How Can You Expect Someone to Cook and Clean AND Bring in 50% of the Income?

[Ashley Banks]

Me and my girl have our own places. She takes care of her place and mine. Cooking and cleaning at both spots

I feel compassion for dudes dealing with these "what I won't do" a## chicks out here nowadays. Won't cook for him. Won't clean for him. Won't be in pocket for him. Won't do anything for him unless it benefits her. Won't. Won't. Won't.

So, I'm going to light some candles. Dress in black. Recite some chants. And pray for these n#ggas dealing with these "won't" chicks

Let us pray

Peace

eww

this thread is disgusting.

 

[bcrusaderw]

Cmon you cant be serious No man wants a women to be "in control" to lead, we aint following yall, its HAS to be the other way around or it wont work... You have way too many things on your checklist, and have unrealistic expectations, you should really be more flexible, it will take you further. so let me get this straight, you wont/cant cook, you don't want to clean, you want to wear the pants in the relationship and be the bread winner? you might as well stay single, and just date casually. let me guess, you are not that type either? You are asking for too much and aren't giving up enough in return, men don't follow women, it doesn't work that way, Gender roles are REAL and if you expect to maintain a happy relationship you will find your lane and stay in it, and let him do what he is supposed to do.. you must be young



what he said

Nope to all of that. There are plenty of men out there who don't fit what you say, and I can't wait to find him.

 

[bcrusaderw]

eww

this thread is disgusting.

It really is. She pays the bills at her place, but still cooks and cleans at his? Does she actually go over there cook and clean then go home to do the same? Desperate girl.

 

[Rayzah]

It really is. She pays the bolls at her place, but still cooks and cleans at his? Does she actually go over there cook and clean then go home to do the same? Desperate girl.

so what exactly would you be bringing to the table to make this unico.. I mean man want to choose you over everyone else?

 

[Ashley Banks]

It really is. She pays the bolls at her place, but still cooks and cleans at his? Does she actually go over there cook and clean then go home to do the same? Desperate girl.

seriously, these dudes want a slave not a gf/wife.

 

[bcrusaderw]

so what exactly would you be bringing to the table to make this unico.. I mean man want to choose you over everyone else?

Lol he isn't going to marry that girl. He'll string her along for the free sex, maid, and cooking services, but she's not getting a ring. The kind of male I'm looking for wants a dominant partner, and that's what I'll bring him. What do you patriarch-lites bring your partners? You aren't even willing/able to fully provide, but you want to be the leaders. You sound like children.

 

[Rayzah]

Lol he isn't going to marry that girl. He'll string her along for the free sex, maid, and cooking services, but she's not getting a ring. The kind of male I'm looking for wants a dominant partner, and that's what I'll bring him. What do you patriarch-lites bring your partners? You aren't even willing/able to fully provide, but you want to be the leaders. You sound like children.

oh you one of them gotcha, you speak for every man and know what they are going to do I am done here.. you and whoever keeps dapping you should hook up..

 

[bcrusaderw]

oh you one of them gotcha, you speak for every man and know what they are going to do I am done here.. you and whoever keeps dapping you should hook up..

Didn't you just try to speak for every man by saying what kind of relationship they would tolerate? Guess speaking for men is only okay when you follow a silly narative. @Juicy is lovely and respectable, but she's a woman, and I like men.

 

[Rayzah]

Didn't you just try to speak for every man by saying what kind of relationship they would tolerate? Guess speaking for men is only okay when you follow a silly narative. @Juicy is lovely and respectable, but she's a woman, and I like men.

you are just disagreeing to disagree now.... but its cool, you want a submissive man that is inferior to you mentally and financially, so you can walk all over him, and have the security of knowing he is too soft to put his foot down... to each his own.... like I said they make men like that but they are softer than drug store cotton, don't get mad when he isn't able to protect you because he lacks confidence in his self or even the heart to step up to another man..

*edit* "Lol he isn't going to marry that girl. He'll string her along for the free sex, maid, and cooking services, but she's not getting a ring"
I hope you don't think everyman is like this

 

[Ashley Banks]

you are just disagreeing to disagree now.... but its cool, you want a submissive man that is inferior to you mentally and financially, so you can walk all over him, and have the security of knowing he is too soft to put his foot down... to each his own.... like I said they make men like that but they are softer than drug store cotton, don't get mad when he isn't able to protect you because he lacks confidence in his self or even the heart to step up to another man..

*edit* "Lol he isn't going to marry that girl. He'll string her along for the free sex, maid, and cooking services, but she's not getting a ring"
I hope you don't think everyman is like this

see this is why I would never in my life date a man that wants a submissive woman, they you're inferior mentally and they want to walk all over you. It's disturbing honestly.

 

[Rayzah]

see this is why I would never in my life date a man that wants a submissive woman, they you're inferior mentally and they want to walk all over you. It's disturbing honestly.

Yall are looking at this all wrong, women shouldn't be all aggresseive and cold, wanting to fight and all that, but at the sametime that doesn't mean you shouldn't be able to get yourself out of a bad situation or be a complete punk.. its not about walking all over you, its about knowing what the opposite sex wants in a relationship. if you make more than me than fine, but I"M the ambitious type, I'm not going to be ok making 50k a year, and im not going to be ok with paying most of the bills, fixing everything driving paying for our dates, when you make significantly more money than me, that my friend is selfish of you and whoever expects that..

 

[Ashley Banks]

Yall are looking at this all wrong, women shouldn't be all aggresseive and cold, wanting to fight and all that, but at the sametime that doesn't mean you shouldn't be able to get yourself out of a bad situation or be a complete punk.. its not about walking all over you, its about knowing what the opposite sex wants in a relationship. if you make more than me than fine, but I"M the ambitious type, I'm not going to be ok making 50k a year, and im not going to be ok with paying most of the bills, fixing everything driving paying for our dates, when you make significantly more money than me, that my friend is selfish of you and whoever expects that..

idk what you're talking about, breh

i just don't wanna cook and clean up after a man. I think it's extremely selfish to expect a woman to do all that for you while you lay around and do nothing, it honestly makes me sick to my stomach that the dudes in here are trying to shame women into being slaves.

 

[Rayzah]

idk what you're talking about, breh

i just don't wanna cook and clean up after a man. I think it's extremely selfish to expect a woman to do all that for you while you lay around and do nothing, it honestly makes me sick to my stomach that the dudes in here are trying to shame women into being slaves.

Again you are looking at it wrong, that's not about making you a slave or walking all over you, I also didn't say I would be sitting down playing Xbox while you clean.. You are taking it to the extreme.. I clean some days and you should be ok doing the same

 

[Elle Driver]

idk what you're talking about, breh

i just don't wanna cook and clean up after a man. I think it's extremely selfish to expect a woman to do all that for you while you lay around and do nothing, it honestly makes me sick to my stomach that the dudes in here are trying to shame women into being slaves.

It doesn't make any sense to want a woman to maintain the gender norm role of cooking and cleaning while she has to work and tend to her children. Women could do those things back then because they didn't have to work. But now it's like we have to maintain the gender norm role while men don't. How many men are actually capable of being leaders? Providing for their woman? Taking initiative and protecting his women/children? Then some men have the audacity to say women are gold diggers and women are after their money? But ain't you supposed to be able to provide? That's kind of the norm to want to upgrade yourself because thats the gender norm role they've put on themselves. That's why women are automatically the caregivers of children and given child custody. Because those roles are normal. You can't want women to fulfill their "role" when certain men can't even fulfill theirs.

 

[Ashley Banks]

It doesn't make any sense to want a woman to maintain the gender norm role of cooking and cleaning while she has to work and tend to her children. Women could do those things back then because they didn't have to work. But now it's like we have to maintain the gender norm role while men don't. How many men are actually capable of being leaders? Providing for their woman? Taking initiative and protecting his women/children? Then some men have the audacity to say women are gold diggers and women are after their money? But ain't you supposed to be able to provide? That's kind of the norm to want to upgrade yourself because thats the gender norm role they've put on themselves. That's why women are automatically the caregivers of children and given child custody. Because those roles are normal. You can't want women to fulfill their "role" and when certain men can't even fulfill theirs.

Do you remember that thread teedot made, a lot of these dudes bring absolutely NOTHING to a relationship but they expect the impossible from women. They won't protect you, won't provide for you, shyt they don't even want to marry you but you're supposed to bend over backwards for them.