"How do I tell my husband that he's boring and a loser and that I want to divorce him?"
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GetInTheTruck
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Most foreign couples are like that. They get corrupted when they come over here.
first, someone can ask the same question 100 times..
and i can answer it 100 different ways- that's part of my style
now to the point..
one thing i "learned" via the coli was a book suggested by @Blackrogue
the unbearable lightness of being by Milan Kundera
anyway, listened to that shyt on audiobook during my morning walks
they later made it a movie with lena olin being the bisexual mistress
...anyway, at one point, the author discusses the lead male character
saying there were two types of people..
those who go for different versions of the same mate
and those who go for the unique quality in each mate (=the way my mind works)
and as the author pointed out, and i believe it is true
is that..
people who go for different version of same mate are destined for unhappiness
because you never get it "all" in one package
so these people are constantly comparing and contrasting
well, girl #1 is better at this, but girl #2 is better at that, but girl #1 can do this other thing better than #2, and etc
..basically, a receipe for being a malcontent
never satisfied with what is in front of you
(because you are comparing both #1 and #2 against perfect dream woman who doesn't exist)
while the "unique quality" style is enjoying their mate
without the comparisons..
and as long as it is good, then it is good
and they find happiness
now, if we say this concept is true, then think of the applications..
my first wife died in an accident..
no bringing her back
and i date, and date, and date..
and find a great candidate for wife #2
so i get to enjoy #2 for the woman she is, without trying to compare her to #1
don't you see how that is a better situation.. than just trying to replace what i lost??
yet many of my male friends were confused.. like..
well, apart from being good looking, they didn't think she was my "style" at all
there are some superficial things.. like they both likd to dance..
but basically, different people
anyway, you can't change who you are..
if you have one erotic mold, and that's what you want for wifey..
then you are pretty much stuck chasing that rainbow
but flip it around..
do you want a woman with one mold??
remember when they used to call... (forgot that basketball player's name) a poor man's kobe bryant??
i mean, you want to be a poor copy of what she really wants??
some brehs try to get around the comparisons by targeting virgins
but unless they have been in a vacuum bubble
even virgins have developed some "erotic exposure"
and if they have a target in mind, then the mental comparisons will still linger even if she is naive on actual experience
just something to consider
and i can answer it 100 different ways- that's part of my style
now to the point..
one thing i "learned" via the coli was a book suggested by @Blackrogue
the unbearable lightness of being by Milan Kundera
anyway, listened to that shyt on audiobook during my morning walks
they later made it a movie with lena olin being the bisexual mistress
...anyway, at one point, the author discusses the lead male character
saying there were two types of people..
those who go for different versions of the same mate
and those who go for the unique quality in each mate (=the way my mind works)
and as the author pointed out, and i believe it is true
is that..
people who go for different version of same mate are destined for unhappiness
because you never get it "all" in one package
so these people are constantly comparing and contrasting
well, girl #1 is better at this, but girl #2 is better at that, but girl #1 can do this other thing better than #2, and etc
..basically, a receipe for being a malcontent
never satisfied with what is in front of you
(because you are comparing both #1 and #2 against perfect dream woman who doesn't exist)
while the "unique quality" style is enjoying their mate
without the comparisons..
and as long as it is good, then it is good
and they find happiness
now, if we say this concept is true, then think of the applications..
my first wife died in an accident..
no bringing her back
and i date, and date, and date..
and find a great candidate for wife #2
so i get to enjoy #2 for the woman she is, without trying to compare her to #1
don't you see how that is a better situation.. than just trying to replace what i lost??
yet many of my male friends were confused.. like..
well, apart from being good looking, they didn't think she was my "style" at all
there are some superficial things.. like they both likd to dance..
but basically, different people
anyway, you can't change who you are..
if you have one erotic mold, and that's what you want for wifey..
then you are pretty much stuck chasing that rainbow
but flip it around..
do you want a woman with one mold??
remember when they used to call... (forgot that basketball player's name) a poor man's kobe bryant??
i mean, you want to be a poor copy of what she really wants??
some brehs try to get around the comparisons by targeting virgins
but unless they have been in a vacuum bubble
even virgins have developed some "erotic exposure"
and if they have a target in mind, then the mental comparisons will still linger even if she is naive on actual experience
just something to consider
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I always assume they just put on a good public face (since divorces are frowned upon in a lot of other countries) and are dysfunctional at home.
But maybe that's just my cynical American perspective.
Meanwhile my lady thinks I'm the smartest guy she's ever dated 
GetInTheTruck
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I always assume they just put on a good public face (since divorces are frowned upon in a lot of other countries) and are dysfunctional at home.
But maybe that's just my cynical American perspective.
Im sure it's like that sometimes but I know for the most part them couples are for life. If it's a fresh marriage and they come here the woman usually gets corrupted by all this "never settle" bullshyt you hear on tv and in music and it's all downhill from there.
#SOG_soldier
New York knicks and phoenix suns stan
This toxic culture would corrupt herIf you go to some other country and find the perfect woman, what do you think will happen if you move her to America?
You gotta be retarded to marry a western woman in 2016, there's no benefit.
#GMB cant stop wont stop winning.
#GMB cant stop wont stop winning.
"The Way of the Superior Man" touches on this. First and foremost a man has to have a purpose and everything he does in life must go towards this purpose. Everything decision in his life must line up with his purpose, not the other way around.
Women respect that. Women don't want to be with a man who is "lost"
SheWantTheD
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We don't know that. We don't know what she considers an ambitious person. Funny thing is she only talked about him and what he isn't and what he's not doing but she didn't mention not once how she's passionate and ambitious herself.
#WesternWomenYall
I thought you were chaste?
AquaCityBoy
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We obviously know he's not ambitious enough for her--that's why she's making that post in the first place.
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SheWantTheD
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She must not be that much of a catch either if he was her only option and she stayed with him out of convenience. Why doesn't she help motivate him to chase for what he wants in life? Women want a man that already has it all, that's already at the top of his life without her bringing anything to the table.
You can't make this stuff up
SheWantTheD
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You mean he's not ambitious enough for her?We obviously know she's not ambitious enough for him--that's why she's making that post in the first place.