How do y’all handle a messy breakup?

[JA_Carter]

I understand that you still have feelings for your ex & there are some characteristics you're fond of that you don't want to lose, but that "irrational" behavior isn't going to change because it's part of her DNA.

Some people you can't rehab.

Plus, there's really no true "connection" without trust in a committed relationship. What you & your ex seemed to have are mostly commonalities.

Listen to your pride & don't let the fun nostalgia with an unruly woman continue to take you down a dark road of misery & unhappiness.

Appreciate the advice. We’re both in some society and when we started dating a couple of people warned me that she’s crazy, but I had only just recently joined so I said I’ll see for myself. Guess I found out the hard way (pause)

 

[Apprentice]

Especially if you initiated it because trust was broken

Lol honestly fam

It’s either like this, get therapy or reflect on why u think it happened

I wouldn’t run to drugs or “the grind” cuz u gon end up thinkin bout the shyt in your down time

And u can’t talk to her either cuz she not gon tell the truth

Gotta grieve and treat it like a death

 

[Apprentice]

You might be a "fly nikka" for real, but based on some of your prior posts regarding your girlfriend/dealing with women, you're not moving like one.

Being a "fly nikka" isn't about just being physically attractive/good-looking, it's also about having positive self worth as a man.

If you truly have both intact (respectfully), then you shouldn't be pressed about dropping a problematic female who basically betrayed you.

Plenty of wildlife in the sea. Time to start fishing/diving.

Yea bra u was straight before this bytch, u can’t let sex and good memories have u thinkin fond of someone who don’t value your existence the same u do wit them

Bad women have ruined empires, yea she got good qualities I’m sure or u wouldn’t have cuffed; but shyt sounded like it was conditional.

nikkas on here told me the same thing and it was facts, bytch lowkey did u a favor

U could be posting in the divorce thread if she kept the facade up long enough

 

[JA_Carter]

Yea bra u was straight before this bytch, u can’t let sex and good memories have u thinkin fond of someone who don’t value your existence the same u do wit them

Bad women have ruined empires, yea she got good qualities I’m sure or u wouldn’t have cuffed; but shyt sounded like it was conditional.

nikkas on here told me the same thing and it was facts, bytch lowkey did u a favor

U could be posting in the divorce thread if she kept the facade up long enough

Honestly sex is not even a factor in making the breakup hard, it’s just that she was legit my best friend. Never opened up with someone the way I did with her, so the betrayal cut deep.

You’re right though, 9/10 times she was amazing, but she would show signs of a crazy side, and what she did this time was unforgivable. As much as I wanted to continue I knew it would never be the same once the trust is gone. Better to end it now that we’re not married/no kids involved.

Another thing that makes it hard is the society we’re in means we’ve got mutual friends. There’s two events in the next few weeks that we were both planning on attending so it’ll make things awkward.

 

[Apprentice]

Honestly sex is not even a factor in making the breakup hard, it’s just that she was legit my best friend. Never opened up with someone the way I did with her, so the betrayal cut deep.

You’re right though, 9/10 times she was amazing, but she would show signs of a crazy side, but what she did this time was unforgivable. As much as I wanted to continue I knew it would never be the same once the trust is gone. Better to end it now that we’re not married/no kids involved.

Another thing that makes it hard is the society we’re in means we’ve got mutual friends. There’s two events in the next few weeks that we were both planning on attending so it’ll make things awkward.

Not to be intrusive, but could u say what she did?

Would give more context if it’s a good idea to slide to this or not

 

[razassin]

First off,

Make a decision, u really wanna break up or u just fightin to make a point?

If u do wanna break up forreal, block 'em and avoid them, dont engage in shyt with em no mo

U gotta make peace with ur choice n project urself from this point on havin a life without em

Dont put the blame on em, we all humans, just realize things didnt work out n move on in peace

See what u did wrong, n work on that n just be happy with the lesson n how u gonna improve urself

God bless u, hope everything works out for u

 

[JA_Carter]

Not to be intrusive, but could u say what she did?

Would give more context if it’s a good idea to slide to this or not

Can’t specify because she mentioned she used LSA before so chances are she could be here lol but basically she aired out my history with someone unprovoked.

 

[Yas]

@Yas is this a safe place where we can make unfiltered 1992-97 level jokes or RAW Eddie Murphy and Andrew Dice Clay style joke or na?

Make all the (unfunny) jokes you want just know I will be judging you from afar.

 

[Apprentice]

Can’t specify because she mentioned she used LSA before so chances are she could be here lol but basically she aired out my history with someone unprovoked.

Type, I wouldn’t trip too much bout the social events

U gotta mentally block her out, if u gotta get lit at the events for u to do that that’s straight.

But stand on the decision and free her, cuz if u play with your food she not gon take u serious

 

[Bryan Danielson]

Make all the (unfunny) jokes you want just know I will be judging you from afar.

Fair and key thing you said is YOU

Just make sure you keep that same energy across the board. Cuz I’m nothing compared to like 88% of the posters on here

That’s why I said (respectfully) this place may not be for you

 

[Yas]

Fair and key thing you said is YOU

Just make sure you keep that same energy across the board. Cuz I’m nothing compared to like 88% of the posters on here

That’s why I said (respectfully) this place may not be for you

Just because I don't joke about murdering innocent woman doesn't mean something isn't for me. Fyi the joke wasn't even funny

 

[Sleepy Floyd]

Lol it had nothing to do with cheating, just airing out my secrets to someone after an argument

It's over, you can't trust her and she doesn't respect you

Being in the same social circle isn't a problem, just do you

She gonna be fukking someone new in the social circle within a week whether you know it or not, so you might as well get over her quick

 

[Bryan Danielson]

Just because I don't joke about murdering innocent woman doesn't mean something isn't for me. Fyi the joke wasn't even funny

Then you need to take up your issue with the people that did laugh and not me

Again, that was nothing in comparison to what’s said on here on a daily basis and you the one looking into it deeper than it needs

#ColiAintForTheFaintOfHeart

 

[Suge Knight]

Trust, loyalty don't mean anything to people.

At the end of the day, life goes on. Time to be free of bs and drama, and focus on you. Many go into demon time and get caught back in a trap they avoided because they had someone.

 

[africngiant]

you’ll never be the same just channel it into productive things. avenge yourself from these fukk nikkas and bytches in a healthy, consistent way and you’ll surpass most of them and realize how average they were/are anyway