Marco Zen
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That's the only way I went to bars/ clubs
How do y'all go out alone?
- Thread starter Ezekiel 25:17
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As an introvert who likes going solo trips, I like being at a bar just to get a drink and watch the game. If you don’t want to be bothered, sit at a table, but if you want interaction, the bar is the best place to sit.
Other solo patrons spark convos with you, the bartender can help you find things to do if you’re in a new city, and the alcohol helps you stop overthinking so you can be your relaxed self.
Another place I like to go solo are concerts. Even though I may look weird going alone, I’ve ended up talking to people and exchanging information more times than not, especially in the merch or food lines.
It’s easy to make conversation at a concert because y’all are all there for the same reason (you like the artist), which means that you probably have some more music in common. Sometimes when you’re solo and want to talk to others,you gotta take a risk and go for it, and even if you didn’t get what you wanted that night, you got some practice and had a good night.
Other solo patrons spark convos with you, the bartender can help you find things to do if you’re in a new city, and the alcohol helps you stop overthinking so you can be your relaxed self.
Another place I like to go solo are concerts. Even though I may look weird going alone, I’ve ended up talking to people and exchanging information more times than not, especially in the merch or food lines.
It’s easy to make conversation at a concert because y’all are all there for the same reason (you like the artist), which means that you probably have some more music in common. Sometimes when you’re solo and want to talk to others,you gotta take a risk and go for it, and even if you didn’t get what you wanted that night, you got some practice and had a good night.
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i do some of my best work on solo missions 
Actually both
i always feel weird about it too.
i've gone out to eat alone at lunch during work, but that's really it. there been times when i wanted to go see a movie alone before, but never did. i just try to find someone to go with or wait for it to get released..........
i definitely never gone to the bar or club alone though. i couldn't do it outside of like a business trip or something personally. but when i'm on a business trip i usually got a co-worker to hit the bar with anyway.
i've gone out to eat alone at lunch during work, but that's really it. there been times when i wanted to go see a movie alone before, but never did. i just try to find someone to go with or wait for it to get released..........
i definitely never gone to the bar or club alone though. i couldn't do it outside of like a business trip or something personally. but when i'm on a business trip i usually got a co-worker to hit the bar with anyway.
This thread really got me going 
Here is the thing. Pay attention and it will solve all your problems.
NOBODY IS GIVING A shyt ABOUT YOU, THEY ARE TOO WRAPPED UP IN THEIR WORLDS TO NOTICE YOU ARE BY YOUR SELF.
Go outside, live your life.
Here is the thing. Pay attention and it will solve all your problems.
NOBODY IS GIVING A shyt ABOUT YOU, THEY ARE TOO WRAPPED UP IN THEIR WORLDS TO NOTICE YOU ARE BY YOUR SELF.
Go outside, live your life.
IVS
Superstar
with clothes on
There's something wrong with me.
I've never been anywhere alone. I think it's different for women though. I personally would not go to a bar, or a club by myself. I've always felt like it would be awkward to eat by myself somewhere, so I've never done it.
UpAndComing
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There's something wrong with me.
I've never been anywhere alone. I think it's different for women though. I personally would not go to a bar, or a club by myself. I've always felt like it would be awkward to eat by myself somewhere, so I've never done it.
Not different for women. Have plenty of women in the family or friends I know that have no problem enjoying their own company
Just try it. Take baby steps. Go out to the park alone and walk, go to the movies alone, go out to eat alone. It's therapeutic
How is it therapeutic? Are yall getting tables by yourself, or sitting at the bar and eating? And this is only during the week right? I can't imagine going out to a bar on the weekend by myself.
Word..
Only broads in them areas like Philly or NYC approach boldly but they have masculine tendencies up there anyway.
And yea...i've simply didn't look at chicks and they get pissy and talk shyt
UpAndComing
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If you want to do it during the week, sure. Its therapeutic because you are getting to know yourself. Doing an activity where you aren't yearning for feedback from another person. Doesn't even matter if you're on your phone the whole time, its still the same process
Doing this builds your mental. Value in alone time is value in yourself. I do it all the time. And I'm the type that doesn't get effected by people's opinion of me. I laugh in their face, or shrug it off. Cause my knowledge of self is sky high
Also brehs need to work on them social skills at work,class or something...
I've always had no problems having good conversation with both men and women..my problem was always confidence...so I found that talking with women became much easier.
THIS breh..
I was all fukked up..homeless,shytty confidence so I would just goto the park, play guitar and trying to bag bytches was THE LAST THING on my mind. But the instrument/music draws people in. I would just sit there and they would put themselves in my presence to make it easier for me to talk to them and that is how I slowly built my game/confidence up.
I play music, they sit in the grass or on the bench next to me...I say hi...they say hi back and then it's game on
At first I wasn't really expecting chicks to be fukking with me,so I noticed a few times after the fact that them chicks wanted me to ask for the number...we'd be chatting...i'd see them pulling out their phone, and I would just be
That's another thing...even if you get chicks choosing, you have to be confident in yourself and feel worthy of the attention...My head was all jacked up as I was living in a shelter so I couldn't fully fukk with chicks at that point in time...( i eventually stopped giving a fukk though
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I've always had no problems having good conversation with both men and women..my problem was always confidence...so I found that talking with women became much easier.
THIS breh..
I was all fukked up..homeless,shytty confidence so I would just goto the park, play guitar and trying to bag bytches was THE LAST THING on my mind. But the instrument/music draws people in. I would just sit there and they would put themselves in my presence to make it easier for me to talk to them and that is how I slowly built my game/confidence up.
I play music, they sit in the grass or on the bench next to me...I say hi...they say hi back and then it's game on
At first I wasn't really expecting chicks to be fukking with me,so I noticed a few times after the fact that them chicks wanted me to ask for the number...we'd be chatting...i'd see them pulling out their phone, and I would just be
That's another thing...even if you get chicks choosing, you have to be confident in yourself and feel worthy of the attention...My head was all jacked up as I was living in a shelter so I couldn't fully fukk with chicks at that point in time...( i eventually stopped giving a fukk though
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I remember some uncle tom ass dude who worked for seattle parks and rec stopped me when I was playing my acoustic talking about "you can't have that here?
"The rules state NO Amplification ...I had to goto work soon so I didn't press the issue, got him eventually to apologize ..but he did some c00n shyt afterwards once again....
do this.
Even if you can't talk to people about it, you can play and entertain them. I've learned how to play several instruments and i'd "prejudge" the type of person and what i thought they would like, play it on the spot, and easily get money from them even though I wasn't doing it for cash. I was doing it to improve at my hobby. I gained so many useful connections doing that, not to mention girls who straight up dropped $20's on me and ended up fukkin me
Yup playing an instrument, singing,rapping,dancing is a cheat code...
Most people...especially women would never dare to put themselves out there in public to do anything...to open themselves up to countless looks, and hate.
And with music you're putting certain energy out there...I remember some german chick said she was crying when she heard my playing, or some OG in a wheelchair smiling and dancing as i'm playing some chords
Such a gift...
Been doing this for years. Thought something was wrong for me for PREFERRING it. I damn near prefer it at this point.
U go out w ur boys.....u gotta babysit them cus their too drunk, or they throw salt in ur game, or they get into a fight. Or u gotta let em know u left the spot w a skank. Then u got a large group of guy friends dancing w each other looking LAME AS fukk. shyt gets old quick. I been hittin up bars & clubs by myself or at the most 1 other person AS A RULE since I was 22. I'm 26 now. I learned that shyt early and my chocha rate has gone up since I've done it.
Lowkey being a lone wolf makes u sexy bold and mysterious to these hoes. Atleast that's how I'm described when I pull this shyt off since most people need their hand held doing stuff.
It's to the point now where I go on vacations by myself. Everyone has excuses, most dudes don't got passports, and a lotta people just don't wanna step out they comfort zones. I've gone to countries dolo and made new friends there off the random that I still hit up. I'm so sick of the excuses people make . If u don't wanna go with me I'll go either way, if u come that's cool. If not? Whatever.
I see it as an adventure. On some story mode on Super Mario 64 type shyt. But I can make friends & connects ANYWHERE. I'm that confident in myself.
Quit being clingy/needy OP. U sound like a woman.
U go out w ur boys.....u gotta babysit them cus their too drunk, or they throw salt in ur game, or they get into a fight. Or u gotta let em know u left the spot w a skank. Then u got a large group of guy friends dancing w each other looking LAME AS fukk. shyt gets old quick. I been hittin up bars & clubs by myself or at the most 1 other person AS A RULE since I was 22. I'm 26 now. I learned that shyt early and my chocha rate has gone up since I've done it.
Lowkey being a lone wolf makes u sexy bold and mysterious to these hoes. Atleast that's how I'm described when I pull this shyt off since most people need their hand held doing stuff.
It's to the point now where I go on vacations by myself. Everyone has excuses, most dudes don't got passports, and a lotta people just don't wanna step out they comfort zones. I've gone to countries dolo and made new friends there off the random that I still hit up. I'm so sick of the excuses people make . If u don't wanna go with me I'll go either way, if u come that's cool. If not? Whatever.
I see it as an adventure. On some story mode on Super Mario 64 type shyt. But I can make friends & connects ANYWHERE. I'm that confident in myself.
Quit being clingy/needy OP. U sound like a woman.