how do yall handle gay people hitting on you?

[krisdave]

I can tell the ugly ones in here already

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

"I bet you get mad bytches "

shyt is always weird..especially coming from dudes you don't know.

Nothing pisses me off more than gay dudes who felt entitled to you..

Walking by a group of them and some bytches and didn't make eye contact with any of them...

All I hear is "who the fukk he think he is? "



But you gotta realize gay men are men with extra feminine energy, so they get just like women when they're attracted to you...

They get extra,borderline creepy(yall ever have a chick just creeping around hoping you speak to her )

The slight differences are they're still men so they don't be passive like women, and they'll have that man aggression and won't give up easily like women...

Women when they throw it at you they'll give you a certain amount of time to jumpdown..then when you don't they lose attraction quick, get mad and will turn to ignoring you or if you see them on a daily basis like co-workers, they'll even troll and do disrespectful shyt.

 

[⠀X ⠀]

Only happened once. I just never went back to Fire Island

 

[Tryna Makit]

I used to get mad as a kid, fought a childhood friend for coming out to me...all of it was just based on the fact that Gay dudes and older women were the first ones to be into me as youth.....in hindsight i just think they recognized early on i would grow up to be GQ asf lol

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

Lot of suspect negus out here. Gay men can usually tell who is gay, you might be putting out them vibes if they hitting on you

 

[Dont@Me]

Damn. Why do you hate it? I find it funny and interesting, esp because you just never know who is going to be attracted to you. That's the fun part for me...someone you wouldn't expect giving you signals. I can understand though if you feel under pressure when everyone is staring, especially if you're trying to blend in and mind your own business.

i hate it because I dislike vain attention that serves the ego in a non-productive manner it's just not me.
I also had a lot of experiences with haters and racism and I don't know what someone is thinking when they are looking at me. Not sure if they have ill intent or are adoring me from afar. but I've had times where strangers (guys) were staring at me, i'd give em a head nod, they wouldn't respond and just keep staring at me. That pisses me off and I have no idea how to read them or their intent. Are you awestruck or do you fukkin hate me?
Also, I just like to stay to myself and remain incognito (impossible). I'm a bit of a misanthrope and it takes a really conscious person to spark my interest which seems rare to find these days, so I pretty much avoid social interaction unless I absolutely have to (however, I'm extremely intelligent with social skills and charming and love socializing, but only with intelligent people...but I "play the game" with small talk when i have to).
As an introvert, my inner world and imagination is usually poppin enough to not crave attention from others unless it's for something that i'm doing (not on me directly myself).

I'm not surprised by who gives me signals anymore though.

#metooformen
Sometimes it is borderline harassment. I've known some guys that had to deal with this. Creepy stuff. I get grossed out by the allegedly straight male guys acting like groupies around good looking male celebs.

borderline ? call it like it is... it IS harassment.

 

[ColdSlither]

I just say thanks for the compliment and keep it moving. I’m not going to feel offended or anything.

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

#metooformen
Sometimes it is borderline harassment. I've known some guys that had to deal with this. Creepy stuff. I get grossed out by the allegedly straight male guys acting like groupies around good looking male celebs.

I had a really fukked up experience on Thanksgiving that made me forever sympathize with #metoo. Hung out with this older black dude on Thanksgiving. We start eating and this nikka starts talking about sharing girls and about being careful about certain "types " of people I meet while I'm out. I'm sitting here like what kind? He refuses to answer and says he's not gonna spell it out for me . Then he started insulting me, talking about I don't pay attention to what other people are doing while out at the bar (we hang at the same places). I'm like nikka I'm only out to talk to women and think/drink . So anyways the conversation was going all over, and I finally accepted that this nikka was gay as hell and was trying to allude to it with the fear of me going off on him. I swear, I'm sitting there trying to figure out what this nikka's motives are, bc now I'm thinking he's trying to keep me there for a reason , and I'm looking at this nikka like , and he goes "you're trying to figure me out, shyt I'm trying to figure you out " that shyt scared the fukk outta me man. I told him I wasn't trying to figure out shyt. Then I get up to leave after eating and he's asking me where I was going (I really had p*ssy lined up), and then nikka says, and I quote, "Hey, before you leave let me give you a tour...but first I have to make the bed . Man I got up out there fast as shyt. I never texted him or hung out with him again. It wasn't the regular gay dude trying to hit on you. It was more a guy who was obsessed with me. I swear to God I thought that nikka was going to stick me up and rape me like pulp fiction. I never ever felt so creeped out in my life. After that I knew exactly what women go through.

I saw dude like a month later, right before Christmas. I go to the bar to see my friends. I go outside, come back in and this nikka isiat the bar staring dead in my face. Almost like he scoped me out when I went outside without me knowing. So he waves me over and then starts talking about i should have told him I didn't like the food and blah blah blah...trying to guilt trip me for not hanging out. nikka I respond and then tell him I'm going home. He was like "where you going? " He kept talking and i literally got up and walked out. I go across the street to another place to get food and sober up. Not even 5 minutes into eating someone behind me says "oh you got food?! Good cause you're drunk man." I look up and it's that nikka I pretended to go to the bathroom and snuck out the back.

Now I know nikkas are going to say I should have knuckled up, but here man you don't know who is packing. Concealed carry is big here and people aren't about fist fighting. Anyways I haven't seen that nikka in months. I swear I was scared as hell that this nikka was gonna pulp fiction me . I will never diss a woman about metoo ever again. I felt like my experience is what girls go through often.

i hate it because I dislike vain attention that serves the ego in a non-productive manner it's just not me.
I also had a lot of experiences with haters and racism and I don't know what someone is thinking when they are looking at me. Not sure if they have ill intent or are adoring me from afar. but I've had times where strangers (guys) were staring at me, i'd give em a head nod, they wouldn't respond and just keep staring at me. That pisses me off and I have no idea how to read them or their intent. Are you awestruck or do you fukkin hate me?
Also, I just like to stay to myself and remain incognito (impossible). I'm a bit of a misanthrope and it takes a really conscious person to spark my interest which seems rare to find these days, so I pretty much avoid social interaction unless I absolutely have to (however, I'm extremely intelligent with social skills and charming and love socializing, but only with intelligent people...but I "play the game" with small talk when i have to).
As an introvert, my inner world and imagination is usually poppin enough to not crave attention from others unless it's for something that i'm doing (not on me directly myself).

I'm not surprised by who gives me signals anymore though. borderline ? call it like it is... it IS harassment.

Oh so your negative experiences have left to that. That's understandable. When I say surprised, I'm talking some maga looling bytch I wouldn't ever talk to giving me the . Or a geriatric gilf who won't stop staring at my lips while we are talking

 

[Dont@Me]

I had a really fukked up experience on Thanksgiving that made me forever sympathize with #metoo. Hung out with this older black dude on Thanksgiving. We start eating and this nikka starts talking about sharing girls and about being careful about certain "types " of people I meet while I'm out. I'm sitting here like what kind? He refuses to answer and says he's not gonna spell it out for me . Then he started insulting me, talking about I don't pay attention to what other people are doing while out at the bar (we hang at the same places). I'm like nikka I'm only out to talk to women and think/drink . So anyways the conversation was going all over, and I finally accepted that this nikka was gay as hell and was trying to allude to it with the fear of me going off on him. I swear, I'm sitting there trying to figure out what this nikka's motives are, bc now I'm thinking he's trying to keep me there for a reason , and I'm looking at this nikka like , and he goes "you're trying to figure me out, shyt I'm trying to figure you out " that shyt scared the fukk outta me man. I told him I wasn't trying to figure out shyt. Then I get up to leave after eating and he's asking me where I was going (I really had p*ssy lined up), and then nikka says, and I quote, "Hey, before you leave let me give you a tour...but first I have to make the bed . Man I got up out there fast as shyt. I never texted him or hung out with him again. It wasn't the regular gay dude trying to hit on you. It was more a guy who was obsessed with me. I swear to God I thought that nikka was going to stick me up and rape me like pulp fiction. I never ever felt so creeped out in my life. After that I knew exactly what women go through.

I saw dude like a month later, right before Christmas. I go to the bar to see my friends. I go outside, come back in and this nikka isiat the bar staring dead in my face. Almost like he scoped me out when I went outside without me knowing. So he waves me over and then starts talking about i should have told him I didn't like the food and blah blah blah...trying to guilt trip me for not hanging out. nikka I respond and then tell him I'm going home. He was like "where you going? " He kept talking and i literally got up and walked out. I go across the street to another place to get food and sober up. Not even 5 minutes into eating someone behind me says "oh you got food?! Good cause you're drunk man." I look up and it's that nikka I pretended to go to the bathroom and snuck out the back.

Now I know nikkas are going to say I should have knuckled up, but here man you don't know who is packing. Concealed carry is big here and people aren't about fist fighting. Anyways I haven't seen that nikka in months. I swear I was scared as hell that this nikka was gonna pulp fiction me . I will never diss a woman about metoo ever again. I felt like my experience is what girls go through often.


Oh so your negative experiences have left to that. That's understandable. When I say surprised, I'm talking some maga looling bytch I wouldn't ever talk to giving me the . Or a geriatric gilf who won't stop staring at my lips while we are talking

that's too much figurin out n shyt

I hate those situations though. Eventually I would've told him I just wanted to be alone and don't want to be bothered. If he kept pressin me, I'd be like "look, i don't know what you're into and I don't care because it's none of my business, but I don't think we're on the same page ". There really is a tactful way of goin about these situations without offending and escalating, but it can be difficult in the moment.

Me bein like that is a combination of negative experiences and I just gave up on meeting new people in my area because the vast majority of them are shallow and ignorant . Not implying i'm better than them at all, I just don't like to invest my energy into a relationship (whether friendship, or sexual relationship) only to find out how vain, empty-headed the person, and/or racist (i live in a white ass town. If there were more black people I'd definitely be more social) a person is and get let down and disappointed. I just entertain my hobbies and people usually come to me anyway, but I've seriously stopped caring (no malice, just apathetic).

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

that's too much figurin out n shyt

I hate those situations though. Eventually I would've told him I just wanted to be alone and don't want to be bothered. If he kept pressin me, I'd be like "look, i don't know what you're into and I don't care because it's none of my business, but I don't think we're on the same page ". There really is a tactful way of goin about these situations without offending and escalating, but it can be difficult in the moment.

Me bein like that is a combination of negative experiences and I just gave up on meeting new people in my area because the vast majority of them are shallow and ignorant . Not implying i'm better than them at all, I just don't like to invest my energy into a relationship (whether friendship, or sexual relationship) only to find out how vain, empty-headed the person, and/or racist (i live in a white ass town. If there were more black people I'd definitely be more social) a person is and get let down and disappointed. I just entertain my hobbies and people usually come to me anyway, but I've seriously stopped caring (no malice, just apathetic).

Damn dude, how old are you? Where do you live? You sound jaded as hell haha

 

[Geek Nasty]

Say “i’m not a homosexual” just like that. Etherous and no legal problems at the same time.

 

[murksiderock]

This thread is funny and revealing at the same time....

I always said that dudes who attract gay guys like women, are sus, downlow, confused, or afraid to live they truth. Like someone just said, okay if it happens a couple times, sure, but nikkas who say this shyt happens to them often?

Not buying your heterosexuality bruh, and apparently the gay dudes don't, either, otherwise so many of them wouldn't be jumping on you. I have a trans sister (meaning she was born as my brother). Gay dudes don't just run down on cats they know are straight. That literally happens like less than 1% of the time. They may me misguided in they gaydar, so then you set an straight, but most of the time something has given them the reason to believe a nikka into that shyt...

I had a co-worker a few years back who always got hit on by gay customers. He was a regular white dude who appears straight, but dudes came on to him like 3-4 times when I worked with him. Then he told me a story how he met a guy and his girl somewhere, hung out with them, and they would all text from time to time. Him and dude hung out as his crib playing video games one time and long story short, dude leaned in to kiss him. He said he ducked it and made dude leave his house, and afterwards dude kept calling telling him not to out him to his girl and mutual friends...

For the record, half the gay dudes hitting on white boy were black, and to be fair alot of women hit on white boy too. I also saw Black MILFs hit on him, I saw him take a black girls number in front of her man one time, etc. Dude would be considered attractive, he the kind of young Hollywood-type white guy alota women find attractive, so I want to be fair to illustrate women were on dude too...

But the point is he had almost as much attention from gay men as women. That shyt was abnormal and I just told him to check himself, though he denied he was gay. But he got white boy humor, so he made wisecracks like a white boy that sound sus to brothers...

 

[murksiderock]

I never had a gay dude outright try it. The closest I think is I was in Richmond VA a few years back and I used to sell drugs to this one nikka in his mid-30s who was gay as hell. Homeboy was a custi, so it didn't matter, and he was a good buyer. I'd go to his house to drop off and once, he invited me to have a drink and stay. I declined, and I felt uncomfortable leaving the place, cause I was like this nikka tried me...

Gay people don't make me uncomfortable, like I said my sis is trans/born male. Dude was a good conversationalist, so I think he just got comfortable after awhile and pushed his boundaries...

I still dealt with dude after that but he never tried nothing else, it was all business. I remember my homeboy went with me to sell him some shyt a few times, he was clearly shook of my homeboy (who had a more intimidating appearance and more aggressive personality), and when we left my dog was like bro that nikka act like he got a crush on you...

But like I said, in my experience (30 this summer), gay dudes not pressing if you shut it down and not giving off the vibe. I left Richmond and the dude hit me on Facebook out the blue a year later, saying he hope I do well and be safe, like four messages. Then he asked me if I was still in Richmond and that he had bigger money to spend if I was trying to come up that way. I hadn't dealt to dude in a year and he came with this weird Facebook shyt, so I just deleted him as a Facebook friend...

That's the closest I think I had any gay dude shooting at me...

 

[Luken]