Hours after 1st Date She Let Another Man Hit | Boyfriend finds out 4 Months Later

[BrehWyatt]

Idk why you would be mad at this, she was already hooking up with the other guy. She didn't know OP so she really didn't do anything wrong

Ego, like @Umoja said.

The way OP put it, a chick he ultimately saw as worth a relationship hooked up with another man who didn't deem her worth a relationship, not even 12 hours after OP took her on a date. His ego took a hit, and if not for his stance on sex on the first date, that potentially could have been him.

The truth of the matter is that many relationships only happened because somebody else mishandled another person and/or didn't see what they were worth until another person cuffed them.

Can't have it both ways.

 

[TripleAgent]

and i know you're getting bored dealing with himmmmmm

I don’t care how some of y’all try to spin it, but fukking a dude RIGHT after going on a date with a different dude is mad disrespectful. It would be one thing if it was a bad date and she had this dude lined up just in case, but the fact that she eventually got in a relationship with this dude says otherwise. If he made a good enough impression on that first date to the point she saw potential in him to stay with him, she should’ve cut that other dude off, especially when the other dude never committed to her. slowed down on the side dikk and given herself a chance to properly pair bond before fukking the FWB.

 

[Umoja]

I feel like not scheduling yourself to get fukked immediately after our date isn't a big ask but I guess I'm a prude

This is one of those situations where I think men are playing themselves by saying what they expect women to want them to say.

The reality is that women get sentimental over firsts dates once the relationship becomes official. The reality is that if they were to present the situation to their mother or sister, they would want better for them. If the women in question were to speak to their brother or son in a similar situation, they'd want better for them.

It's not about the woman doing something wrong which is what this generation struggles with. People are allowed to do what they want and people are allowed to walk away if their expectations are not met.

 

[Thurgood Thurston III]

Happens way more often than dudes know

I was gonna say this.

Usually, they are in the mood if the date went well

And if you don't make the move....

....They will hit up their "itch scratcher".

And there's nothing wrong with that.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

This is actually a really good discussion and I agree with both sides of the argument.

Let me get in on this.

For me personally, I have never had a roster of people I am sleeping and I've never been one to sleep around. Now, a lot of people don't believe this, but it's true. I'm incredibly loyal and my eyes don't stray.

I am a very practical, skeptical and A-line thinker so hopping from bed to bed has never made sense to me. It's completely reckless and illogical IMO.

When dating I ALWAYS assume the other person is having sex with someone else.

I think having sex with multiple people is nasty and a terrible idea for a woman especially because a dude being in other women can mess up your PH and cause you to get BV among other things.

HOWEVER, if dating a desirable man you'd have to be an idiot to think he isn't getting cheeks so if you are having sex the best you can do is get tested (both of you) and wear a condom to stay safe.

I won't lie the thought of a man I really like having sex with someone else is a turn off for me. As a result (and because I assume everyone is) i don't get emotionally attached easily.

It's to the point now where I have had multipe men I have dated tell me "You act like a nikka!!" or accuse me of cheating. One guy told me I was too "attractive to trust" and all types of wild shyt.



I'm not emotionally investing in a dude giving out dikks like lollipops. But I'm also not going to hold it against him. We can date and, if we decide that is the best thing for us, we can see about being commited but I ain't crying or carrying on with anyone unless I know we are 100% on the same page.

So I agree with both sides. Great discussion.

 

[BrehWyatt]

I feel like not scheduling yourself to get fukked immediately after our date isn't a big ask but I guess I'm a prude

In all seriousness, it's not something that has to be asked if both sides are feeling each other.

However, there was no relationship in place to where this sort of "respect" was owed. It really just comes down to the strength of one's ego.

 

[SheWantTheD]

If you think some shorty you went on a date ain't go to her situationship nikka after y'all date or the next day you got another thing coming.

Unless of course she went back to yours

 

[Scaaar]

This is one of those situations where I think men are playing themselves by saying what they expect women to want them to say.

The reality is that women get sentimental over firsts dates once the relationship becomes official. The reality is that if they were to present the situation to their mother or sister, they would want better for them. If the women in question were to speak to their brother or son in a similar situation, they'd want better for them.

It's not about the woman doing something wrong which is what this generation struggles with. People are allowed to do what they want and people are allowed to walk away if their expectations are not met.

This part!! Like I said dudes are putting the cart before the horse. A lot of people go on a first date with someone and never talk to that person again because the chemistry was off or they're not in alignment on life goals, etc. it's called active dating.I know most of the brehs in here don't get the opportunity so that's probably why it's stumping them. Y'all egos and level of entitlement for a first date is crazy! No wonder y'all go through dry spells. Be scaring all the hoes off trying to plan the next 10 yrs on the first date

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Womp I’m not homeless though, didn’t your street walker days teach u not to believe what a man says?

Dumb bytch u fasho burnt out you wouldn’t even fix your lips to speak to a nikka like me irl, you used up hoe show some respect

Yes I would and then I'd pay better nikkas than you to beat your begging for change looking ass.

And you wouldn't be the first.



Anyway, nobody actually gives a fukk about you dawg or how many homeless shelters you left Google reviews for.

This is a good thread. You're killing the fukking vibe with you sensitive ass. Go somewhere.

 

[Apprentice]

Yes I would and then I'd pay better nikkas than you to beat your begging for change looking ass.

And you wouldn't be the first.



Anyway, nobody actually gives a fukk about you dawg or how many homeless shelters you left Google reviews for.

This is a good thread. You're killing the fukking vibe with you sensitive ass. Go somewhere.

Lls I’ll Apple Pay you 100 if you post a picture of yourself right now

No pretty women would be posting on the Coli as much as you do, you’re a used up whore who comes to men communities to get attention u wouldn’t in real life lmfao

A homeless nikka has more value than you, your p*ssy broken and you 40+ with no kids and no husband. Just a keyboard, consider killing yourself nfs

 

[Umoja]

This part!! Like I said dudes are putting the cart before the horse. A lot of people go on a first date with someone and never talk to that person again because the chemistry was off or they're not in alignment on life goals, etc. it's called active dating.I know most of the brehs in here don't get the opportunity so that's probably why it's stumping them. Y'all egos and level of entitlement for a first date is crazy! No wonder y'all go through dry spells. Be scaring all the hoes off trying to plan the next 10 yrs on the first date

We're not in agreement, you fool.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Brehs can move like this too. But they be so focused on getting sex they literally be scaring women off. Just be honest and open upfront on how you're moving and date within your means.


Also yes p*ssy does just fall in your lap.

Imma be honest. The men I have known that have the most women are always generous.

It always amazes me how men want to be stingy and wonder why they don't get good results.

The most generous guy I know has literally had 2 women try to kill him beccause they were so love struck. On some "If I can't have you then no one will!"

He can sit a woman down for 5 years and she will drop everything for him when calls. Even a few women who intentionally got pregnant by him and have their husbands think it's their child. The whole shyt is crazy.

The world is so starved for generosity and general good treatment that people go wild over it.

 

[Meowth tote da Uzi]

Just gotta assume the p*ssy isnt yours until it is. Thats why when you play the field you also gotta have multiple hoes so you can do the same thing. Take a bytch out. Get a lil tipsy then go slang dikk on one of your other bytches.

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

Idk why this is 18 pages

This not even shocking

And it shouldn’t even be on some “well girls always got someone on the side and talking to other dudes” type shyt

If it’s a first date you should either have a roster or be returning to the game

Yall be putting entitlement and relationship values to shyt way to early lol

 

[Scaaar]

Imma be honest. The men I have known that have the most women are always generous.

It always amazes me how men want to be stingy and wonder why they don't get good results.

The most generous guy I know has literally had 2 women try to kill him beccause they were so love struck. On some "If I can't have you then no one will!"

He can sit a woman down for 5 years and she will drop everything for him when calls. Even a few women who intentionally got pregnant by him and have their husbands think it's their child. The whole shyt is crazy.

The world is so starved for generosity and general good treatment that people go wild over it.

It's because a lot of these so called six fig/six cert dudes aren't actually that. The lifestyle they claim to live and then the amount of stuff they complain about don't compute. It's a lot of broke, angry, and bitter dudes in their late 20s/early 30s mad at the world and on the Internet angry when they need to be downstairs cleaning that kitchen before their mom gets home