How do YOU get over a breakup?

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Girl I've been with for a year just dumped me. bytch says she still wants to talk to me as a friend:trash:. Feeling pretty shytty and I want to get this feeling out of my head ASAP. I'm depressed as hell and extremely angry rn and don't have motivation to do anything.

Help a brother out and tell me what you do to get over this shyt. Where do you find new women?? Thank you.

man stop it. u out here stressing over a woman u was only with a year.

try being with someone over a decade and having to deal with divorce and kids, finance and logistics. now that'll stress u.

what u are describing sounds like puppy love.
 

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Broke up with my gf of 2 years like 3months ago. She completely cut me off and never spoke to me again. We had all sorts of plans, kids ,getting married. shyt i let myself believe in them and was involved. I was heartbroken like crazy, blaming myself every single day. I would text her, I even sent her apologies, she never replied. When before she was always the one in the relationship begging me to never leave her and all that… That’s when it hit me like a brick that damn bro I’m better than that. I’m a man with pride, you don’t do shyt like that.:scusthov:

Time heals for sure. It took maybe two months before I was able to talk to other women without comparing them to her or even reminiscing and all that. Don’t look for a relationship. I was reading a lot of books, playing ps5 and then started going out as well. Now I feel kind of free, I got a new job and doubled my salary, I’m able to go on dates, bring chicks to my place, have fun, and my ex is no longer on my mind. Ofc i do think about her at random times every day but the thoughts do not come with emotions anymore. Snapchat even showed me some memories of us:russ:. I looked at the video like damn this chick was all over me, all smiling, happy to be my girl and shyt then went on with my day. When emotions are out the picture you start to remember you were the man at one point so you’ll be good my G.
shyt I'm a man with pride, you don't do shyt like that
You don't just pick up and leave and leave me sick like that
You don't throw away what we had, just like that
I was just fukkin them girls, I was gon' get right back
:mjgrin:
 

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Time is the only thing that heals a break up. Not new p*ssy, not the gym, and not confidence boosts. Just be ok with being sad, live your life and with time you'll get over it. Its ok to be sad or disappointed, everyone has emotions. It's how humans are wired.
 

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Girl I've been with for a year just dumped me. bytch says she still wants to talk to me as a friend:trash:. Feeling pretty shytty and I want to get this feeling out of my head ASAP. I'm depressed as hell and extremely angry rn and don't have motivation to do anything.

Help a brother out and tell me what you do to get over this shyt. Where do you find new women?? Thank you.
:mjlol: fukk that being friends shyt. Woman are selfish, she wants you to be available to her for as long as she needs to get over the break up and will disappear afterwards without giving a single fukk about how you feel:camby:Be cordial when she hits you up but keep interaction short. Don't meet up with her or waste hours texting or talking on the phone in hopes of winning her back. If she wants to get back together, she needs to make that explicit, otherwise :camby:And even if she does, think hard if you really want her back, because the relationship would probably not be what it was before. If you feel that staying in contact is not good for you because it prevents you from getting over her, tell her you don't think it's a good idea and that you prefer a clean break.
As far as meeting new woman goes, I don't know if that's really going to help you while you're still attached to your ex. In my experience, it's better to get over a breakup before you start dating again, otherwise things can quickly go messy :yeshrug: Hang out with your friends, go to the gym or find something else to keep you focused and take your mind off of your ex.
 

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Girl I've been with for a year just dumped me. bytch says she still wants to talk to me as a friend:trash:. Feeling pretty shytty and I want to get this feeling out of my head ASAP. I'm depressed as hell and extremely angry rn and don't have motivation to do anything.

Help a brother out and tell me what you do to get over this shyt. Where do you find new women?? Thank you.
Time nikka... just time

edit: feel how you feel now about the situation , don’t do anything “crazy” accept it for what it is. Let that feeling sit for as long as it wants accept it, look at it from an outside looking in perspective. You’re not the way you feel, keep living your life and than just let time do it’s job. Don’t force yourself to meet new women just “get over it” it’s going to take you learning how to deal with this “trauma” you’re feeling but you’ll be alright nikka
 

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Girl I've been with for a year just dumped me. bytch says she still wants to talk to me as a friend:trash:. Feeling pretty shytty and I want to get this feeling out of my head ASAP. I'm depressed as hell and extremely angry rn and don't have motivation to do anything.

Help a brother out and tell me what you do to get over this shyt. Where do you find new women?? Thank you.
Fitness - gets testosterone up and improves your physical appearance.

Sunlight - lack of sunlight assists in depression. You need at least 15 whole minutes to start absorbing.

Hobbies - productive relaxing and takes your mind off your problems

Rebounds - social, relaxing and takes your mind off your problems.

Be serious about all 4 and you should be ok. Wanting someone who don't want you is a huge waste of time. As a man, trying to reinvent yourself to make someone who don't want you want you, is pointless.

Take the L and find one who thinks your Gods gift to the planet. Anything less is pain. (Crucial) When you waste energy for half ass loyalty you will suffer.
 
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Girl I've been with for a year just dumped me. bytch says she still wants to talk to me as a friend:trash:.

She’s keeping you as dikk-in-jar in case her new prospects kick the bucket :coffee:

Feeling pretty shytty and I want to get this feeling out of my head ASAP. I'm depressed as hell and extremely angry rn and don't have motivation to do anything.

Naturally.

Help a brother out and tell me what you do to get over this shyt. Where do you find new women?? Thank you.

In the gym.

Endorphins are the only thing that’s gonna stop you from obsessing over what shoulda coulda woulda been said/done.

Once you start putting your energy back into yourself chicks will naturally sniff you out.

Women like a busy man.
 
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Easy have an abundance mindset

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First thing is to don't be friends with her. That's her way of getting all the boyfriend benefits, without fukking you. Tell her straight up that you are not interested in being friends and cut her off. It's important that you tell her that. Second, time. Take time for yourself, go to the gym, talk to other women. In other words, just continue living your life.
 

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OP..

Remember this....

"An idle mind is the devil's workshop!"

Keep yourself mind occupied by taking on extra hours at work as well as take yourself to the gym and work out, run or engage in any type or physical activities/exercise to get ya body and mind right.

Also, getting with other women should be the least of your concern at this point...

Point is...

The best way to get over someone is to become proactive in making changes in your life. Also, your new ex probably did you a favor.

Better to go through this now than later when things could have been worse. She felt the need to move on, so you should do the same. Her loss and some other woman's gain down the line.

You will be alright!

Stay strong!
 
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