How do you nicely tell people you don't fukk with anymore...you dont fukk with them anymore?

[Coco Loco]

how did you have that conversation with them?

I think I've only had it with one person and we both understood. We've been friends since I was 16 and he was 17. We used to talk like every day and do almost everything together. In our 20's in waned a bit, in our 30's we literally found our own lanes. Fast Forward to now and we barely talk or see each other. I still love him like a brother but we aren't in the same place and that's fine. His niece is having a baby in a few months, I know when we see each other it'll be like old times


The others I just stopped coming around/gave minimal interaction, they got the hint or thought wow she has a lot going on, let me fall back

 

[Brock Landers]

Silence says the most

 

[QuintessentialMan]

RADIO SILENCE

MAINTAIN IT

THEY WILL GET THE MESSAGE EVENTUALLY

Now. I have a similar problem but mine is worse. Mine is family dawg. How do you tell family to leave you be man. I love them respectfully but i just dont fukk with them. They dont get it. I dont call or come over becasue I dont want to. Please stop making me feel guilty because I dont want to hang out with you. I love you too. fukk off please though...... No,we're good. Just. I dont want to be round you like that. Cant you understand?

 

[International Playa]

Ghost them

FB & IG got ignore privacy settings

 

[Budda]

Distance yourself don’t pick up calls, if you do make it short, take long to answer to messages etc, or keep everything on social media.

 

[Mindfield333]

I’m gonna keep it real with you OP… I don’t think it’s that serious because we all know or have people that we don’t relate to as we grow older. Typically you just ignore them and they’ll get the hint .

The only way I could see the situation being that serious is if the people involved are tied to some type of traumatic situation you witnessed or was a part of. And their contact serves as a reminder of it. This could’ve been either a or type situation so Id understand the emotional response to these ppl.

 

[sayyestothis]

I just ignore their texts...

Imean if someone keeps contacting u over and over via text when the whole world is constantly in their phone and u don't respond it does the trick breh...

 

[King Poetic]

Why say anything at all

there’s plenty of old people who might say what’s up it’s been a long time and next thing u know we stopped saying anything to each other

 

[hatealot]

Deep down inside OP you feel good you can do this. You are seeking validation from this site. I wouldn't know why you would even post this unless there's another reason. You are gloating that you can move on.

You have some deep rooted insecurities.

 

[Mowgli]

Cowards

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Send them this video then block them after.

they’ll get the clue sooner or later.

 

[SadimirPutin]

do you have to tell them? I think your actions will convey the message

 

[karim]

Thanks for the responses.
I even talked to my dad about this because these people are people that I knew when I was little all the way up until my twenties. but now at almost 38 my life is completely different and there is nothing we have to talk about anymore.

I used to have this friend I knew for almost 25 years....over the years qe had our difference but as time went, i was noticing some fukk shyt about the dude that made me not want to be associated with him anymore.

then one day he texted me while at work a Darryl Strawberry meme...and I responded ny texting him "lose my number and never talk to me again". At that point I was just thinking about the foul shyt he did and I was disgusted he thought he could just text me some funny joke and think I would forget it.

That was 6 years ago this year.

And then in 2020 another friend of mine from back in the day calls me that I knew from high school. I even went to his wedding. We catch up then he tells me this former friend is getting married and wanted to have some "Hangover" style Bachelor party in Vegas.

I didn't tell him I told him off 4 years prior and havent seen him since 2015.

So then, i just stopped talking to him and then he sends me an annoying ass birthday message last year.

I told him in text to leave me alone and never talk to me again too...because he was so just dumbfounded to not even realize I wasn't even cool with him...so I cant fukk with this dude on GP. I cursed him out and lost it.

It sounds terrible...but I hate when People try to place themselves when they don't beling there anymore.

I just changed so much since high school and they still wanted me to be the same person. I found it insulting.

You seem like a really weird person. Being upset at people following you on instagram and cursing them out for sending you a birthday message or a meme as a 38 year old grown ass adult you sound like a teenage girl.
If you feel this strongly about it, set your profile to private and don't respond to their text
If I stop fukking with people, I just stop fukking with them, I don't get emotional over someone saying hello.

 

[Mindfield333]

You seem like a really weird person. Being upset at people following you on instagram and cursing them out for sending you a birthday message or a meme as a 38 year old grown ass adult you sound like a teenage girl.
If you feel this strongly about it, set your profile to private and don't respond to their text
If I stop fukking with people, I just stop fukking with them, I don't get emotional over someone saying hello.

Dang, dude older than me lol. I must’ve skimmed over the age. They gotta be tied to something traumatic bc otherwise I really don’t get the over the top reaction lol.

 

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Ok… putting 2 and 2 together…It’s been a while since Ive been on the coli… getting used to the names again… I was wondering why you were so adamant about cutting them off… I can see why…

Glad you have made some positive changes… won’t he do it