How do people fall in love more than once?

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This. I’ve fallen into infatuation and lust many times but I can honestly say I don’t know if I’ve ever genuinely been in love.

This. I don't think "romantic love" exists. Too many people do shytty things to their partners that they claim they love.

But what do I know, I don't think I've ever been in "love" :manny:
 

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This. I’ve fallen into infatuation and lust many times but I can honestly say I don’t know if I’ve ever genuinely been in love.

Lust is a great feeling. Sometimes it can be just as powerful as love, just not as long-lasting.

Many folks have thrown their family to the bushes over lust
 

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Happier no i don't think I will ever reach that level of happiness again haven't seen her in awhile but we talk maybe once a month I will probably always miss her to an extent but I've learned to accept it over time. Sometimes shyt just doesn't work out I firmly believe you can only control your own actions so nothing I can do :yeshrug:

Why do you maintain contact breh? If you don’t mind me asking. Do you feel you may have a future with the person. To be honest I’m kind of tempted to text her but it’s been over a year since we last spoke :patrice: I feel like letting go is the hardest part I want exhaust every avenue before I can let go
 

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It means dont rely on other people for love & happiness. If you love yourself and make yourself happy, no one can hold that hostage or hold that over you.

The people who are most attractive are the ones who arent desperate. Those who have confidence that no matter how other people feel or treat them, they know they will be alright because they can provide themselves with happiness and fulfillment. When they face rejection, they are grateful because they know it's just redirection. It just wasnt meant for them. :manny:

You've probably heard it as: Be your own love. Reparent yourself. Be your own #1 fan. Treat yourself as you want others to treat you.

What about when you miss that person that you loved?
 

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You fall in love with the person you think they are... you fall out of love when they don’t live up to the image that you want to see. The cycle continues with each new relationship. Some people are able to love past an image but it does take experience to get to where you’re capable of loving despite the full reveal of the other persons flaws.

Then of course a lot of people mistake infatuation for love so it’s easy to confuse that feeling.:yeshrug:
 

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It means dont rely on other people for love & happiness. If you love yourself and make yourself happy, no one can hold that hostage or hold that over you.

The people who are most attractive are the ones who arent desperate. Those who have confidence that no matter how other people feel or treat them, they know they will be alright because they can provide themselves with happiness and fulfillment. When they face rejection, they are grateful because they know it's just redirection. It just wasnt meant for them. :manny:

You've probably heard it as: Be your own love. Reparent yourself. Be your own #1 fan. Treat yourself as you want others to treat you.
nice avi lol

thanks for the breakdown. still trying to learn to love myself. these are ideas that i've only recently encountered so its a long process
 

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Why do you maintain contact breh? If you don’t mind me asking. Do you feel you may have a future with the person. To be honest I’m kind of tempted to text her but it’s been over a year since we last spoke :patrice: I feel like letting go is the hardest part I want exhaust every avenue before I can let go
Nope no chance of getting back together I won't go into details but we are friends to an extent luckily I'm a nice person lol.
 

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Petty Vandross.. fukk Yall
You have to be a masochist :mjlol:
I’ve only been in love 3 times..
The first one destroyed me..
Still have lingering effects till this day..
But I also learn something’s about myself..
And in reality..
I wasn’t who I am today..
I was just a young knucklehead..
Second..
Was my ex wife..
I loved her but it was that “deep love”..
Looking back on it..
I think we tolerated each other..
But we also grew from that relationship..
And we are awesome co-parents..
My current wife is it..
She embodies everything I’ve wanted my whole life..
She’s my lover, friend and rock..
Couldn’t ask for a better partner..
We just get each other..
We are both whole weirdos..
That don’t try to change each other..
But we listen..
Not saying it’s a Disney movie..
We have disagreements but we resolve them..
In an adult manner..
This love quite possibly will break me..
If it falls apart..
I’m not stupid to the world..
Seen way too much fukkery..
But I’m enjoying the time and journey..
She’s just a wonderful woman that I will always love..
As long as nikka like Skeet doesn’t come through:mjgrin:
I really can’t tell young dudes not to feel the way they do..
It’s so trash ass females out here(men are not exempt either)..
Hearing some of my boys dating stories:picard:
And then I get my wife’s friends stories:mjtf::merchant::wtf:
It’s a lot of emotionally fukked up people outchea:wow:
I was one of them until I started counseling..
And started accepting accountability for myself..
But not only that..
I stopped projecting onto people..
What I thought they should be..
Learning to accept people as they are..
Knowing when to leave..
Knowing yourself and loving yourself..
Actually “feeling” shyt..
Instead of closing yourself off..
Is how I found love..
Yeah I know that is hippy/dippy..
New age..
Juelz Santana..
iyanla vanzant talk:russ:
But that cliche of loving yourself..
Is very true..
Once you deal with them demons and just accept the way life is..
shyt really does reveal itself..
Word to Neo:wow:
 

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What about when you miss that person that you loved?
Miss them. But move on. Dont get stuck.

I miss being a kid and watching Saturday morning cartoons and eating sugary cereal and not having bills. But I still get up and get to work everyday. Because Im not a kid anymore. That time has passed.

Stay present.
 
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After you put your all into somebody and that doesn’t work out, how are people able to love someone ever again?

humans are like ants....

once shyt falls apart....you get up and start right backing building again

what's the alternative? live life in fear scared to get hurt again?

too many people waste time existing instead of actually living.
 

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humans are like ants....

once shyt falls apart....you get up and start right backing building again

what's the alternative? live life in fear scared to get hurt again?

too many people waste time existing instead of actually living.



I wouldn’t call it an alternative but more of a realization. It’s similar to how I loved wrestling as a kid but lost interest once I found out it was fake. The same thing happened with love and relafionships. I’m so jaded at this point I don’t even think about relationships, companionship, or any type of commitment at all. It’s like once the love and trust is gone it’s gone for forever. I don’t even think I have capacity to love again. I don’t get that close to people anymore, friendships included.
 

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I don't know if you actually do

After my massive first heartbreak, I lost the CAPACITY to be that upset ever again

After that, I got married. I loved my ex desperately, but I never did the kinds of things I did when I was first heartbroken

I wouldn't talk hardly at all

Lost a lot of weight

Threatened to kill myself

Begged and begged

When the separation and divorce came about, I couldn't muster energy to do any of that shyt. I actually just moved out and was fukcing a new chick in my new apt in under 1 week

Now: I almost forgot all about my last gf and we were together for 5 years. We broke up a few years ago and I hardly even think about her

So I think you get one great love/heartbreak, and after that you're forever broken.
 
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