How do you nicely tell people you don't fukk with anymore...you dont fukk with them anymore?

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Alright coli, I got to keep it real....there are some people from my high school and college years I havent talked to in years...that I don't fukk with anymore and now they're following me on Instagram thinking that we cool still.

The reason Im on Instagram is cause I deleted my facebook cause I was sick of high school and college people following me...
:snoop:

How do I tell them..."stop fukking contacting me" and We ain't cool...without feeling like a dikkhead about it?

After I graduated college ten years ago Im just so removed from that emvironment that Im actually annoyed that they're contacting me like we're cool still when I already peeped game a while ago and cut the dead weight.

I don't even understand why they want to catch up...there's nothing to catch up with. I moved on with my life and we have nothing in common anymore. I figured they would get the point when I didnt talk to them for years...
:yeshrug:
breh

I ignore friend requests and always keep my circles small. don't care about follower counts. only got quality people I fukk with. even if they are family.
 

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I recently went thru this with my former best friend. We stopped kicking it years ago. Reconnected during the pandemic. And now I see why we stopped being boys.

It really doesn’t matter how you let it go. Just do it and move on with your life.
 

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RADIO SILENCE

MAINTAIN IT

THEY WILL GET THE MESSAGE EVENTUALLY

Now. I have a similar problem but mine is worse. Mine is family dawg. How do you tell family to leave you be man. I love them respectfully but i just dont fukk with them. They dont get it.:snoop: I dont call or come over becasue I dont want to. Please stop making me feel guilty because I dont want to hang out with you. I love you too. fukk off please though...... No,we're good. Just. I dont want to be round you like that. Cant you understand?:dahell:


This shyt is like me and one of my cousins to the letter. Like gahdamn nikka go get a hobby :hhh:
 

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Those of y’all saying just ignore them not completely correct

I did the same thing, ignored calls, constantly dubbing him every time we supposed to meet up. Son was on some weirdo shyt, popped up at my crib when I ain’t even give him my address after we ain’t speak in months tombout he deleted my # because he was in his feelings I didn’t wake up at 6 am to do a favor for him and wanted my # again. Over those months we ain’t speak he emailed and I ignored that too.

Finally got rid of him but not everybody gets the hint of just ignoring them.
 

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You seem like a really weird person. Being upset at people following you on instagram and cursing them out for sending you a birthday message or a meme as a 38 year old grown ass adult :gucci: you sound like a teenage girl.
If you feel this strongly about it, set your profile to private and don't respond to their text :yeshrug:
If I stop fukking with people, I just stop fukking with them, I don't get emotional over someone saying hello.
Bro mad at people trying to connect with him on platforms labeled SOCIAL media :gucci:
 

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I'm in the same boat but mine are ex co-workers. I'm usually good at ignoring people i don't want to deal with anymore but some are persistent. They start asking mutual acquaintances if they've heard from me which triggers text messages from random people asking me if I'm okay.. Since I'm not trying to ghost everyone I end up replying to all of them eventually.. and the cycle continues.
 

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Bro mad at people trying to connect with him on platforms labeled SOCIAL media :gucci:
Because he didn't like himself when they used to hang out together :mjtf: like how the fukk is it their fault that you didn't like yourself and how are they supposed to know that you didn't like yourself :what:
 

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Men dont usually go thru shyt like this. If a dude is popping up at ya crib unannounced like a chick is son really ya friend :dame:.
 

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Alright coli, I got to keep it real....there are some people from my high school and college years I havent talked to in years...that I don't fukk with anymore and now they're following me on Instagram thinking that we cool still.

The reason Im on Instagram is cause I deleted my facebook cause I was sick of high school and college people following me...
:snoop:

How do I tell them..."stop fukking contacting me" and We ain't cool...without feeling like a dikkhead about it?

After I graduated college ten years ago Im just so removed from that emvironment that Im actually annoyed that they're contacting me like we're cool still when I already peeped game a while ago and cut the dead weight.

I don't even understand why they want to catch up...there's nothing to catch up with. I moved on with my life and we have nothing in common anymore. I figured they would get the point when I didnt talk to them for years...
:yeshrug:
I know Im probably going to hurt their feelings...but I just got to let them know we done formally so there's no mistake in intent or interpretation.

I guess I feel strongly...cause I used to be a nerd an outcast and i didnt like myself back in the day and I like myself more now.. i was not the suave man I am now. And these people...still want to see me as that person I was years ago...10 years ago....20 years ago...when I changed.

Its insulting. Especially considering how small those eras of your life are compared to the rest of it

High school was 4 years of my life...but these people still want me to be the goofy black nerd and comic relief for them that I was in high school and in college that over a decade behind me.

If that makes sense.:manny:
This is clearly a YOU problem and a self esteem issue that YOU have.

You start off in the OP saying you deleted previous social media to get rid of people. You're tired of them contacting you like you're still cool. You don't understand why they want to catch up. You have nothing in common. It's been 10 years. They should have got the point.....

It's taken you 10 years to find a way to express these feelings? You had to delete your page and create a new one, instead of just talking to these people? People who you haven't mentioned one bad thing about. Just that they don't have anything in common. How you would know if you don't talk to them.... I don't know.. But ok..


Then you explain further.. You think it's going to hurt their feelings? Why? Why are you so important, that someone who hasn't talked to them in 10 years, is suddenly going to hurt them? Hurt them so bad, that you will hurt yourself for 10 years, wondering how to get rid of them in a nice way.

Then I have to wonder, why would these people want to talk to, catch up with, and hang with some guy they felt was a nerd outcast 10-20 years ago? Who sits around wondering where that nerdy kid from college is, who they didn't like and never hung with? So were they "people you fukked with" or were you a nerdy outcast loser to them?



It doesn't add up. What does add up is you had a group of friends back then. YOU felt they weren't the people you should be hanging with. Maybe they were other nerdy outcast losers like YOU. And you changed and now you gassed on yourself. You want to delete that old memory of yourself so you delete your pages. You debut a new page, new you. fukk those people who used to know me. Who tolerated me cause I was a nerd..... cause they must have, cause that's what I did to them. fukk catching up... fukk introducing them to the new me and seeing if they still love me. fukk meeting the new adult them. fukk people I had to fukk with cause I had nobody else. fukk just telling them the truth.. Ghost them.. I'm suave now.. How dare they "insult" me bout memories of good times when I was a loser. How can I get them away from me forever but without actually telling them why, cause I have no valid reason. How can I get them to still love me yet don't talk to me, so I can keep feeding my ego.

Let me ask the Coli. They'll know






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