Hours after 1st Date She Let Another Man Hit | Boyfriend finds out 4 Months Later

[Bryan Danielson]

I don’t think it’s that serious.

i couldnt be mad at that cuz I’ve done that same shyt to peeps like atleast 3 different occasion.

i stand on my disdain for HYPOCRISY and too many niccas on coli are hypocrite….. I don’t want to be one… I’d charge ir to the game

 

[Scaaar]

Bro. You're describing a different scenario in this reply than you did in the post I replied.

Now, you are talking about 1 person.... before you were talking about going on multiple dates, multiple times per week with multiple different women.

So that's what I responded to

Yeah I was but you said you're not on that type of time. But you also said you don't want to spend bread on a woman unless you know you're serious about her. So how do you get to that point? How do you know this is a chic that you should take seriously?

 

[threattonature]

That's putting the cart before the horse.

Because how do YOU know that she's a keeper before YOU know how YOU are going to feel after YOU smash?

Unless you are just the type of dude who romanticisies a women in your mind.

Which is why the dude from Reddit is in his feels.

WTF? You learn that shyt by talking to the women and actually spending time to get to know them. In what way does it take fukking a woman to learn what kind of woman she is. If you listen long enough every foul woman drops hints at their character and what type of woman they are. The problem is too many times we too horny to pick up on the signals.

 

[jadillac]

These bytches be out here single for YEARS yall really think somebody not tagging on the regular?

A better thread question is, what is SINGLE?

I think that's the crux of the issue alot of times.

Is SINGLE sleeping with 3 different men because you don't want or can't get them to commit? So you're "single" even tho you're being smutted out?

Or are you actually single as in you're not involved with anyone.

I've met a few women who literally are single and haven't had sex in over a year, and I've met others who are likely what I described above

 

[MooseMouthMthafuga]

Women have way too many options.DM's flooded, work husbands, that ex they can't stop fukking etc..etc.Only solution is the apocalypse.

 

[jadillac]

Yeah I was but you said you're not on that type of time. But you also said you don't want to spend bread on a woman unless you know you're serious about her. So how do you get to that point? How do you know this is a chic that you should take seriously?

No bro.

Your post sounded like you're calling up one of however many chicks, ask her to go on a date on a Monday, you pay for everything. Wednesday repeat this with another chick, Friday another, Saturday, repeat etc.

That scenario, for me, is a waste of money because it's not going anywhere. If that's not what you were trying to say then I misunderstood.

 

[desjardins]

Is SINGLE sleeping with 3 different men because you don't want or can't get them to commit? So you're "single" even tho you're being smutted out?

Or are you actually single as in you're not involved with anyone.

single to me means you're not in a relationship
not sure why yall having all kinds of mental gymnastics to demonize this SINGLE woman for having sex
it's a different word when you're not having sex with anyone....that's called being celibate

 

[TheNig]

WTF? You learn that shyt by talking to the women and actually spending time to get to know them. In what way does it take fukking a woman to learn what kind of woman she is. If you listen long enough every foul woman drops hints at their character and what type of woman they are. The problem is too many times we too horny to pick up on the signals.

Too many of these nikkas have no sexual discipline and like to equate fukkin'a bytch with quality time.

 

[Ohene]

It must've been a good date if they continued to see each other. Which makes it wild she went and fukked someone else right after the date. Who is to say that they did fukk again after the relationship started

shorty might think its a good date, but she doesnt know if homeboy feels the same

i have been on dates where I thought me and the girl had a good time only for her to send me a paragraph and say shes not interested the next day. I've been on dates where i knew i was never gonna holla at the shorty again, even though I treated her the way a gentleman treats a woman.

 

[BrehWyatt]

A first date means absolutely nothing
There was no guarantee she would even hear from dude again
She supposed to cut off her roster and rearrange her life because a nikka took her on ONE date?
She was wrong for lying about it but dude already went through her phone and was clearly insecure about it so she was probably trying to save his feelings
You should always assume people are fukking other people until they commit to you. These bytches be out here single for YEARS yall really think somebody not tagging on the regular? Better yet who are you fukking as a man? Do yall cut off your roster cause some random agreed to go on a date with you

Depends on the man and how well the date went from a discovery and enjoyment standpoint. In this case, the date was good enough for other dates to follow, and they eventually became a couple, albeit a short-lived one.

I think that if you have a roster, retain it until you are certain you've met someone worth exclusivity and are willing to pursue it. Once you reach that realization, cut 'em off.

For some people, it only takes them one date to figure that out.

That's putting the cart before the horse.

Because how do YOU know that she's a keeper before YOU know how YOU are going to feel after YOU smash?

Unless you are just the type of dude who romanticisies a women in your mind.

Which is why the dude from Reddit is in his feels.

This almost implies that a relationship's foundation should be on sexual compatibility (which, on some level, can be learned/taught). There are plenty of people in this world you might be sexually compatible with, but that doesn't make them worthy of a relationship.

 

[jadillac]

single to me means you're not in a relationship
not sure why yall having all kinds of mental gymnastics to demonize this SINGLE woman for having sex
it's a different word when you're not having sex with anyone....that's called being celibate

But what I'm telling you is, EVERYONE has a DIFFERENT meaning for the term "single".

If I meet a nice young lady at a church (I'm speaking traditional church girl reputation, with values) who says she's "single" , you're telling I should automatically assume she's sleeping with multiple men, but just uncommitted to them?

What's "single" about that?
That's like these "conservatives" who claim conservative values....but cheat, steal, lie, drink do drugs etc.

 

[Ohene]

But what I'm telling you is, EVERYONE has a DIFFERENT meaning for the term "single".

If I meet a nice young lady at a church (I'm speaking traditional church girl reputation, with values) who says she's "single" , you're telling I should automatically assume she's sleeping with multiple men, but just uncommitted to them?

What's "single" about that?
That's like these "conservatives" who claim conservative values....but cheat, steal, lie, drink do drugs etc.

church girls be the biggest hoes/reformed hoes though. you may be inclined even more to assume she sleeping with somebody.

 

[jesc07]

But what I'm telling you is, EVERYONE has a DIFFERENT meaning for the term "single".

If I meet a nice young lady at a church (I'm speaking traditional church girl reputation, with values) who says she's "single" , you're telling I should automatically assume she's sleeping with multiple men, but just uncommitted to them?

What's "single" about that?
That's like these "conservatives" who claim conservative values....but cheat, steal, lie, drink do drugs etc.

You should not worry about that and just worry about yourself and making sure you got one foot in and one foot out at all times.

It doesn't matter if you are single, in a relationship, or married...you should always play the game accordingly.

 

[Scaaar]

No bro.

Your post sounded like you're calling up one of however many chicks, ask her to go on a date on a Monday, you pay for everything. Wednesday repeat this with another chick, Friday another, Saturday, repeat etc.

That scenario, for me, is a waste of money because it's not going anywhere. If that's not what you were trying to say then I misunderstood.

Oh...yeah I do that lol. But I make enough that I'm able to do so without changing my standard of living. All dudes should date within their budget. But yeah if I'm interested in going somewhere and I want female companionship I'll ask a chic out. I might buy two tickets to an event months ahead and decide who I want to ask a week or two before it. They can be someone I'm romantically pursuing, FWBs, female platonic friend, etc. Sometimes they might offer to pay but mostly I cover the tab since I invited them. To you that might be a waste but I don't view it that way. I like to live and enjoy life while experiencing people and new things. No point in just sitting on money. Tomorrow is never promised

 

[MMS]

She didn't. At the same time, why is she going on dates if she's already getting fukked by some dude? You'd never hear the end of it if the roles were reversed and a woman finds out you fukked another bytch after dropping her off at home on your first date.

i had to kick a woman out for this reason so another woman could come through. In fact I had one where one came to "talk" about her dude while I had a woman already at my place. When I wouldn't let her stay and didn't tell her why I think it bothered her. Yet if you ask numerous women they do a similar act on the men they are talking to under the guise of non-exclusivity. Basically as soon as one man says I'll spend sexy time with you but I don't want to be seen with you it sends them for a loop, that other men end up suffering from.

im not saying in retrospect that I'm proud of it but this is the truth to me. I get the feeling there was a similar dynamic before phones and people sent only love letters and shyt back and forth. I still don't like texting or writing for that matter when I can just speak to someone directly.

As soon as the distance is gone the writing doesn't have any strength either

womens need for 2+ partners has nothing to do with pleasure, but control. Big love proved the opposite is not necessarily true