that vibe bytches monkey see monkey do these days.

 

[MAKAVELI25]

Inno Brehs I ran across plenty birds and i don't get that vibe bytches monkey see monkey do these days.

A lot of women are naturally sheep. That's something I've learned to live with because I enjoy having sex with them. But I refuse to have children with a chick who wants to get pregnant just cuz her friends are

 

[Reverend Jesse Jackson]

I save every receipt of every single that I buy my son, have every text she's sent me thanking me for providing for him, and I give her money orders every time I break off her money for the month.

Finance major, breh. She ain't catching me. Her moms would probably smack the taste out her mouth if she pulled that on me.

You think the court is fair. You can have video evidence breh.