Hip Hop destroyed Dating & Relationships?

[3rdWorld]

Hip hop destroyed way more than dating..

 

[Doomsday]

No one wants to admit that the black family been in disarray since we were brought to plantations. Brehs we’re emasculated by white men in front of their women and couldn’t save them. And brehettes were worked like men, raped, abused, separated from the kids they had and all while being forced to raise their white master’s kids and birth his kids too.
Sadly, even once slavery was over, we were still subject to oppression, inequality, poverty and racism—Brehs were still emasculated, and our kids didn’t get equal education, we were denied many things and it made it hard for us to have functional relationships. To be real, the black family has always been in disarray and bw/bm relationships have always had issues.

some things have compounded it sure, but there was never a solid functional foundation to begin with.

Thanks for breaking down why black women dikkride white men.

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

CGA made it

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

Read this......​

(1965) The Moynihan Report: The Negro Family, the Case for National Action •

Hip-hop isn't making things better, but is not a causal factor at all.​

 

[International Playa]

Social media messed up relationships.

A woman got hundreds of strange men sliding a woman's DMs everyday,

 

[Lhark]

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Thanks for breaking down why black women dikkride white men.

That’s really what you took from my post about the disarray of the black family?

 

[Tom Foolery]

What man wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a woman that twerks on command in public?

 

[CarmelBarbie]

It's not one or the other. And ideally, yes, parents play the biggest role. But in a society where both parents are working, and the overwhelming majority of black children aren't growing up with both parents in the house anyway, the influence of popular culture is huge.

These kids are raised by their teachers, their classmates, music, movies, tv, tik tok, social media, etc, just as much if not more than they're being raised by their parents. And rap culture, hip hop culture, whatever you want to call it, has been absolutely poisoning the minds of the black youth for decades now. I mean shyt, some of these parents nowadays were poisoned by the music their damn selves.



How are we defining disarray



I get what you're saying and there's some truth to that, but at the same time what is that really saying? It was just doomed to begin with?

And again how are we defining disarray? And what percentage of the community has to be doing bad to say that black families as a whole are in disarray? I know every black family wasn't living in disarray back in the day, and black folks used to be more married than white people in the 60s and 70s, it's the opposite now. Not to say high marriage rates means everything was good, they were black in the 60s it definitely wasn't all good, but I don't know if I'm 100% sold on the whole black relationships were always fukked up angle.

To answer the bolded, once we were brought to this country in the circumstances we were brought in, and endured all that we endured, we were doomed. Even when our marriages were high during those times if you research and read texts about what was taking place, most black folks didn’t have leave it to beaver marriages, all the oppression and external things taking place def. impacted relationships and families.

The men were still emasculated by wm, the women were still treated like they weren’t women, and the black family struggled—in some ways we were stronger for it, but you have to think about that foundation—it was a lot of normalized trauma and normalized confusing/blurred gender relationship dynamics. Overtime other things compounded it/further eroded any sense of unity we did have but yes sadly there has not been a time in this country when the black family was not in disarray.

 

[buzzkill]

Feminism followed by social media

 

[Turbulent]

social media and dating apps make it easy to cheat or scale up

Not saying you are wrong but i wonder if people back in the early 20th century were saying the telephone destroyed dating...

 

[Ziggiy]

Hip Hop ain’t ruined shyt

 

[old pig]

ugly ppl not knowing their place ruined the dating scene.

 

[BaggerofTea]

When was the black family not in disarray? Serious question

@CarmelBarbie covered it in her post

No one wants to admit that the black family been in disarray since we were brought to plantations. Brehs we’re emasculated by white men in front of their women and couldn’t save them. And brehettes were worked like men, raped, abused, separated from the kids they had and all while being forced to raise their white master’s kids and birth his kids too.
Sadly, even once slavery was over, we were still subject to oppression, inequality, poverty and racism—Brehs were still emasculated, and our kids didn’t get equal education, we were denied many things and it made it hard for us to have functional relationships. To be real, the black family has always been in disarray and bw/bm relationships have always had issues.

some things have compounded it sure, but there was never a solid functional foundation to begin with.

 

[Swirv]

How much better were relationships before?

Back in the day women had to find a man because pay was trash. A lot ended up with drunks or mean men. I can see why they would want better these days or play the field.

Men even only stuck around because women got pregnant, not because that was first choice most of the time.

Birth control and higher pay made it easier for ppl to want better in terms of a mate. The problem might be expectations.