The sex might be wack. A lotta women fake it. If she’s never experienced an actual orgasm with you then sex is a chore. It’s just another thing on her plate she would rather avoid.
Communicate with her about why she isn’t sexual anymore. You’ve also indicated that this has happened to you several times. Women’s sex drive can fluctuate but what I’ve noticed is that it ain’t really women’s sex drive. In some cases it’s women’s willingness to fake an orgasm that changes. She might have been excited about the prospect of being with you initially and decided to overlook some wack sex in the beginning because she in love and gooey about you. But once the love wears off and ya’ll done got on each other’s nerves a few times, the prospect of having sex with somebody you not even cumming with won’t work. Sometimes women get pushed by society to overlook important shyt in men like looks or attraction, just to say they got a man. (See that entitled physicist thread) So they end up just grinning and bearing it for the sake of the relationship. But that shyt gets old fast and when it does, if you don’t even have good sex to tide you over, it’s a wrap.
Is there any romance in your relationship? What’s the foreplay like? How much time are y’all actually spending being intimate vs. fukking? And there is a difference. Many men don’t understand intimacy because they’ve been educated by porn or take a selfish outlook to sex. However, building intimacy is important. Women don’t just automatically get wet like they do in porn over nothing.
In any case, there’s a lot you can do before you jump straight to cheating. And if you do cheat, consider how you would feel if she does the same to you. Because if she isn’t enjoying sex with you to the extent that she doesn’t even wanna screw you…she might already be stepping out anyway.
I wish you well either way.
Communicate with her about why she isn’t sexual anymore. You’ve also indicated that this has happened to you several times. Women’s sex drive can fluctuate but what I’ve noticed is that it ain’t really women’s sex drive. In some cases it’s women’s willingness to fake an orgasm that changes. She might have been excited about the prospect of being with you initially and decided to overlook some wack sex in the beginning because she in love and gooey about you. But once the love wears off and ya’ll done got on each other’s nerves a few times, the prospect of having sex with somebody you not even cumming with won’t work. Sometimes women get pushed by society to overlook important shyt in men like looks or attraction, just to say they got a man. (See that entitled physicist thread) So they end up just grinning and bearing it for the sake of the relationship. But that shyt gets old fast and when it does, if you don’t even have good sex to tide you over, it’s a wrap.
Is there any romance in your relationship? What’s the foreplay like? How much time are y’all actually spending being intimate vs. fukking? And there is a difference. Many men don’t understand intimacy because they’ve been educated by porn or take a selfish outlook to sex. However, building intimacy is important. Women don’t just automatically get wet like they do in porn over nothing.
In any case, there’s a lot you can do before you jump straight to cheating. And if you do cheat, consider how you would feel if she does the same to you. Because if she isn’t enjoying sex with you to the extent that she doesn’t even wanna screw you…she might already be stepping out anyway.
I wish you well either way.
