Indeed.
A lot of these Black women wake up at 30 and then want to get serious about being adults and expect everything to just fall into their laps.
If I have a daughter, I'm going to be in her ear as early as 21 regarding the choices she's making in men, etc.
These woman want to play around from 22-29, which represent their prime years to have choosing power over men. Then, once they hit 30+ and the power dynamics flip, they want to complain and throw nikkas under the bus for not accelerating marriage talks, etc.
Naw. It doesn't work that way.
Lets quickly discuss something, 21 years old is too late.
The Education system is an age focused process and high school is the most crucial time period. Black kids, especially black females have to not only monitor their scores, but also the scores of the males. This is the first indicator of where you will end up economically, hell even socially. I won't even go into detail because this is a thread topic by itself.
Now I work with an Indian guy that one day told me he had to go home and study with his daughter for 2 hours. I asked his daughters age, he said 7. He explained it's an exercise and when she reaches H.S./University/Post Graduate her brain will hold the information. This is the standard by which they raise their daughters by.
So when you say you'll be in her ear at 21, I'm telling you it's too late. You have to be in her ear way before the age of 14 (the earlier the better).