How can men get over emotional baggage?

[Urbanmiracle]

It's hard nowadays cuz everything is revolved around sex. It sells.

 

[Mowgli]

It's obvious that a lot of coli brehs are carrying heavy baggage, myself included. It's why nikkas create thread after thread about rejection, wenching, female disloyalty, etc. I understand that all men do this, so I'm not singling out the coli.

My question is how do we help men get over it? Is that even possible? I don't believe the issue is sex per se, I think it has more to do with feelings of worthlessness. I think a lot of men are seeking a kind of unconditional love that simply might not exist, in which case, maybe the best we can do is advocate for legalized prostitution. Least that way, men can release their frustration sexually, without violence and without the possibility of facing jail time.

What are your thoughts? And please refrain from posting stupid cliches like, "hit the gym" or "chase money not hoes," etc.

Carrying Baggage is a decision. Either you're a man of logic who realizes a bad experience doesn't cast a blanket on a group or you give into your emotions like a bytch and believe bad experiences reflect an entire groups of people. You do this to avoid intimacy and love. It's all weak and pathetic to be honest but it's a choice

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

I've had a modest amount of success with white women

That's because they're not born with the "I want a thug/alpha" gene when it comes to black men.
But trust...it shows up in other areas...they can't be trusted either.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Gymmmmmmmm is the solution to men's most problems

Best way to work out (literally) life's problems.
Then off to the gun range for the closing finisher!

Life's good again!

 

[hatechall]

I agree about the support group. Men are basically taught that emotions are traits of the weak and told to bottle them up. But we feel and we do emote and since we taught never to acknowledge them, we don't know how to handle them correctly.

I think it's just a lot of broken people in the world who need healing. People walk around with this Disney like view of the world and when reality hits you in the face with hatred, lies, mistrust, sexual experimentation, and no sense of self, also rejection, people become bitter and dejected. I know I have. To this day I still don't trust any of these harlots. But I try to remain positive and get back out there and try. It's a game and you gotta be in it to win it. Luckily for me, I have my pops and my aunts and friends I can trust with my feelings to confide in. I think most people just want to express themselves without judgement. They just want to be heard. I used to try to solve everyone problems but in reality, they just wanted me to listen to them which made them feel better because their existence was validated. We gotta heal and be real to each other.

I agree 100%. That's what it's all about.

 

[Sensitive Blake Griffin]

therapy, connected personal relationships with other humans. It's hard because you don't want to admit you're weak and depressed as a man.

 

[Dominicansbelit]

I realized once you start to do what you want to do without comprising everything will fall into place...This is why I appreciate being born a male.. Men can always have bigger and better options .. women can't because they're women

 

[1 other person]

I've had a modest amount of success with white women

Women like men with an edge. A lot of Black women like thugs even though they wont admit it. But on the flipside, pulling a white women being a Black man - just having your black skin is an edge enough.

 

[MercuryHayes]

I realized this lesson long ago, but, at age 30, I still have a soft spot for black women. I'm not sure why, but maybe it's cause I've never slept with one and lately I've just been kinda desperate to have that experience. I've wasted a lot of time and energy over the past couple months chasing them, only to be rejected.

It pissed me off because they always claim that black men get rejected for pursuing women out of their league when that's far from my experience. Yesterday I got rejected by a fat, ugly single mother who claim she's looking for an "alpha". This has happened to me multiple times with black women of all types, so it's not because I'm pursuing the wrong types. I think it's more likely that I'm just not meant to be with one.

I never thought it would come to this but someday imma order me the baddest black escort in my city, all over her face and be done with it. From now on, I'm only using them for sex - - that's all they're really good for. Aside from the women in my immediate family, I just don't care about them.

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